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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:18 PM Author: Dun shrine main people My GF and I have been together for 4 years and living together for 1 year. We always fight about the same thing, since we moved in together. Basically, she does something that irks me, such as leaving dishes dirty after 'washing' them, or not leaving the house for long periods of time. I then ask her to do something a certain way so things run more smoothly, or to go out once in a while for an errand or something, and sometimes, she resists.
For example, we have a toddler together. I asked her yesterday to take our kid to get a snack after daycare. Normally, I pick him up and we go get a snack everyday after daycare. He expressed he wanted his mommy to go yesterday, but later told us he wanted both of us to go. I asked my GF to please take him out, just him and her, and to please do it for me. After she appeared to be resisting, I said until she does that, I would not be cleaning the living room (she has been asking me to move all my clutter out of the living room for months now, and I had started the day before and was going to complete it yesterday).
She responded with a 'maybe' to my request to take him out on her own, because she thinks I threatened her, because the cleaning became contingent on her abiding to my request. She said she probably would have said yes if I had just asked, without contingency. She also mentioned she had scheduled a whole day with him at home already and had picked out movies for them to watch together, and felt she shouldn't have to change her schedule just because I felt like I wanted her to take him out.
I do alot for her- I pay for everything and she lives on my dime. She only pays her own credit cards. I feel like it was not alot to ask of her, because he asked for his mommy. She felt that he wanted both of us to go. In the end, we ended up going, all three of us.
I was pretty pissed after that last night, and only talked to her when absolutely necessary with one word responses to her questions.
She came to me late last night and wanted to hash things out, but I had an important interview in the morning. She kept asking and wouldn't stop, until I blew up and yelled. I missed my interview this morning, because I was not able to prepare adequately.
Our fights always start out small, but emotionally it gets to be so much that I miss job interviews (this was not the first time this has happened) or I can't function properly at work after it. I know this happens with her too.
She doesn't like that I become curt after a fight, and she always pushes to try to resolve things right away, when I usually need a few days to recover (to cool off).
Thoughts? |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:19 PM Author: Balding factory reset button site Stopped reading at "we have a toddler together."
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:22 PM Author: Dun shrine main people Neither of us want to marry. We are young. Both of our parents divorced. You value marriage? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117094) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:30 PM Author: Beta Laughsome National Idiot, divorce isn't pathetic in a vacuum. It sucks because it means breaking up up a family. Failing to attempt having a family when you already have a kid is even worse. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117190) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:33 PM Author: Dun shrine main people divorce court isn't a pain in the ass? dividing assets, alimony, etc. i have heard otherwise. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117224) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:44 PM Author: Beta Laughsome National Of course it's a pain in the ass. God it's insane how kids born since the seventies have no fucking idea what a family is.
Let me explain it in simple terms: in theory, families are forever. They don't fall apart because mommy found someone who makes her feel more beautiful or because daddy can't keep his dick zipped. This stable environment provides a potentially secure environment in which children can thrive.
Modern corporate america has little use for "families". It has had lots of use for cheap labor, which it got by convincing everyone of both sexes that careers are more virtuous than family. It has lots of use for constant turbulence, becasue the more volatile people's lifestyles, the more they spend on shit. Also, family provides benefits that are not amenable to trade, and the economy would prefer we allocate resources to benefits that can be produced, sold, profited off of, and borrowed against.
Now, people like you have vestigial memories of what families looked like, but you lack the ability to conceive of things that are not commodities. So you describe yourself as giving your GF money, and bartering her care for your child for your cleaning services.
You are not failing to marry because you might get divorced. Your ultimate divorce is a result of your thorough inability to marry. |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 12:01 AM Author: Dun shrine main people I don't talk to any of my family. I do talk to my dad very occasionally, mostly because I feel bad for the guy. My brother is a really shitty person, and my mom left my dad for a week this year and then returned. The entire week, my dad was about to kill himself. I have not spoken to my mom since. She wiped out their entire bank account and even turned off the power, internet, etc, that week she left. Should I believe families are forever when my family is shit? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117491) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:21 PM Author: mint harsh chapel Why did you want her to leave the house? Weren't you at work? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117076) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:24 PM Author: Dun shrine main people I was home at that point. It was after work. But I wanted her to take our kid out, just her and him, because he was asking for his mommy the past few days when we were out. My GF is very reclusive. She spends most of her time alone. I thought it would be good for just the two of them to go out for a quick outing, and good for my son. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117123) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:47 PM Author: mint harsh chapel Did you just want to be alone for a little while? Or the actual reason was you wanted her to take your son out? Because this, she can do at any time during the day. Just curious what was the actual reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117368) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:51 PM Author: Dun shrine main people I wanted her to take him out. That was the actual reason. I do so much for her. I volunteer to run errands for her all the time, when she is perfectly capable of doing so herself, and all kinds of shit. It just felt weird she couldn't do a simple thing when I asked. I don't ask her to do something for me very often. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117409) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:52 PM Author: mint harsh chapel She probably thinks she's doing a huge job by being with the kid all day. TBF, it's a lot of work. Kids are exhausting. Not saying she shouldn't pitch in with stuff, just that she might think she's doing a lot of work too. Imagine having a nanny work from 7am to 7pm and when you get home still ask her to go take the kid out? That's how she might feel. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117420) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:27 PM Author: Cerebral Tank I'm sure this is flame but
1. You should just suggest she take the kid out. Why make it contingent on some other thing? Just say "hey why don't you guys go out for ice cream?" or something. Why threaten her? That seemed very unnecessary. Even if she says no she says she had other activities planned with him so calm down.
2. Why should a fight the night before cause you to miss an interview altogether? This seems like the passive aggressive "dinner is ruined because you were late" crap where the wife burns dinner because the husband is late. Just take the fucking thing out of the oven when it's ready. There's no reason a fight with your GF the night before should have caused you to completely miss an interview. Man up. |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:32 PM Author: Dun shrine main people When she came to me last night, I told her everything was fine and we would talk in the morning. She then said, we wouldn't talk in the morning, because she knew my interview was the entire morning and I was leaving at 6am. Then I told her, she was a bitch all day. She then wanted to know why I called her a bitch. I told her I did not have time for this now and to go to bed. She wouldn't go to bed and kept asking me why I called her a bitch. I blew up after a while, because she wouldn't leave me alone. After I am royally pissed, I have trouble concentrating. Instead of finishing the prep needed for the interview, I fell asleep. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117214) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:41 PM Author: Cerebral Tank So you thought the best way to get her off your back was to call her a bitch, then decided blowing off the interview entirely was better than showing up less prepared? CSB. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117305) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:53 PM Author: Dun shrine main people She was in fact being a bitch, so that was what I called her. What would you have said to her in such a situation? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117423) |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 3:43 PM Author: razzmatazz avocado pit lol. what, exactly, is wrong with you? that's not a taunt; i'm genuinely curious as to what your specific mental ailment is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26120615) |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:36 PM Author: flirting arousing corn cake bawdyhouse There are two people in this relationship. It's possible you both have issues, BUT, right now its clear that only you have issues.
Why the hell would you miss an interview, and moreover why on earth would that be her fault? Get yourself together you sound like a child. |
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Date: August 12th, 2014 11:41 PM Author: Dun shrine main people I'm a very even tempered guy, and almost never get pissed off. I don't know man, she really irks me, whenever she can't leave me alone after a fight. I don't know if this means we are not compatible or what. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117299) |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 2:58 AM Author: mewling blood rage associate wait, is she the mother of your child? why are you calling her a bitch? that's some low-class childish shit right there. who cares if she's acting like one. also, i've never heard of bartering responsibilities. sounds stupid. i'm not a parent but i come from a stable family and have a relatively healthy relationship. i'd never resort to name-calling or yelling at my gf. that's as far from me as physically assaulting her. also, you were acting like a little bitch by ordering her around and then throwing a hissyfit when she hesitated. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26118329) |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 11:21 AM Author: Dun shrine main people she was being a bitch. you probably have not been w/ your GF for long. After a few years and living together, things are different. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26119375) |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 5:02 PM Author: umber patrolman stage Surprised everyone is taking GF's side. It sounds like she sits at home all day while OP pays for everything. OP is a huge faggot but his GF could manage her time a lot better and run a decent household. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26121023) |
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Date: August 13th, 2014 5:16 PM Author: Henna Self-centered Faggot Firefighter Your poor, poor child, growing up to be just one more worthless white trash prole like hisp baby daddy. You don't like marriage? Perfectly respectable position, few people have a problem with this. But then Do NOT HAVE ANY GODDAMN KIDS.
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