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Female posters: how credited is marrying for $ after you're 30?
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:11 PM Author: elite pozpig I'm slightly disillusioned...giving myself another 2-3 years to find a guy who I can settle down with, who I like. If that doesn't work, at 30 I'm just planning to move to NYC, find an older rich guy (I like older men anyway so this isn't really a problem..) and screw marrying for 'love.' At that point I could prob quit law, enter less stressful 9-5 profession, travel a lot...not sure re. having kids. Anyone else feel the same? Not sure how unique this way of thinking is when you're in your late 20s but it's Pretty set for me. I'm attractive but unmarriageable in every other respect - I think an older rich guy could tolerate that (can look past any small flaws since I'm half his age and hotter than he could do otherwise)- and I like older, more mature men anyway. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:11 PM Author: Mind-boggling Quadroon Library fuck you, you stupid gold-digging whore bitch. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544792) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:13 PM Author: elite pozpig I'm not gold-digging, just disillusioned. What's the point of waiting for 'love' if it never happens? Might as well settle for $$ at that point. I think this is semi-logical- I bet divorced women do it too, after love failed them once. For me, it just never happened (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544806) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:15 PM Author: chestnut aromatic tanning salon hunting ground *categorically refutes accusation of gold-digging*
*proceeds to admit to pursuing the quintessential definition of gold-digging* |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:17 PM Author: elite pozpig I think my reasons for gold-digging are much different than most other women though, who were set on $$ from the beginning. I'd much rather marry for 'love', but at this point I'm almost 30 and think it's a BS concept that will never happen, so settling for the alternative. If I meet the right guy, I won't marry for $$ though, as that's not my main objective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545706) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:19 PM Author: chestnut aromatic tanning salon hunting ground you understand it will turn out shitty shitty shitty. Trying to avoid eachother in the hallways, viscerally upset when you hear the door open and realizing he is home from work.
its not worth it |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:22 PM Author: elite pozpig yeah. After reading Julia's responses below, I'm thinking maybe i'm just better to be single forever and just resign myself to not dating, rather than go through failed attempt after attempt and being bitter about it, or marrying for $$... i don't know. I'm not sure if its better to be single forever or just marry someone you decently like, who has $$ and affords you a better life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545730) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:24 PM Author: chestnut aromatic tanning salon hunting ground be alone...and come on....people find love at all ages...quit being a fucking debbie downer...run away from this board as quickly as possible..
these half-witted social shut-ins have already poisoned your mind.
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:24 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes if you can marry someone you decently like - whether or not they have $$ -it's better than being single, esp when you get old. love often develops in such cases, any anyhow, romance/passion dies eventually even when people marry for love. in both cases, it boils down to commitment and willingness to work on the relationship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545749) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:25 PM Author: elite pozpig yeah. why don't you do this then, Julia? I'm sure you could find someone you 'decently like', if not love, and just settle with them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545755) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:29 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes i have not been able to find such a person. i was with a guy who never even had sex with me for about 3.5 years,and he broke off the engagement. i was willing to be sexless basically the rest of my life. i've also dated much older, rich men, and they didn't want to marry me, either. nobody does. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545773) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:44 PM Author: elite pozpig :( why didn't he have sex with you? Religion or something, if you don't mind me asking? I don't have a high sex drive either, tbh. Am willing to be sexless if need be, and single forever .. i'm not marrying because of a genuine need for sex in my life, maybe just companionship. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:47 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes he just never wanted to have sex with me, that's all. we did it maybe once every 2-3 months. i'm 100% certain he was straight, too. he claims my depression was a massive turn-off, and he felt like a caretaker, rather than a boyfriend. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545856) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:49 PM Author: elite pozpig oh ok. well at least you had sex occasionally. Maybe your depression is a main cause for your difficulties in finding men. That seems like a legit reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545870) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:05 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes of course it is -- it's what i always say, but people on xo insist it's because i'm "too picky", "stupid", "ugly", etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545967) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:14 PM Author: elite pozpig people on xo are stupid. that's why i rarely come here, or if I do it's as a pumo. Don't listen to them, you're attractive, not ugly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546021) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:20 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot i knew this depressed chick from college who went all new age, went to a silent meditation retreat in South America, probably had lots of open sex and walked around the jungle naked all day. came back rejuvenated, full of life, and with a hippie boyfriend in tow. a few months later she was pregnant. point is, you have to be willing to at least dream. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546057) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:21 PM Author: elite pozpig i'm not sure I (or Julia) are the hippie type though.. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546067) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:24 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot what type are you then? depressed and hopeless modern woman? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546091) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:27 PM Author: elite pozpig probably best description of it, yes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546117) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:39 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot i hear creampie is an effective natural anti-depressant. there's a chemical compound in semen that actually increases endorphins in your body.
so when a guy sees a sad, attractive female and thinks, she desperately needs a good dicking, it is mainly out of a innate altruism to provide comfort to the female.
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Date: April 25th, 2012 8:02 PM Author: yellow sweet tailpipe stock car "they didn't want to marry me, either. nobody does."
Have you tried being non-crazy? |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:27 AM Author: Buck-toothed frum immigrant just ignore him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550382) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:12 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes depends on whether you actually value love. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544801) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:13 PM Author: judgmental gunner its ain't that easy for 30 yo unmarriable women to just find some dude with money who will be happy to have them in NYC. I have seem plenty of women who were hot in their 20s but had terrible personalities not find a guy then settle at 30 for strange looking guys or guys who have some money but not that much for NYC like biglaw associates. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544804) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:14 PM Author: Mind-boggling Quadroon Library in the end most girls post age 25 marry for money basically
but i think this is just stupid and whatever but i guess chicks are just money hungry whores.. so much for feminism and doing it on your own
and TBF only above average looking girls can do this post 30.. other girls are usually shit out of luck finding a really rich guy |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:15 PM Author: chestnut aromatic tanning salon hunting ground in the end most girls post age 25 marry for money basically"
i dont even know where to begin...where the fuck do you live? Jersey Shore? |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:18 PM Author: elite pozpig i'm above average in looks, but nothing that special. i don't know. I don't think 'most' women above 25 do this, but most women who are unmarriagable, depressed and SOL possibly do. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545714) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:19 PM Author: elite pozpig Well I'm trying to improve myself to make this happen..trying to have a more well-rounded personality and develop interests in the arts, TV/movies and other stuff so im not so academic. My personality isn't actually that bitchy but for some reason incompatible. Won't try to get into an analysis of it on an anon message board but for whatever reason, not attractive to most guys my age. I've been hit on a lot by older men though, ...'older' including some relatively good-looking mid-30 investment banker types in nyc who just wanted to sleep with me though. I think it's more plausible to link with them than some guy that really wants me for love, but idk (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544850) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:26 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone partner This. They can just sleep around. As a bonus, sleeping around is at least as acceptable as marrying a woman half your age. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544888) |
Date: April 25th, 2012 2:12 PM Author: Dashing Address Feces u have a penis. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544793) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:17 PM Author: disturbing sanctuary preventive strike (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544836) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:20 PM Author: nudist university (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544856) |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:30 AM Author: Provocative aggressive national security agency (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550397) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:28 PM Author: motley mahogany rigpig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544904) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:15 PM Author: tan area roommate Not very. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544826) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:16 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot marry a sensitive beta dude. much better than rich old guy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544829) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:17 PM Author: disturbing sanctuary preventive strike ty, alia, for responding to your own post (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544837) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:18 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes lol, i can't get either to marry me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544842) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:21 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab stfu (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544861) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:22 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes my post is entirely relevant to this thread, unlike yours *sticks out tongue and makes funny faces at you* |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:25 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab are you ever going to read my astrology chart? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544878) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:28 PM Author: beady-eyed police squad genital piercing shes being a bitch. ive bumped that thread SEVERAL times (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544906) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:29 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes who's chart, precisely? monikers change so often... email me your birth data and i'll take a look today juliaone@mail.com |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:30 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab what do you need exactly? date, time, time zone? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544923) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:30 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes date, time, location(city+state) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544931) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:33 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab what if i get the chart from a website and post it here? i don't have a junk email account anymore (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544947) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:35 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes sure i'll take a look at some point today |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:37 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab thanks so much :) here's the chart: http://i.imgur.com/HaSNd.png |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:39 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes this chart doesn't show the houses or your ascendant -can you please post one from astro.com that shows house positions? it's critical to the analysis.
u male or female? anything in particular you'd like to know? it's easier with specific questions. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:49 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab female just want some general insight into my psyche. specifically i guess i'd like to know what sorts of pursuits will bring me happiness and why i fail at maintaining relationships. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:07 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes i need your ascendant + house placements. please upload a chart from astro.com TYIA (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545641) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:42 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab http://i.imgur.com/XoRFs.png (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546265) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 9:44 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20548297) |
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Date: April 30th, 2012 7:51 PM Author: beady-eyed police squad genital piercing <> (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20584207) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:42 PM Author: beady-eyed police squad genital piercing holy shit thats cray (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545027) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:27 PM Author: haunting legend You make funny faces? That's comforting. How are things at the home office? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544893) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:28 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes stressful (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544907) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:34 PM Author: haunting legend Sorry about that. But as long as you can make it to nyc by august, it's alright.
Do you really make funny faces though? |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:36 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes on rare occasion i do, however, meow as a secondary means of communication. IRL, all my bfs and friends refer to me as "kitty" or "kitten" and meow at me, as well. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:38 PM Author: haunting legend Aww. I refuse to meow at you, however. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544997) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:25 PM Author: elite pozpig are you really Julia? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544880) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:26 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544885) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:46 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot why didn't it work out with sensitive betas? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545061) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:22 PM Author: elite pozpig I have a feeling no female posters have actually replied to this thread. Will check back after dinner, have to head out a bit. Thanks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544868) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:23 PM Author: 180 saffron rehab no one here can answer this question for you. you need to look inside your shriveled heart (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544872) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:25 PM Author: disturbing sanctuary preventive strike i have a feeling that no female poster made it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544879) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:31 PM Author: boyish lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545781) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:28 PM Author: Mind-boggling Quadroon Library this is what most females IRL think so just ask them instead of asking a bunch of male virgin aspie internet boys (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544901) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:06 PM Author: elite pozpig most females at my age IRL are normal who had normal, stable relationships and not like me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545636) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:30 PM Author: Self-absorbed slimy athletic conference idiot bro, just freeze your eggs (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544920) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:31 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes i'm doing this in a couple of years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544936) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:31 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone partner 8-10K, from what I saw. That shit's EXPENSIVE. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20544941) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:33 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes yeah, but at least it afford some *hoap* of biological eing a babies post-35. who am i kidding, though? i'm fine w adopting a kid in my late 30s and being a single mom. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 3:49 PM Author: elite pozpig That's awesome. Maybe I should be like you, have that same mentality. Have you been in a long-term relationship before? Why do you think you may be single until late 30s..? How old are you now?
I've seen some of your photos on here and think you (and Ruskie) are both better looking than me. I'm above avg but not model gorgeous or anything. I think you guys have more hope than me anyway. whatever small comfort that may be lol. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:09 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes I'm 32 and have been in several LTRs, including 2 broken engagements. I'm domineering, outspoken/abrasive, anti-social, a depressive and riddled with anxiety. No man wants that for a wife. I've given up on ever marrying after too many failed attempts; it is what it is, and I'm not going to change it. Now I just have to plan on how to live the rest of my life as an unmarried woman. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545660) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:11 PM Author: elite pozpig that's awesome. Honestly, it may sound weird, but I think that's great that you're not settling in a way, and just accepting who you are, all your faults included. I'm not sure if I should do that as well.. will see in a few years. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545670) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:14 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes I battled myself all my life, and I'm tired of it. If I'm unmarriageable, it is what it is and I can't change it anymore. Honestly, after so many failed attempts, I'm not even enthused by the prospect of love and relationships anymore -- I've seen people at their cruel worst and would rather be alone than hurt any further. Some people find real love, and it's a wondrous thing --I am jealous and happy for them -- but it will not be so for me anytime during my reproductive years. I can either killself, or just move on and live as best I can. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545690) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:20 PM Author: elite pozpig Cr. I haven't even had failed attempts.. I've just had nothing. I'm not really sure what's better. There's that saying 'it's better to have loved & lost than never to have loved at all' but idk. Neither are ideal. edit- mentioned above, but I'm not sure if its better to be single forever or just marry someone you decently like, who has $$ and affords you a better life. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:24 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School It's honestly girls like you who end up finding their way into a great relationship, even if it's later in life.
However I would worry about not wanting to change some of these aspects about yourself for your own good - not changing for a man, but changing so YOU are happier. You say you're depressive and riddled with anxiety. I can't see how that's a desirable state to be in. It's like saying "I have a cold and while that sucks I'd prefer to wallow in my sickness instead of getting better".
Get better for you... |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:26 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes i've been through all sorts of treatments, to no avail. of course if i had my choice i'd be happier/healthier. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545760) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:28 PM Author: elite pozpig I have more hope for Julia than myself, as well. I think she's gorgeous, smart, and just had a lot of bad luck and may need to get over some personal issues such as those you mentioned above.
I haven't even had the benefit of trying out relationships and feel sort of screwed. Guys will expect that after a certain point, I won't know how to really function in a relationship, and it will just be awkward as hell.. especially once you're 30. that's why I'm also resigning myself away from the concept of a traditional, equal, mutually satisfying relationship and just going for something more materially based and with lower expectations... |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:32 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School That is a really shitty way to think (your last sentence).
You're also resigning some dood to being married to a girl who doesn't really love him in the way that he may love her.
I think most people underestimate how easy it is to fall into relationships once you're in one. It'll feel natural to you.
Do doods think it's a bit of a question mark for a girl to be of a certain age without ever having a serious BF? Sure. But there are plenty of doods in their mid 20s who haven't really had a serious GF either. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:45 PM Author: elite pozpig i'm in my late 20s now, i think it will be more of a question mark if i'm in my 30s and still like this.. that's why the title of this thread is 'unmarried by 30'. :( Hopefully you're right though, i've just found it difficult myself. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545844) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:30 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone partner I think getting someone to marry you is hard, old or young. There has to be a depth to the relationship and it sounds like you have a hard time achieving that depth. We see a lot of mismatched marriages where it's not going well and assume that it was always like this, but I don't think so.
I think at some point, the gold digging younger woman made the man feel truly loved, like there was a genuine connection there. That's not an easy thing to do. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:40 PM Author: Thriller azn The golddigger was probably nice before marriage. After marriage, it doesn't really matter anymore since it's a win-win for her: she's taken care of or in divorce she'll be taken cared of. I don't see why rich guys even get married unless the relationship is 180 solid.
But to the gal/bro above, money is not necessarily a bad thing to marry for. Many people just marry based on looks. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 3:55 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone partner No one is questioning that she was nice. I am saying it's more than that. We can all be fakey nice. We can't all marry millionaires. And no, being young and good looking isn't enough. I think it takes something extra to be the girl that gets married, rather than the girl who gets pump and dumped. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545581) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:29 PM Author: elite pozpig yeah i realize that as well. that's why i'm trying to improve myself (although not just for the reason of marrying a rich guy, but for myself as well.) I think that girl has to be more than just looks though, agreed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545775) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:33 PM Author: boyish lodge "There has to be a depth to the relationship and it sounds like you have a hard time achieving that depth." (woman who married an angry retard) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:49 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School You marry for money, you'll work for every penny. It's a miserable existence. Many people who get into relationships for the wrong reasons (money, fear of being single etc.) find themselves fine with the setup until they meet someone they really like who also seems to like them. It happens to everyone, and at that point you'd give everything to be single.
Best wait things out for someone that you really click with.
Also, by "older", how much older do you mean? |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 3:21 PM Author: elite pozpig I tend to like guys in their 40s.. that's my point though. I don't think that I will meet someone I really 'click' with. If it hasn't happened ALREADY, and i'm 27, what makes me think it will happen when I'm 35+ and still single? I think it's society's flame that there's "someone truly out there for you." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545311) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:01 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School I'm slightly older than you and I tend to believe there's a lid (and often more) for every pot. Things might be difficult if you're in a small city with a limited dating pool, but I'm a pretty weird dood who doesn't meet many chicks who share my personality and interests and I've still managed to meet one or two who really got me.
I think there are often many "someones" who would work very well with a given person, and we're best off with one of those (or single, i.e. in a position to meet one of those) than compromising that in exchange for something lesser, whether it be marrying for money, status, fulfilling societal expectations, or just not being single anymore. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:06 PM Author: elite pozpig Thanks. Maybe you're right... there were at least a few guys who meshed with my personality but the timing was off, and it didn't work out (and some i'm just not sure of the reasons, so won't bother speculating.) But I just feel like it won't work out because i am too different/weird/bitchy, who knows. Maybe i'm better off just staying single 4 life, idk. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545634) |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 2:15 AM Author: Buck-toothed frum immigrant yeah, what u said about working for every penny. its basically like being a prostitute with the same client every day except you also have to live with him and be with him all the time when you aren't having sex. i guess if you're okay with that and you think its worth it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550774) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 2:54 PM Author: Gold potus cruise ship with the anti-male divorce laws, no rich man will be that willing to marry someone just for her looks.
why are you unmarriageable? |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 3:00 PM Author: free-loading bawdyhouse lol at xoxo...a place where doods start flame threads just so they can say that all women are golddigging whores (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545180) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 3:22 PM Author: elite pozpig no, i wouldn't be 'gold-digging' at all if I weren't so umarriagable. I just don't see myself finding the 'right' guy who's out there for me. Rather marry for money, and be able to travel, settle down,e tc. than be single for the rest of my life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545315) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:02 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School What makes you unmarriagable? There's a lot of shit that can be worked on. Maybe you just need to take a year or so to work on yourself (therapy etc) before you get back into the dating pool. I know a lot of uglies and freaks who manage to couple up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545621) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:07 PM Author: elite pozpig yeah maybe. I don't even know why i'm 'unmarriagable', it's just something I tend to believe from past evidence. Like I've never been in a relationship and aren't compatible with most guys. Assuming I'm 30 and this is still the case, then it probably means I'm unmarriageable. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545645) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:25 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School Here's a hint: most doods aren't compatible with most chicks. A lot of people marry the person that fits whatever their personal society tells them the ideal is and meets certain standards.
You probably don't give a shit about such standards and are more focused on having a meaningful connection than a placeholder boyfriend. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:41 PM Author: elite pozpig yeah exactly. In undergrad I never gave a shit about most guys, was focused on getting a 4.0 for law school. Now I feel fucked as I realize I'm almost 30 and unmarriageable. :( But I never used to care about such standards in the past... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545827) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:02 PM Author: Gold potus cruise ship why are you unmarriaggable (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545623) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 5:36 PM Author: free-loading bawdyhouse there are worse things than being single for the rest of your life...like being married to somebody that you're not that into. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546207) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 8:12 PM Author: Citrine Charismatic Marketing Idea Yeah, this. At least when you're single you have the availability to meet someone who's really great. And very, very few people go through life never marrying.
The vast majority of people who are open to marriage/relationships marry, often more than once. The only exceptions I know to this rule are the homosexuals and a few people of both genders who genuinely prefer their own company and can't deal with the day-to-day compromises that a life partnership entails. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:00 PM Author: greedy chapel If you can't find a guy your own age that wants you as a wife, how are you going to find rich one 10-15 years older that does? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545606) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:03 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School A lot of those guys who are attractive have the pick of the litter, too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545626) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:09 PM Author: elite pozpig because I know guys in their 40s and they're more eager to settle with a hotter, younger girl and less demanding/picky than guys in their 20s/30s. Assuming I have some compatibility with the older guy, i just figure this will work out more easily. It's not exactly like i have my fair share of tons of guys in my age group wanting me either, and for some reason, I do tend to have more chemistry with guys older than me so it may be for the best. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545659) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:11 PM Author: judgmental gunner If its not happening for you with those guys now, what makes you think you'll be more desirable to them in a few years? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545677) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:15 PM Author: Thriller azn Honestly, there aren't a whole lot of guys worth marrying just for the money, etc. Top 1% starts at 300k. That doesn't go far in NYC, DC and even in Houston, it's a good lifestyle but probably not one worth marrying someone you're not pretty compatible with. And when we talk about 500k+ a year businessman, etc, they are either married (rich men have a much higher rate of marriage) or are a very small pool of people. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545692) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:17 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes Honestly, this is how high$$$/relatively sane strippers eventually get out of the business: top-tier gentlemen's clubs in NYC or Houston are full of divorced, 40+ yo i-bankers and lawyers and shit. They end up marrying these doods. Seen it happen repreatedly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545708) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:21 PM Author: Dashing Address Feces lol only maybe the rich dregs of society marry ex-strippers. men value wholesomeness. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545726) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:23 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes not really. guys in finance and entrepreneurs are especially prone to this -keep in mind, they're marrying the relatively classier strippers- the 8.5's or above with TTT Bachelor's degrees and no tattoos. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545736) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:27 PM Author: Lime Half-breed School "classier strippers"
LOL.
Imagine a dood introducing one of those "classier strippers" as his wife at the Kinkaid 20 year reunion. Doesn't happen. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:31 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes happens all the time. all the fucking time, and you don't even know it, which is why it's so hilarious. lots of these guys marry former playmates & low-mid level models, too. i can personally attest to 20+ such cases. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:43 PM Author: elite pozpig well that gives me hope. If they're marrying strippers/low-level models, maybe they'll marry me. I'm prob just as attractive as a random stripper (even higher-class ones), and can carry on a decent convo without needing drugs. Bonus points. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545832) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 10:09 PM Author: Indigo soul-stirring lay To be fair,
"I'm prob just as attractive as a random stripper (even higher-class ones)"
Yeah, and I'm probably just as intelligent as a Physics Professor (even at HYP) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:23 PM Author: elite pozpig I wouldn't mind marrying a divorced guy.. better if he doesn't have kids though, from a previous marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545739) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:28 PM Author: Know-it-all Temple Useless Brakes i prefer divorced guys --it shows they at least value the idea of marriage/commitment. it's often best if they married early, as they haven't gotten jaded from being on the dating market long, and often divorce just becaus ethey weren't mature enough for marriage at the time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545765) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:26 PM Author: boyish lodge flawless plan. i am sure that single 30+ gold diggers are in high demand among rich NYC bros (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545762) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:29 PM Author: supple cyan theater stage shrews from my high school married billionaires all the time bro. it's no big deal. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545770) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:46 PM Author: elite pozpig sweet (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545850) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:46 PM Author: stirring site Wow, you were in college not too long ago? Now you're willing to date 47 yos with kids in college. Lol just lol. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545848) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 4:47 PM Author: elite pozpig it may sound stupid, but it's how a lot of girls think when they reach a certain age, I think. I'm almost hitting 30.. not exactly 'just out of college.' (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20545859) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 8:10 PM Author: Citrine Charismatic Marketing Idea I don't know many girls who, at 27, will just give up on a meaningful relationship. Some legitimately freak out between 30 and 35 and they may date whoever wants to date them out of fear for being alone. But this actually impairs their ability to get hitched as those doods will eventually pick up on the fact that chemistry isn't there on her end (lukewarm sex, general lack of enthusiasm, lack of connection in other aspects of the relationship) and will dump her for someone else.
The girls I know who are the oldest singletons are those who jumped into an LTR with some random dood shortly after they turned 30 just because he wanted to date them. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 8:13 PM Author: elite pozpig I'm not completely giving up hope now.. if there's a guy out there for me, great, i just have little to no hope that there is. I'll give it 2-3 more years but when I hit 30 and am still single, i'm not sure what i will do. Maybe marry some random rich guy, maybe not and stay single forever. I feel slightly like i'm fucked either way. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20547548) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 6:57 PM Author: multi-colored crackhouse 1. 30 is way to old to try and gold dig 2. DESCRIBE why you are an unmarriageable shrew |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 7:00 PM Author: elite pozpig see above. I don't know, i just am. Never had success. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20546930) |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 10:08 PM Author: lemon dead place of business jap This is your prototypical entitled American whore.
Way too fucking picky to settle down with an appropriately matched mate, she figures that if her magical Prince Charming doesn't show she'll just "marry money". Yes, it's golddigging, and yes, it's ugly.
Shitlibs, this is what your "feminism" has created for us. The process is fucking over the culture of the country and warping the thought processes of women to the point of absurdity. |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:00 AM Author: elite pozpig oh hai, typical Republican asshole. Right - I'll just "settle down" with an "appropriately matched mate" because EVERY woman should be able to do that by 30, NBD. Even those who are probably sort of unstable and undesirable in a long-term relationship sort of way, who are otherwise hopeless. I don't see how marrying for something other than "love" is so irrational when your choices are pretty limited and you know you have looks/age going for you, but not much else.
I may even put this plan into action in the next year or 2, instead of waiting until 30. I don't know. It's the same feeling divorced women have after getting out of a bad marriage - you just stop caring, believing in the possibility of marrying for "true love" or that someone is truly out there for you. If you don't have compatibility in a way that could lead to a long-term relationship, then why force it. There's other options out there - either stay single for life, or fulfil other goals through marriage. Marriage isn't for everyone, nor do people always pursue it for the same reason. It's not a product of 'warped thinking' - it's a practical look at your limited options. I'm sure many would like to settle with an "appropriate match", but maybe that's not available for everyone, or desirable. |
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Date: April 25th, 2012 10:17 PM Author: mustard insanely creepy indian lodge old irish cottage Oh this is such bad flame. But it works because xoxo guys want to believe 27yo girls are desperate wanna-be golddiggers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20548538) |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:14 AM Author: heady blathering pervert electric furnace I haven't read the entire thread, but how would an individual with a history of no/failed relationships even be able to marry for money? I would assume that the female equivalent of an aspie basement virgin would end up settling for an average dude - no money, looks or charisma. LOL at thinking that you can suck with men your whole life and then suddenly become a successful golddigger because you upped your age bracket. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550230) |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:18 AM Author: elite pozpig yeah i am relatively attractive and able to get guys if i wanted, but very few interest me/have any chemistry with me. I also never really wanted to date in undergrad, as i viewed it as a waste of time for the most part. Hard to explain, but think that this is a realistic option for me, and more likely than actually marrying a decent guy i get along with. Also, I tend to like relationships that are slightly unequal where the guy is more successful than me. I figure an older guy (in his 40s) may date a younger girl (in her late 20s/early 30s) who's still relatively attractive and smart, nice, but doesn't have much else to offer by way of relationship experience. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550287) |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:20 AM Author: heady blathering pervert electric furnace do what you do good luck, ladyfriend |
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Date: April 26th, 2012 1:22 AM Author: elite pozpig thanks :( it's not the best option. I just feel like it's pretty much my only option that I could tolerate, besides being single all my life. i wouldn't want to just settle with someone I'm not interested in. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1932803&forum_id=2#20550329) |