For example, we have a toddler together. I asked her yesterday to take our kid to get a snack after daycare. Normally, I pick him up and we go get a snack everyday after daycare. He expressed he wanted his mommy to go yesterday, but later told us he wanted both of us to go. I asked my GF to please take him out, just him and her, and to please do it for me. After she appeared to be resisting, I said until she does that, I would not be cleaning the living room (she has been asking me to move all my clutter out of the living room for months now, and I had started the day before and was going to complete it yesterday).

She responded with a 'maybe' to my request to take him out on her own, because she thinks I threatened her, because the cleaning became contingent on her abiding to my request. She said she probably would have said yes if I had just asked, without contingency. She also mentioned she had scheduled a whole day with him at home already and had picked out movies for them to watch together, and felt she shouldn't have to change her schedule just because I felt like I wanted her to take him out.

I do alot for her- I pay for everything and she lives on my dime. She only pays her own credit cards. I feel like it was not alot to ask of her, because he asked for his mommy. She felt that he wanted both of us to go. In the end, we ended up going, all three of us.

I was pretty pissed after that last night, and only talked to her when absolutely necessary with one word responses to her questions.

She came to me late last night and wanted to hash things out, but I had an important interview in the morning. She kept asking and wouldn't stop, until I blew up and yelled. I missed my interview this morning, because I was not able to prepare adequately.

Our fights always start out small, but emotionally it gets to be so much that I miss job interviews (this was not the first time this has happened) or I can't function properly at work after it. I know this happens with her too.

She doesn't like that I become curt after a fight, and she always pushes to try to resolve things right away, when I usually need a few days to recover (to cool off).

Thoughts?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117043)

Lol white trash

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117053)

Let me explain it in simple terms: in theory, families are forever. They don't fall apart because mommy found someone who makes her feel more beautiful or because daddy can't keep his dick zipped. This stable environment provides a potentially secure environment in which children can thrive.

Modern corporate america has little use for "families". It has had lots of use for cheap labor, which it got by convincing everyone of both sexes that careers are more virtuous than family. It has lots of use for constant turbulence, becasue the more volatile people's lifestyles, the more they spend on shit. Also, family provides benefits that are not amenable to trade, and the economy would prefer we allocate resources to benefits that can be produced, sold, profited off of, and borrowed against.

Now, people like you have vestigial memories of what families looked like, but you lack the ability to conceive of things that are not commodities. So you describe yourself as giving your GF money, and bartering her care for your child for your cleaning services.

You are not failing to marry because you might get divorced. Your ultimate divorce is a result of your thorough inability to marry.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117334)

very tempted to share this on facebook but it would be out of character and potentially traceable back here

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26120627)

1. You should just suggest she take the kid out. Why make it contingent on some other thing? Just say "hey why don't you guys go out for ice cream?" or something. Why threaten her? That seemed very unnecessary. Even if she says no she says she had other activities planned with him so calm down.

2. Why should a fight the night before cause you to miss an interview altogether? This seems like the passive aggressive "dinner is ruined because you were late" crap where the wife burns dinner because the husband is late. Just take the fucking thing out of the oven when it's ready. There's no reason a fight with your GF the night before should have caused you to completely miss an interview. Man up.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117165)

Why the hell would you miss an interview, and moreover why on earth would that be her fault? Get yourself together you sound like a child.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26117246)

KIDS.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2643570&forum_id=2#26121113)