By Ma Xiaonian

In Your 20s and 30s: Add More Foreplay and Be More Patient

Case Study: 25-year-old Xiaomei and her husband have been childhood sweethearts for years, never crossing the line. On their wedding night, after seeing off the last guests, their years of pent-up passion suddenly erupted. Unexpectedly, before Xiaomei could even get into the mood, her husband couldn't contain himself and ran the entire course alone. Xiaomei complained a bit, but she was too embarrassed to say anything.

Sex Prescription: Sex for those in their 20s and 30s should focus more on arousing the woman. Before sex, get to know each other better. The husband should provide ample foreplay to stimulate his wife, be considerate and accommodating, and avoid rough movements. The husband should be patient and learn to work with non-sexual areas, such as the neck, cheeks, and arms. Mentally, remember that there's still time to improve the quality of sex. At the same time, wives should actively explore their own erogenous zones, share their sexual experiences with their husbands, and send them the right signals.

30-40 Years: Change Up, Improve Quality

Case Study: Mr. Sun, a salesperson, is a workaholic. He dreams of earning enough for retirement before he turns 40. To this end, he works 15 hours a day, six days a week. Gradually, his wife begins to resent him. Mr. Sun is puzzled: When they first got married, he was the one who pursued intimacy with his wife, so why is it the other way around now?

Sex Prescription: At this age, the sexual desire of men and women begins to reverse. After years of marriage, couples have established intimacy and trust, which can enhance the quality of sex. To elevate sex at this age, wives should take the initiative based on their husbands' reactions and cues. For example, a wife could wear sexy pajamas, casually move around in front of her husband, and then gently caress his neck, arms, shoulder blades, and spine. Research shows that nerves near the male spine directly transmit stimulation to the sexual organs. 40-50 Years Old: Talk about Love. Express Concerns

Case Study: Mrs. Zheng, who just celebrated her 47th birthday, described her married life this way: "At this age, I can finally let go of all my mental burdens and clearly know what I want and how to get it. But the reality is, either my partner falls asleep while I'm feeling passionate, or my body goes on strike when I'm at my most passionate."

Sex Prescription: There are many different ways to have sex. Couples in this age group are encouraged to use sweet talk, gentle touches, and passionate kisses to achieve sexual pleasure. Couples can also use various sexual enhancement techniques and tools as needed. Furthermore, in a quiet and private setting, openly discuss your sexual needs and desires with your partner, and honestly express any sexual concerns. With proper communication, any potential sexual issues can be effectively resolved.

50-60 Years Old: Embrace and caress to maintain passion

Case Study: Two days ago, Mr. Cai and his wife celebrated their silver wedding anniversary. But he felt a little regretful. That night, Mr. Cai suggested he and his wife make love, but was rebuffed: "I don't have that idea anymore. It's not that interesting anymore."

Sex Prescription: The partner who often avoids sex should take the initiative. Sex is a skill; with practice, it becomes more and more proficient. Sex at this age does have its share of awkward moments. For example, women entering menopause are prone to vaginal dryness, so it's important to have lubricant on hand. Men with erectile dysfunction can be improved with oral medication.

It's important to note that sex after age 50 shouldn't be measured solely by orgasm and pleasure. Instead, it should allow both partners to experience the vitality and exuberance of sex, reminiscing about the romance and intimacy of youth.

After age 60: Increase frequency and bring back vitality.

Case Study: Mr. Shen, 65, and his wife rarely engage in intimate contact. One night, they reminisced about their youth. Aroused, Mr. Shen embraced and caressed his wife. Soon, he felt a surge of warmth in his heart, and long-lost desire returned. Sex Prescription: Elderly people should understand that moderate sexual stimulation can regulate the brain's nervous system and enhance the body's adaptability. It can also boost their self-confidence and is a key to health and longevity. Elderly couples in this age group can also achieve sexual satisfaction and pleasure by fully embracing, kissing, and caressing each other. Carefully caressing every inch of your partner's skin, feeling the traces of time, and expressing affectionate words like "I love you" and "You're still so beautiful" can help set the mood.

Sex is also an art

By Zaiping

Sex can be divided into two realms: the artistic realm and the practical realm. Many people often have misunderstandings about these two areas of sex.

In the artistic realm, sex is romantic and ideal, but it seems to exist only in people's imaginations and in works of literature and art. In the practical realm, sex is vulgar and simple, a "pragmatic" act driven by physiological and reproductive needs. Furthermore, it should be suppressed and not discussed publicly. Thus, artistic and practical sex life parted ways. While some people treated sex in an elegant and sacred way, they didn't actually engage in sexual activity; and when they did engage in actual sexual activity, they easily lost the artistic quality. Let's examine the following statements, drawn from real life: "When there's no sex, love is a distant myth; when there is sex, that beautiful fantasy suddenly vanishes. The same way, the same feeling, repeated over and over again, it's utterly boring."

"Either I'm tired, or she's tired; either I'm sick, or she's in a bad mood. Anyway, the moments when we're in the mood are rare! Eventually, there's simply no interest. I don't even want to think about it, so how can I talk about happiness?" "Am I getting old and incapable? Why don't I seem to react even when my wife touches my sensitive parts?"

"Work, housework, raising children, business trips, and trying to find time to rest... We agreed to have sex every weekend, but when the weekend comes, I'm not free. Now, even if I were free, I wouldn't be interested."

Behind these sentiments, we discover a mindset akin to "artistic apathy" and "artistic cell death."

In reality, it's not a matter of declining sexual function or a loss of charm. A closer look reveals that after marriage, many people no longer engage in the same enthusiasm as when they were courting: changing date locations, exchanging favorite gifts, writing heartfelt letters or colorful poems, touching hearts with sweet smiles and affectionate glances, creating a warm atmosphere with gentle, sweet words... Married life is practical; that romantic, artistic phase is over. Consequently, sex life, which should be embellished, spruced up, beautified, and creative, has been submerged in the stagnant waters of "practical life." In fact, just like the mentality of "At eighteen, I loved poetry the most, but now I'm beyond that age," wouldn't concerts, dances, skating rinks, swimming pools, outings, picnics..." also be a thing of the past?

Without embellishment, there's no color; without art, there's no vitality. If a woman stops paying attention to her makeup and appearance because she becomes a housewife, she certainly won't be as graceful as she was in her youth. But in reality, housewives need to be more attentive, to "put on makeup in front of the mirror." The same principle applies to sexual intercourse between couples.

Why Ejaculation Is Weak?

By Lian Xing

Physiological ejaculation dysfunction is primarily caused by excessive sexual intercourse, which overloads the nerve centers responsible for ejaculation, preventing them from properly issuing ejaculation commands. Furthermore, a lack of strong sexual arousal can be caused by poor sex life, along with a range of other negative psychological factors, such as fear of pregnancy, fear of causing pain, concerns about sexual dysfunction, or worry about sexual dissatisfaction. These factors can affect all aspects of sexual response through the brain, leading to physiological ejaculation dysfunction.

Pathological ejaculation dysfunction is primarily related to neurological and endocrine disorders, such as those affecting the brain and spinal cord, the hypothalamus, pituitary gland, or testicles, which can affect sex hormone metabolism. It's important to note that with aging, sexual arousal and ejaculation force gradually decline. This is an inevitable physiological phenomenon. Therefore, middle-aged men shouldn't force themselves to have strong ejaculation, but rather focus on a harmonious sex life.

[Treatment] Emphasize both mental adjustment and exercise

Because the lower urethra and ejaculatory tract are shared by men, some of the muscles involved in urination and ejaculation share common activity, such as the contraction and relaxation of the external urethral sphincter and the contraction of the striated muscles of the perineum and anal sphincter. Therefore, interrupting urination to strengthen these muscles and increase their tone can improve weak ejaculation. To do this, interrupt urination midway through each urination, wait a moment, and then urinate again, repeating this exercise. After a period of exercise, some patients will experience improved and enhanced ejaculatory strength.

Also, under a doctor's guidance, traditional Chinese medicine can be used to improve the function of the sexual system and sexual organs.

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