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bleak. i guess there's some hope because she's asking?
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She sounds black
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For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I alway...
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mustard native gaming laptop
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based on the op, it seems the problem is already solved.
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:20 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

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Chanelgirl09876

How to be less lawyer like outside of work?

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I have been told by countless people that I talk and communicate like an attorney and it's intimidating and annoying. Does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you get better?

I'm not even a litigator. I do corporate transactional work. Everyday I read and draft contracts where every single word has meaning. I admit I used to be more adversarial but I have gotten a lot better at being more collaborative with opposing counsels.

My problem isn't with opposing counsels. My problem is the regular people in my life. For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.

And the worst person to talk to is my 13 year old daughter who is me on steroid. She is incredibly smart and will argue with me about everything using logic and my past words and actions against me and why I don't make sense or why I am a hypocrite. So sometimes I find myself getting into these arguments with her and it's really hard for me to back down.

I have one attorney friend who calls me out constantly and laughs and tells me I am talking like a lawyer again and she can see how I can be intimidating to a regular person. But she talks just like me.

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:19 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

https://www.reddit.com/r/Lawyertalk/s/OWkLiUz0fq

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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:29 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:32 PM
Author: sick cruel-hearted wagecucks

bleak. i guess there's some hope because she's asking?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49349670)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

ljl

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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49349678)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49349679)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49349680)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 11:47 AM
Author: Federal location



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:37 PM
Author: startled church

She sounds black

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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:39 PM
Author: Carnelian Weed Whacker

For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.

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*has sex with husband once a year*

*he claims they "never" have sex*

*she begins laying out detailed evidence explaining why he is factually incorrect*

wonder why she's divorced



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49349704)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:19 PM
Author: mustard native gaming laptop



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Date: October 15th, 2025 10:05 AM
Author: boyish anal library crotch

based on the op, it seems the problem is already solved.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49350364)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:13 PM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM
Author: citrine thriller dilemma coffee pot

Earlier today, my wife told me her friend didn't "get any sleep at all the last two nights" because she was up with her sick daughter. I said that's ridiculous, she probably just slept less than usual, and my wife was not happy about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49354375)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:13 PM
Author: Vengeful adventurous mediation

sounds asian

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Date: October 18th, 2025 9:39 AM
Author: Hairraiser philosopher-king newt



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:14 PM
Author: razzle doobsian fortuitous meteor

I think I’ve met more divorced and never married women lawyers than I have married ones

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2)#49354456)