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Do women brag about getting married
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Date: December 27th, 2009 3:40 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic like men brag about getting laid? Is it a similar source of validation for them? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655875) |
Date: December 27th, 2009 3:41 AM Author: bat-shit-crazy flatulent theater it's much more of a validation. they post about it on facebook until their computers break. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655880) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 3:47 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic So is a girl who can't get married by, say, 30, kind of like an adult male virgin? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655900) |
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Date: November 3rd, 2010 1:56 AM Author: Diverse misunderstood macaca Yup. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#16455101) |
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Date: November 3rd, 2010 2:06 AM Author: galvanic center patrolman 30 yo truly single girl (excluding those engaged or in LTRs) is like a 40 yo virgin. Kind of sad but there's a reason for their lifefails. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#16455193) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 3:58 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Let me just put it this way. I could win an Olympic gold medal and that still wouldn't be as much of an accomplishment as getting married.
And yes, that's how a lot of us see it. As an accomplishment and ultimate validation of our worth as a person. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:01 AM Author: curious location puppy lulzy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655927) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:01 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur you're joking...right? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655928) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:02 AM Author: curious location puppy no she's not (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655937) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:04 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur i'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that she was. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655942) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:26 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Maybe slightly exaggerating, but not at all joking.
I view marriage as the accomplishment (for lack of a better word) that I want most in life, and it's not even close. There are also major elements of validation there - namely that marriage would validate that I'm a lovable person or worthy of someone's long-term love. But I largely want the giving aspects of love. Someone to live for. Someone who defines me.
Being single for the rest of my life, or getting divorced and dying single or divorced (but not widowed) would be the ultimate lifefail for me, and it's not even close.
EDIT: I've felt this way since I was in my late teens. This isn't something brought on by 30 approaching. A lot of my friends are still single or dating around. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 9:50 AM Author: arrogant step-uncle's house lettuce cleaning all of the vomit off of my keyboard will be no easy task. thanks for that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656309) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 9:54 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Can someone please tell me what's so offensive about any of this? First you all on XO think it's offensive for a girl to be a "striver". And now you all find it offensive when a girl lists marriage as her biggest desire/accomplishment.
Sheesh. I know there's a happy medium somewhere but this is getting lulzy. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:01 AM Author: beta fragrant space You can't win on xoxo. Either you are a cold striver status-obsessed bitch or a mantrapping pathetic specimen of dependency. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662157) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:33 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef not really. this is just what you tell yourself whenever you're reminded that pretty much all the dudes who post here think you're fucking awful. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663700) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:04 AM Author: Balding zippy ape a happy, long-lasting marriage maybe. just /any/ marriage as the major life goal is very sad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662191) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:32 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I wouldn't want an abusive marriage. Nor would I want a marriage where the man flaunts his mistresses in front of me. Nor would I want to marry a man because he is gay and marriage is the only way his family will give him his inheritance.
But a fairly satisfactory, long-term marriage of contentment or even a marriage full of ups and downs is much more ideal than singlehood. |
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Date: November 3rd, 2010 1:57 AM Author: Diverse misunderstood macaca "First you all on XO think it's offensive for a girl to be a "striver". And now you all find it offensive when a girl lists marriage as her biggest desire/accomplishment."
It's also offensive that women killed Prop 19 in California.
Stupid cunts. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:42 AM Author: hairraiser pit boistinker This. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662594) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:42 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur I know no female like this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662598) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:19 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster What viewpoint is more common among girls you know?
By the way, when I was in my earlier 20s I hid this viewpoint from my close friends. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:30 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur Yes. Every girl would love to get married and find the perfect husband but they don't think about it the way you do. When you say "the marriage would validate that I'm a lovable person or worthy of someone's long-term love", in my mind you're way too insecure and should definitely not be married anytime soon. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663694) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:37 AM Author: Swashbuckling bespoke liquid oxygen cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663716) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:38 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef 1 fucking 80 right there (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663722) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:39 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster How would a "secure" woman think of marriage?
Everyone wonders about whether they are worthy or deserving of long-term love, or if they are the kind of person that is relationship material, or if they are the kind of person that the opposite sex desires. I know there's a lot of subjectivity in all of those things but it's not unduly insecure to have these worries.
I've been on this earth a long time and "insecure" is not often an adjective used to describe me by people who interact with me IRL. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:41 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663732) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:45 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur Ok. I consider myself a secure person. I understand that I have a pretty chill/cool personality and I'm not unattractive. So this means that I will have my share of guys who will like me and eventually fall in love with me or what not. I don't sit there are ask myself if I'm worthy or deserving of love. I know that I'm lovable. That's the problem you have. You haven't come to the realization that you're lovable. And that's upsetting because everyone is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663744) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:51 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster "So this means that I will have my share of guys who will like me and eventually fall in love with me or what not."
Oh, I realize this as well. I've been in LTRs. I've been proposed to. But I've also had long periods in my life where I have been single. I see many girls who manage to have an easier time getting back into relationships after breaking up - their single periods are more of a manner of weeks or months instead of years - and I envy them.
However, I don't think it's all that abnormal to occasionally doubt your own "lovability" or dating market value. It's not something that occupies all of my thoughts or actions. I probably spend more time and money trying to get my 10k time down. Even the most resolute of us have our occasional doubts. I just am able to admit them to myself and others. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:54 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur I've read tons of your posts and I know that this discussion will lead no where. But just remember you don't need a husband to validate your existence. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663770) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:00 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Fine, but I just disagree with your assessment of my "security". Do you actually think I am insecure merely based on my views on marriage?
Also, if you've read "tons" of my posts you'll know that often stick up for myself when in discussions with any one of the legions of anti-fans who roundly dislike me (to put it nicely) and mince no words in letting me know how little they think of my intellect, values and character. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:03 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef protip: you sound really fucking insecure when you overreact to the suggestion that you're insecure
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:04 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur I still think it's obvious to anyone who can read that you're insecure. No doubt about that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663808) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:05 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster About what am I insecure? Can't just fling the insult without backing it up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663813) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:09 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur About yourself.
The fact that you believe that once you get married, that would mean that you are indeed lovable, reveals that you currently don't believable you're lovable. And that, my friend, shows that you're an insecure woman.
edit: Btw. I think you're taking this a little too seriously. Everyone has insecurities but yours is just so glaring that I'm pointing it out. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:14 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I wouldn't say that I am unlovable, but I'm not going to go out there and say that I'm the kind of person that most every dude would be able to love or that most guys would even consider a good catch. People are looking for a variety of different things.
I'm nearly 100% sure that there are a good amount of men on this earth (a minority, but still a solid amount in terms of sheer numbers) who could fall in love with me based on shared values, quirks and flaws but I am not at all confident that I will meet any one of them in a timely fashion, or, if I did meet one of them, that the circumstances would be conducive for growth of a long-term relationship.
Hence my insecurity. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:17 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur :(
don't worry girl. Just get over that ex of yours and maybe everything will change. You never know how that may be hindering your ability to met someone who can love you. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:23 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I'm over the ex. I don't love him anymore, and more importantly, I don't hate him anymore.
The entire circumstance just frustrates me because I fell in love with him and hence refused the proposal of the man who I would have, and probably should have, married. If not for all of this nonsense, I'd be the happy little housewife living somewhere near one of those lakes in the upper Midwest, baking gingerbread and watching Big 10 football. Maybe I need to let go of the image of that alternate universe.
I guess I've just seen too much shit happen to too many people to be "secure" about anything anymore. Life is insecurity, especially with regard to the things we can't do anything about. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:03 AM Author: Razzmatazz Parlour Indirect Expression i hope so (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655938) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:01 AM Author: Swashbuckling bespoke liquid oxygen lolwut (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655931) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:52 AM Author: Clear Mad Cow Disease Resort LOL, XOXO is really full of fucked up women. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656213) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 9:48 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I don't know what's fucked up about this. Not many well-adjusted women would want to be single, divorced or otherwise unlucky in love. I don't know many women at all who would rather be single for the rest of their lives, or divorced, even if the alternative was a mediocre relationship. Maybe they would choose singlehood over an abusive relationship (and I think I would, too - especially if children were being hurt), but I don't know many women at all who are content with singlehood.
Those who don't mind single status or prefer single status have either been hurt badly and have some sort of psychological damage, or they are at a temporary place where singlehood makes more sense. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:58 AM Author: Haunting high-end potus place of business Just wow (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656221) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 9:50 AM Author: talented point fanboi lol being a girl sucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656308) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 10:00 AM Author: Copper Roommate I think this is an overstatement but I do agree with you. It's the ugly truth. If it weren't shows like SATC would not exist. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656322) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 10:03 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster "Ugly truth" is a good way of putting it. If the vast majority of women weren't sympathetic to this viewpoint, shows like SATC would end with all of the women staying single and focusing on strengthening their friendships or developing outside interests. There's a lot more to do in a city than have sex. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656331) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 10:07 AM Author: Copper Roommate I mean part of the whole SATC thing was how there is so much pressure on women to marry and how, despite it all, even powerful, successful women were desperate to settle down. I don't know if it is society or biology but I would def. take a loving husband over an advanced degree or even an olympic medal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656336) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 10:13 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster There are very few things I currently have and love, or goals I would like to accomplish, which I would prefer over a husband. I'd take a loving, stable husband (or even a fairly mediocre and flawed husband) over most accomplishments, accolades or other goals/life experiences. I love to run. I'd take a husband over that. I love to travel. I'd take a husband over that. Most women I know can sympathize. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656347) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 10:02 AM Author: Beady-eyed Selfie I'm on your side, bb. :) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656330) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:34 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef yeah, this has got to be grace kelly. the stupidity is radiating from these posts in a way that only she can generate. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663705) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:45 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Describe what is stupid about anything I'm saying in this thread. Many women feel similar to how I feel about the subject, just very few women are willing to admit it for fear of the backlash that I'm getting here from some women and most men.
Yes, I view marriage as an accomplishment.
Yes, I'd rather have marriage than have many things I currently desire or have/enjoy.
Yes, I'd like to be loved by someone enough for him to want to marry me. I'd feel self-validated, but more importantly I'd feel more whole and actual. Living for someone else is immensely more satisfying than living for yourself.
Yes, I realize that not all women feel this way and I'm not going to tell someone else how to feel about marriage.
And, believe it or not, I like who I am and don't have any latent or obvious "insecurities". I'm comfortable in social situations, have many quality friends, don't doubt my abilities under pressure, have no fear of public speaking and feel no awkwardness in going to restaurants or the cinema alone. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:01 AM Author: Razzmatazz Parlour Indirect Expression i dont mind married women, but pregnant women are fucking annoying:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8 |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:04 AM Author: Pungent Aphrodisiac Dragon Even liberal women feel this way? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655944) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:28 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I'm fairly liberal (socially). I was also always one of those people who liked to do well at things and had a lot of outside interests that didn't contribute to my popularity with men. I am good enough at one of my hobbies to win money in competitions involving that hobby.
And I still feel this way. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:11 AM Author: Pungent Aphrodisiac Dragon lol @ pro scrabble player (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656071) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:12 AM Author: curious location puppy nothing that intellectual dood. she runs (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656072) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:13 AM Author: Pungent Aphrodisiac Dragon my idea is funnier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656074) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:14 AM Author: curious location puppy sorry to bring it all down to the real, dood (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656076) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:14 AM Author: Pungent Aphrodisiac Dragon vat? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656077) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 5:17 AM Author: curious location puppy typing fail
the stuff we make up is often funnier than the stuff that's actual |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:57 AM Author: Pungent Aphrodisiac Dragon true but if we repeat the made-up stuff enough people will start to believe it and after a while does it really matter what ACTUALLY happened? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656220) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 4:18 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic Would you suspect that women who show no outward signs of wanting to get married, secretly do want to get married? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13655994) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:26 AM Author: Haunting high-end potus place of business Of course (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13656197) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:24 PM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I fall under this category. I wouldn't even share any of the stuff I posted above to any of my friends. The one time I did confess my true beliefs on the subject to one of my good girlfriends she was shocked and said that I was the last girl she would ever suspect of being one of *those* girls re: marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13659908) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 6:26 PM Author: Slippery rehab Women are strange creatures. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13658955) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 6:27 PM Author: rough-skinned temple twinkling uncleanness It's a huge right of passage for them. Almost twice as important as losing one's virginity is for a guy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13658968) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 7:58 PM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Getting married is also harder.
A man has several opportunities, possibly in the same night, to lose his virginity. There will be possible devirginizers at every fraternity party or bar that he goes to. Unless the guy is ridiculously picky or ridiculously ugly he should have plenty of opportunities to get laid by college graduation.
A person (man or woman) only has a few genuine opportunities (i.e. genuine long-term, marriage-track relationships) to get married in her life. Getting someone to love you that intensely takes time and luck (being in the right place at the right time). Finding someone you're that compatible with can be very difficult for many people. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:09 AM Author: khaki flirting kitchen so true. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662235) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:19 AM Author: olive meetinghouse This made me fucking sad, as I feel like I had EVERYTHING with my ex, save the timing/place.
FML. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:35 AM Author: big light depressive chad stfu you faggot. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663911) |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:02 PM Author: Dashing federal lodge hissy fit Which makes sense because just about any idiot can get laid. And sooner or later, a dude can fuck a hot chick. Alcohol is a beautiful thing, you know. Makes miracles happen.
But getting married? That takes more than someone getting a little too drunk for their own good. You have to get someone to love you, which isn't easy for many people. |
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Date: December 27th, 2009 8:22 PM Author: talented point fanboi this thread makes me lol hard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13659895) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:07 AM Author: fiercely-loyal motley base is there an age, if any, where it becomes a lifefail for a man not to be married? i feel like people would think i'm either gay or socially retarded if i haven't settled down by my mid 30s at the latest. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662216) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:20 AM Author: beta fragrant space At 40 if you're never-married people will assume you are gay. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662355) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:37 AM Author: Bat shit crazy thriller newt roast beef normal people don't assume that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663717) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:30 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster No, but they'll assume either homosexuality, social ineptitude (or some other mild social disorder), or fear of commitment/reluctance to stop screwing around. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662454) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 12:30 AM Author: Cracking Windowlicker Area damn girls are strange (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13662457) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 3:51 AM Author: Pearl nighttime foreskin philosopher-king the short answer is yes, but not in the way men brag about things. married women enjoy a much higher social status than unmarried women (i.e. worthless whores), so you can imagine how hot a button issue marriage is among women. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663752) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:30 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic This thread kind of makes me feel bad for women. It seems like what really makes a woman feel special is not having substantial career achievements but being in a loving relationship with a man. When you think about the think of things that get guys to fall in love (being attractive, being social, playing hard to get, etc), none of them seem to go beyond superficial window dressing. It must be weird to be valued more for your outward appearance than your contributions to the world. I have to say, it's really unfortunate that perfectly smart, talented, creative women often end up alone because we as men are not wired to be attracted to women's character and accomplishments. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663890) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:33 AM Author: Crimson useless piazza do you really think that guys do not care about character and accomplishments? really? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663905) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:38 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic We do but it's a much smaller factor than any of us would ever admit (outside of anonymous message boards). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663920) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:44 AM Author: Crimson useless piazza goddamn. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663933) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:44 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I can see how accomplishments aren't important, but I'd think character was fairly huge, especially for LTRs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663934) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:45 AM Author: Crimson useless piazza here is what scares me: aging. even if you and some dood fall in love, he can always ditch you when you are older. fuckers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663935) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:50 AM Author: big light depressive chad good thing some of us dont look... err as old as we are :) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663942) |
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Date: November 3rd, 2010 1:52 AM Author: Crimson useless piazza heh (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#16455074) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:55 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster And vice versa. Women cheat as well.
I'm less afraid of aging because I've made it through most of the gauntlet (25-29) with my face in tact. If you're that scared of aging, drink a lot of water, take a lot of Omega-3s and regularly exercise and moisturize. |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:40 AM Author: big light depressive chad as long as you are attractive enough, then yes those thingss are great! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663924) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:35 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Paging Dr. Troy - this is why many women, including myself, feel insecure about this aspect of our lives.
It's not that I care that men won't be attracted to me because of my accomplishments. What's tough to swallow is that what attracts them most to me is something largely out of my control (my appearance/social status). There will always be someone prettier or otherwise more prestigious/desirable.
If love were something that we could do something about (like studying for an exam, training to maximize athletic performance, practicing a musical instrument or so on) there would be much less female insecurity surrounding the topic.
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:41 AM Author: Bisexual hospital psychic Well there are some things you can do:
- go to the gym
- eat well
- dress well
- dump a guy if he doesn't seem seriously interested in you
- go out to social functions a lot |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:41 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur But you fail to realize is that what you possess (your looks, smarts, etc) is good enough for A LOT of people out there. There's really no need to overanalyze it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663929) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:48 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster Yeah, but once you narrow down that pool to geographically suitable men (i.e. men you'll realistically meet and date) that you're also interested in who also are at a time in their lives where they want and can entertain a long-term relationship, and also have enough shared values, quirks, flaws etc. to make you two a good match, that's a much smaller group. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663937) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:50 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur jesus. ok. I wish you the best of luck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663943) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:53 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster I like your optimism, but why the "jesus"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663949) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 4:58 AM Author: Jade menage voyeur It's pretty upsetting to view life the way you do. I am optimistic about my future so it's always weird when other people aren't as well. I will say that I do understand everything you're saying and maybe if I were in your shoes and lived the life you did, then maybe I'd see things the way you do. But right now I know that I have no desire to get married anytime soon so I don't understand the overanalyzing of it all. But maybe when I'm older that will change. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1174859&forum_id=2#13663958) |
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Date: December 28th, 2009 5:06 AM Author: laughsome parlor toaster What's upsetting about how I view life? Basically, my worldview is as follows: there's shit we can control, there's shit we can't control, and if we maximize the former, there's a better chance that the latter will break our way or not hurt us too bad if it doesn't.
My dad always taught me that there are no guarantees in life and that if something's really good, it's likely too good to be true. Blame it on my grandpa and the Great Depression.
I'd say I'm cautiously optimistic about my future, but only because I've done a lot to make sure (as best I could) to make sure things turn out right.
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