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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:34 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum Anyone use the tactic of ignoring a girl that you have been dating to try to stay in control of the relationship and to get her to like/want you more? Or, at least, trying to seem unavailable, etc.
I've been trying it, and it seems to work pretty well. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:39 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy LOL. I am almost positive the guy i'm dating is doign this as well. unfortunately he pissed me off last week and i'm goign to break if off with him, so if this is a tactic of his, it's not working.
it only works if you'er certain she's really into you. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:47 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum "it only works if you'er certain she's really into you."
this is somewhat correct. but even for girls that are only marginally interested in you, if a guy plays it right, it will increase her interest. (this works on guys as well.)
ive come to realize that the key is to ignore and deny. my friends told me to ignore, but they didnt emphasize the deny part. in other words, you need a good excuse for why you ignored her. this way, she gets pissed off and a lot more interested in you. but then you have a completely legitimate reason for ignoring her, and she cant get mad at you and feels like she is crazy instead. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:48 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy so what's your excuse? exams? that's his. i find it weak. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184243) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:51 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum That was one of mine. I had others though.
Tomorrow, I was thinking of just saying I was "out" and "hammered" and "too retarded to respond" (was too hammered or something) to her message from tonight. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:49 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum "I am almost positive the guy i'm dating is doign this as well. unfortunately he pissed me off last week and i'm goign to break if off with him, so if this is a tactic of his, it's not working."
He probably took it too far (i.e. was extreme with ignoring you), and didn't have a good excuse for it. If he had been more subtle about ignoring you, but still ignored you, it probably would have been more effective and would have increased your interest in him. But he prob took it too far and thus alienated you. |
Date: December 10th, 2006 1:49 AM Author: Chartreuse Fanboi im in this situation right now. my questoin is, if you are certain the girl is already very into you, why play coy and increase her interest further? what would be the point if shes already all about it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184257) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:52 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut girls get tired if they think they "have" a guy. you have to keep doubt in their mind. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184283) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:53 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band O RLY? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184286) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:16 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo Truth or myth? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184525) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:24 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band true only if she never really wanted him in the first place. I find that games work best when the 2 are really just playing a game and not really into each other. this explains why the thrill of the chase is worth more than the catch. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184586) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:31 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo But if she never wanted him in the first place, why bother dating him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184623) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:35 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band maybe she likes him but doesn't "like him like him." Many people don't have to deeply like someone to date them. Besides that, boredom. some find dating a fun exercise. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:41 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo But if she knows that she'd never want to marry him, then shouldn't she allow him to find someone who would, with her doing the same, so neither of them end up wasting their time? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184708) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:45 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy some find it fun, not a waste of time..
and the point of dating isn't necessarily to find your soulmate/spouse. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:56 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo It probably depends on their age but if they're already in their 30's, it's likely that at least one of them would be interested in getting married assuming they're interested in ever doing so? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184787) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:59 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy ok...but most people on xoxo are in their mid-late 20s i'd assume... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184803) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:08 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo I was giving an example. Some people prefer to get married in their 20s. I used 30s because that age example seemed to make more sense. There seem to be many threads on this board about people entering law school at age 29 so they'll be in their 30's when they graduate. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184843) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:45 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band People often don't date with the idea of screening the person for marriage. Sheesh. Plus, even if she's thinking THAT far ahead, how will she know if he's marriage material before going on a few dates to determine if she really likes him? |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:54 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo I agree. What I mean is, would she bother stringing him along for a couple years (to the point where he might ask her to marry him) or would she end more like after a month or two? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184779) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:56 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band years? Whole nother ball o wax from a couple of dates. Who the hell can maintain that for more than a couple of weeks? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184788) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:09 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo Now that you've given a time frame in your post, it's more clear. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184847) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:54 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum exactly. i think this is true of guys as well, at least to some extent. e.g. when a girl ignores me i end up wanting her more, mostly cuz it's a challenge i guess. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184306) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:55 AM Author: Chartreuse Fanboi you dont have to ignore her to do this. all you have to do is not be a pussy, be sparing with your attention, and not get so excited that a real life girl might let you rub your pee pee on her hoo hoo that you call her everyday wanting to make her dinner and take midnight strolls through the park. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184317) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:56 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum haha. 176. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184328) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:04 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut well, right, but this is just a matter of degree. I didn' think by ignoring they meant actually actively ignoring as much as they meant not paying attention to. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184409) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:06 AM Author: Chartreuse Fanboi well, thats kind of a stupid thing to say, then. unless the norm of early male courtship behavior among xoers is to call/IM/text incessantly the girl they are trying to get with.
i mean, it is xo |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:12 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I can only imagine what the "norm" for xoxo male courtship is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184487) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:13 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum jerking off to porn on their computers? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184496) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:53 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum She's interested in me, but not "very" into me, and she is being prude as well so I'm thinking this may increase her desire for me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184292) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:56 AM Author: Chartreuse Fanboi in these situations, i feel like alcohol works way better than ignoring (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184327) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:59 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184361) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:02 AM Author: Chartreuse Fanboi your problem might be that youre taking her on dates. dates are forced and awkward, especially if you havent hooked up or hung out for real before you go on them. hang out at home, get drunk, go to a quick dinner and then a bar, go to a concert. its hard to get comfortable with a person after only a couple 'dates' where you like go to dinner or a movie and then talk about work/school and then walk them to the door or whatever.
dont play that corny bullshit. get into a more relaxing situation |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:07 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184443) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:15 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy wait -- what do you want from her? just quick sex or a more serious relationship? is she also in law school? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184507) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:17 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184535) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:22 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy heh. so why would you want to go fast by just getting her drunk then? why not get to know each other better if you're not only aiming for sex? that will make her more relaxed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184568) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:24 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184583) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:37 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy so you basically just want sex, and think any relationship will develop after that... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184669) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:39 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184680) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:47 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy what if she doesn't want to have sex within the first few weeks? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184737) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:57 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum that is probably fine with me, but i am unlike most guys.
i would probably expect it within the first month or two, depending on how things are going/how we feel about each other. most guys would expect it within the first few weeks though, i think (or the first few dates, whichever is sooner). |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:01 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy I see. how old are you? why are you unlike most guys, you haven't dated many girls in the past? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184822) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:05 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184836) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:13 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy that's good, i respect that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184858) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:16 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184870) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:19 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy 21, turning 22 soon... thanks but no deal. :) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184886) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:21 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum oof. perfect age. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184906) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:28 AM Author: Arousing angry hell LOL glad I took a study break to catch this one. Yeah dude, sure she's a REAL HOT UG posting on xoxo on Saturday night. LOLZ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184963) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:30 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum haha i know (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184976) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:33 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy ok this makes me feel really bad. honestly it does. i feel really stupid now. like imagine for a minute that i'm not flame -- can you see how that comment could possibly offend? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185002) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:42 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum it's certainly possible that you could be a hot, 21-22 year-old, undergrad chick posting on xoxo at 3:30 am on a saturday night.
but we're going by probabilities here. the chances are very low that it's true (though admittedly, i have no data on the frequency of flame on this message board or other message boards). |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:44 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy umm WHY? it IS exam week right about now. even hot girls are studying right now. either way, whatever. this is stupid. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185065) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:56 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy I'm sorry. I still find this really offensive. Really offensive.
But at the same time it's caused me to evaluate some things in my life.....i'm not normal. at all. i have like anxiety problems, etc. etc....i'm too complex for most people. i should go out more and just force myself to be with people, and such....
k i'm not visiting xoxo again. i stopped around august and then started again cause i was really stressed with this stupid essay, but i'm like done....completely. i just find this really personally frustrating and am really offended, i'm sorry. I understand what you're saying but... just from my perspective, it's somewhat hurtful...sorry. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 4:31 AM Author: haunting swashbuckling antidepressant drug sandwich HA, you'll be back in a week with a different moniker, vforvomit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185319) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:31 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy umm yeah actually i am. i'm a fairly complex person though....and i should be studying. i have a million things due next week, honestly.... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184982) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:37 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy why do you keep deleting your posts?? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184671) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:39 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184685) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:25 AM Author: aromatic love of her life Date: December 3rd, 2006 4:52 PM Author: vforvomit
i've already said i'm leaving this is unnecessary. i haven't posted here since like august, so it's easy for me to quit. hth asshole.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=538545&forum_id=2#7128883)
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:13 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy geez... do you really live in boston? this is sorta the same with me... we just started dating. we were supposed to meet this weekend but I think he's going too fast, probably just wants quick rebound sex (which i don't respect) and so i told him i can't meet this weekend at all... and so busy maybe not even 'til next semester (half-jokingly.) he responded like 'yeah i'm really busy too... g'luck.'
and hasn't msged/called me, although he was almost everyday before to meet up. he also goes on facebook a lot so i think he's purposely ignoring me by not msging me on msn. if he were so committed to exams, he wouldn't be wasting time on facebook. plus he's extremely lazy, i can't even picture him studying for more than 2 hrs. straight. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:15 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum for one, how would you know if he's on facebook or not? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184516) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:17 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy facebook newsfeed, duh. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184532) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:19 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum stalking him, i see. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184543) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:23 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy oh please. facebook makes it so easy it's hardly 'stalking'. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184576) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:25 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum are you hot? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184594) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:35 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy i'd say so...why. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184652) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:37 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum call me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184670) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:36 AM Author: aromatic love of her life She's not a girl dude. It's the same schtick as vforvomit. When everyone started accusing "her" of not being a girl, "she" started over. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184662) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:39 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy i am not a schtick. i'd be happy to e-mail people pics if i didn't think they'd publicly post them. i think you're just jealous and that's why you're so inane with this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184684) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:40 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I'm trustworthy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184690) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:40 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum same here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184696) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:41 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I've posted on here for lik 5 years (or more, can't remember) and have had the pics of at least 100 posters and enver posted any.
also my full name is on this site, so I don't really want to piss anybody off. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:42 AM Author: mauve cruise ship ratface Send it to NASC - write XOXO - OC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184711) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:07 AM Author: haunting swashbuckling antidepressant drug sandwich Did you get a picture? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184841) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:41 AM Author: mauve cruise ship ratface Do it - I remember they asked you several times to post a pic with XOXOHTH and you wouldn't. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184707) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:45 AM Author: aromatic love of her life Date: December 3rd, 2006 4:43 PM Author: vforvomit
see no one has any reasons. they're likely just saying this because i'm jealous or because my posts seem inconsistent or who knows.
Date: December 3rd, 2006 4:47 PM Author: leaf
Post a body shot with you holding up a hand-written note with a message of our choosing. Perhaps "XOXO HTMFH"?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=538537&forum_id=2#7128829)
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Date: December 3rd, 2006 4:48 PM Author: vforvomit
no i'm not coming back to this site anyway.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=538537&forum_id=2#7128837)
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:24 AM Author: Beady-eyed kink-friendly ceo What was the discussion about that causes boston08 to edit a bunch of posts? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184929) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:46 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I thought it was because he's not a racist and that was what's so insane about this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184731) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:48 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy ? i don't follow. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184743) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:53 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut http://captainoftheussinevitable.ytmnsfw.com/?b4d2b08734a9a8c968b47512fc0cd155 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184773) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:40 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum hm, interesting. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184691) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:09 AM Author: haunting swashbuckling antidepressant drug sandwich i think i know who u are, lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184846) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:23 AM Author: aromatic love of her life post a pic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184924) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:51 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band It grows old real quick. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184267) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:51 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I found that the ingore/pay attention cycle works best. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184271) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:52 AM Author: laughsome aquamarine elastic band true, but not if you prolong it past its due date. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184284) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:55 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum i think this is correct. this way, she knows you really like her/are into her. but then you make her question it and want your attention again.
it's like psychological conditioning. give attention, then she wants more. but you cant keep giving it, or else she will tire of it. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:12 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut Date: February 7th, 2006 1:40 PM Author: NASC (http://www.lawschoolnumbers.com/display.php?user=nascjacket)
basically it boils down to the females need to ahve attention. Many men think that ignoring women is the best way, and while for some desirable men that works, for the majority of men the best strategy is a periodic alternation of attention and ignoring. All women desire some amount of attention from all guys, get her to start to get used to your attention and then withdraw it. Wait a good amount of time where her withdrawal symptoms are greatest and then relieve it. She will often confuse this relieving of withdrawal pain with love, even if she doesn't really desire you at all. And with the female psyche, confusing soemthing with love actually then turns it into love (because with the female psyche, how something feels ultimately decides what that thing is) and causes her "keep the man at all costs" instinct to turn on.
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:14 AM Author: garnet hospital place of business "because with the female psyche, how something feels ultimately decides what that thing is"
holy shit, you articulate what i was thinking |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:27 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum i dont completely understand this statement, or perhaps maybe its supposed depth.
how is this different from how guys interpret feelings? |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:32 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut its not interpreting feelings. its that for women everything is feelings. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184632) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:20 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum this is a great post. 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184557) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:26 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I thought this bit went underappreciated:
"Women have a very difficult time putting their feelings in ordinal ranks, and thus you can often confuse them into a heap of indecision. This doesn't mean that these long term feelings don't exist though. It jsut means that its very hard for a woman to give them a precise ranking at any specific point in time. Over the long run, some feelings will more consistently get her to decide oen way rather than the other, and can thus be said to be the stronger feelings, but in any specific case, its just as imprecise (and quite analgous to) quantum mechanics."
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:31 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum This is an interesting psychological discussion. I like theorizing on this stuff. Most of your stuff seems pretty accurate too (and I believe much of my "theorizing" on such matters in the past has been as well).
It would be interesting to see how this plays out though in an actual study/experiment.
Is there any good, accessible psychological literature out there on this stuff? I mean, I know there is some stuff out there on relationships, but does it have any practical value or is it too academic to actually be interesting?
Also, do you have a psychology background? |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:41 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy i don't believe you can classify "women" into one grouping like that, nor do I believe the same with men. it's too generalized.....waaaay too generalized. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184702) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:42 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut it was only meant to be a generalization. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184712) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:16 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy yeah i do the same. i completely agree with this, and it usually works, but like... i'm already a bit pissed with this guy so it is only making me more pissed at this point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184524) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:57 AM Author: flesh orchestra pit My tactic is to not be a loser. It works quite well. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184336) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 1:58 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum not a bad idea. but for those of us who are dorks/losers, we need to use the aforementioned tactics (in part, to seem cool). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184348) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:03 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut http://www.xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=355025&mc=149&forum_id=2#5020246 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184395) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:24 AM Author: Shimmering excitant site when guys ignore me i just go on to someone esle. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184587) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:32 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum yes, but not if they have a valid excuse! i.e. not if they can legitimately claim that they were not ignoring you, thus making you feel stupid/crazy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184628) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:35 AM Author: Shimmering excitant site have you even been on a date yet. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184650) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:41 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184701) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:45 AM Author: Shimmering excitant site that was a funny and original lie. i LOLzed all over the place. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184730) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:52 AM Author: Hairraiser Parlor Reading Party to the relief of everyone other than "someone else" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184770) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:46 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum anyone have any good excuses for denying that youre ignoring a girl, or good stories to tell of stuff that has worked? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184735) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:49 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut just say you needed some time to "think about things" and when she asks like what just say "I don't really feel like getting into it right now, I have a lot I need to sort out"
this accomplishes 3 things:
1) makes you not seem assholish
2) turns on her "aw, i need to take care of him and fix hiw with my love" apparatus
3) makes her secretly afraid that you're contemplating not being with her
works especially well if she asks if it has to do with her and you are very vague. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:52 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy no, i'd assume he has some baggage from a past relationship he needs to get over. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184767) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:56 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum yea i think you have a point. plus, how many times could you say "i have some things to sort out" before she starts to think you're a psycho.
i need more than one excuse because i may be ignoring several times in the near future. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 2:59 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut then just say you didn't realize you were doing that or just outright deny that you're doing it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184807) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:04 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy say that you didn't get her messages (if on msn) -- you were away from the computer. didn't intend on ignoring her. busy with exams, hard to multitask. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184830) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:10 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut hey, do you want to send a pic? if not I understand, but if you want you can verify it tomorrow that I'm trustworthy. even the people who don't like me on here will verify that I'm trustworthy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184850) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:15 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy i'll think about it. not sure. i don't even have a webcam anyway so i can't instantly just take a pic with a sign or whatnot, but i'm a bit scared of it leaking. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184866) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:17 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut that's cool
it won't leak. if it does you can find my name by searching "nasc outted" and do somehting shitty. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:18 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut email is nascjacket@gmail.com
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:26 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy nasc i am emailing you in a bit, check your email in 5 mins. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184944) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:37 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut I checked. didn't get anything (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185025) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:46 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy yeah i realized the question i was going to ask you was really general and not worth asking. and i should get to bed anyway. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185074) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:47 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185081) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:04 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum Let me ask NASC, the expert, another question, while he is here.
I know that generally, guys should avoid talking about dorky stuff, like law school, etc.
But, if you're dating a girl that you are in law school with, you have that in common, and it is a good conversation piece (which courses, etc.). It's always good to have stuff in common. She is pretty into law school, as am I.
I've been thinking that I should try to avoid talking about it too much though, because I don't want her to think I'm a dork (even though we both know that we are both kind of dorky). I'm thinking this will reduce my chances of ultimately getting with her. Correct? And should I reduce the law school talk to as little as possible, at least for the first few dates? |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:05 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut talk about what you are most comfortable talking about. You shouldn't have to think about what you are going to talk about. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184834) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:08 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum Yes...
BUT, when talking with her, I want to give her a good impression of myself. I want her to perceive me in a certain way, and if I talk about law school too much, her perception of me is going to be like he is not fun and a dork, and I don't want get with him. At least, this is how non-law-school girls would think (and it's prob true even about law school girls to some extent). |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:11 AM Author: Comical pink death wish If you are a boring dork, it's going to come out sooner or later. Just be yourself and talk about what you find interesting. Either she buys it or she doesn't. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184853) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:17 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum yes, but you want to give a good first impression. that crap can come out later. but, at least at first, i should try to be cool. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184877) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:12 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut you can only present yourself as as interesting as you are. most people run into trouble when they are trying too hard. you'll come off a lot better talking about something you are comfortable with that is, on its face, not especially interesting than talking about something you aren't really comfortable with but on the surface sounds interesting. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184855) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:18 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum true (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184878) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:23 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum how do i develop a personality again?
i used to be somewhat cool. then i became a dork and went to law school and became even more of a dork during 1L when i was pretty much a hermit for a year. now i am trying to be more social. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:25 AM Author: obsidian lodge juggernaut talk to people. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184932) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:29 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy i'm sorta the same actually....but people would think i'm a party-type looknig at me. But I'm really not.....(evidently, if i'm on xoxo on a sat. night even if i am supposed to be studying!! lol.)
But I'm not really into pop culture...don't go to a lot of movies regularly, or watch TV, usually too busy studying or listening to music and working out..that's basically what i do on my off-time. i work out. i'm not sure how much we can talk about that, although he's really into sports so that's something but i don't really watch sports that much either. |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:35 AM Author: Arrogant Purple Jew Puppy interesting that stereotypical perceptions again make people think i'm flame. however i posted this before that reply was posted. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7185015) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 4:09 AM Author: Comical pink death wish I think people are sexiest when they're really passionate about something. In fact, it hardly matters what it is.
If I'm with someone I can tell I don't have much in common with, I try to sound out what really makes them excited, ask questions about it, and enjoy learning from them. If they can't get fired up about anything--and go out of their way to show how "beyond it all" they are--I think that's lame. A huge turnoff, really. If it's just a case of their being shy, I start in on some of interests or funny stories of my own to get them going. If it doesn't work, oh well! |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:09 AM Author: chocolate curious old irish cottage trailer park I read the title to this thread and thought you wanted to know how to develop sexual attraction toward women, generally. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=543008&forum_id=2#7184845) |
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Date: December 10th, 2006 3:13 AM Author: hyperactive disgusting brethren forum yea that crossed my mind when i created the thread, then i wanted to change it, but had already posted. haha
i was going to change it to "building girls' interest/desire" |