Date: April 25th, 2012 2:20 AM Author: chrome deep lay
as a preteen.
they basically robbed me of the right of enjoying the life of an ordinary person, because it doesn't matter that i can speak accentless English and Mandarin, and am well versed in both cultures, i'm fundamentally different from the ordinary person in either country, to the point that i would never be able to find an ordinary life in either country fulfilling.
Date: April 25th, 2012 2:23 AM Author: ruddy splenetic filthpig market
cr, your average socially maladjusted bro is really a temporarily set-back Mozart. Nevermind that Mozart was an extraverted bro who slayed pussy like a beast.
Date: April 25th, 2012 2:25 AM Author: chrome deep lay
i just want an ordinary, but fulfilling life, but that's closed off to me, thanks to my parents.
i think this is also true for a lot of Asian Americans.
i met a middle aged American born Asian dood recently. he has a pretty good job, married a white woman, has a mixed son. he told me that he still doesn't feel like he belongs here.
Date: April 25th, 2012 2:47 AM Author: alcoholic menage
When did you move?
You visited mine, so I saw yours.
In many ways I would have had an easier time in asia, and probably would have fit in better with the educational system over there than the USA. Like the whole white privilege thing? It applies to asians in asia.
Date: April 25th, 2012 2:59 AM Author: chrome deep lay
"Came to the states to go to college ~5.5 years ago and did not speak English. I picked up the language so far, but still have an accent. Definitely working on it, and looking for someone to help me with it."
i came to the states 14 years ago, and i have no accent. so no, that's not me.
Date: April 25th, 2012 3:30 AM Author: Concupiscible aqua masturbator
and actually it's probably more of a curve than a fixed number, a 6'6 asian definitely does not equal a 6' white. more like a 5'9 white. actually, he's probably just looked at in the same way that girls look at doobs. big goofy sexless thing
Date: April 25th, 2012 4:00 AM Author: Overrated Irradiated Business Firm
how was your upbringing so fucked up? how did it rob you of your life or whatever. I think lots of nerds are, unfortunately.. not just you. They don't focus on the social aspect of life, that's nothing particularly unique... just deal with it now, i guess. I know, i'm struggling with something similar.. didn't prioritize dating/social life in undergrad, and now feel like i missed out on my 20s.
Date: April 26th, 2012 12:18 AM Author: chrome deep lay
it isn't the same thing as being socially inept.
i can turn on the social charm fine and come off as a "normal" in most situations, but it's harder to connect with people on a deeper level because our children/adolescence is so different from the ordinary person.
Date: April 25th, 2012 7:27 AM Author: twinkling heaven digit ratio
I left right after college, returned 2 years later for a bit of grad school, then left again, then returned for more grad school, and left again. Mid-way through college I decided to leave for Europe. You?
Date: April 26th, 2012 12:31 AM Author: chrome deep lay
"TCKs are unlikely to work for big business, government, or follow their parents' career choices. "One won't find many TCKs in large corporations. Nor are there many in government ... they have not followed in parental footsteps".[21]"
"TCKs' sense of identity and well-being is directly and negatively affected by repatriation.[23]"
Date: April 26th, 2012 12:30 AM Author: chrome deep lay
here is a small anecdote why this is crippling:
i basically don't have any belongings beyond the bare essentials to function, because i know i may have to move in a few months or a year, and it means i would have to throw out/leave behind anything that's too large, or anything that's unnecessary. my apartment is barely furnished, and i have no desire to furnish it because i know i will prob be gone relatively soon.
this carries over to work. my office is also largely free of any personal items, because deep down i don't think i will work here for very long. this is obviously a problem, because they expect you to act like you will be here for the long haul. fuck that.
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as for wall decorations, paintings and frames can easily be packed and shipped for minimal cost. you can do an accent wall in the living room on one saturday afternoon.
*BAM* your place looks decent, yet still minimalistic.