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Has anyone here cut out one or both parents
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:02 AM Author: .,.,.;;,;.,;:,:,,:,.,:,::,..;.,:,.:;.:.,;.:.,:.::, if so expound (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286193) |
Date: September 20th, 2025 9:16 AM Author: '"'"''"'"'''"''" My parents are divorced, so my dad was completely out of my life by middle school. I cut out my mom after high school because she was a bad, neglectful parent. Mostly her own fault, although partly caused by being poor. Cut out my entire family, in fact.
I think it was a mostly positive experience, and I still think it was the right thing to do, although it made life more stressful because I had to be independent and self-sufficient right after high school. It was better for my mental health to get away from all the negativity that came from my family. I developed close friendships with a supportive friend group in college that essentially replaced my family. But I had to work 20+ hours a week in college and still had to take out loans.
I subletted every summer during college because there was no way I'd be coming back home. I did internships every summer to cover expenses and save a little.
My mom would still send me occasional emails, which I never responded to.
Entering the real world after college, it was stressful as an inexperienced fresh grad with no family to support me. So I became an over-performer at work, which stressed me out. But as a result of that hard work, I'm ahead of nearly all of my peers career-wise.
Life became increasingly isolating as I reached my 30s. I still had friends, but everyone was busy with work, dating, kids, moving away, etc.
In my mid-30s I decided to reconnect with my mom because I became more aware of my mortality, and I didn't want to hold a grudge for the rest of my life. By then she had definitely mellowed out, but she's still a highly negative/toxic person. I talk to her occasionally now, but I generally keep my distance and don't attend most family events. |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:18 AM Author: 130k in childhood bedroom tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286205) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:33 AM Author: Paralegal Dhananjay I can step in and dad you around if you want. Want me to teach you to ride a bike or throw a ball? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286223) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:51 AM Author: .,.,.;;,;.,;:,:,,:,.,:,::,..;.,:,.:;.:.,;.:.,:.::, i have begrudgingly let them be a minor but consistent presence in my life but as i've aged into my 30s i have become more bitter and resentful for the stress and retardation that they injected into my childhood household. i get very little out of our relationship and i do not look forward to the rare times we do actually see each other, i see it as pure chore and annoyance. other than that i permit a perfunctory weekly phone call as a low effort way to maintain a semblance of a relationship, for the sake of our dignity and to avoid whatever pain and regret would come with a severance. i dislike the thought that their continued presence in my life perhaps weighs on my spirit but i also recognize that it is perhaps my own responsibility not to allow it to do so if i can keep up the charade with a bare minimum of effort.
it would be easier to cut them off if they were explicitly abusive towards me as a child but whatever neglect they acted with during my childhood was simply a function of their abject retardation despite their good intentions, which makes things more difficult. |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 11:13 AM Author: 130k in childhood bedroom tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286428) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 12:04 PM Author: Paralegal Mohammad (Death, death to the IDF!) Same here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286546) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:42 AM Author: you\'re the puppet We've grown more distant since the baby but not formally estranged. Talk once a month, no visits. Seeing my mom with the baby helped me see how toxic and selfish she is. For some reason I couldnt see it as clearly when it was me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286246) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 10:00 AM Author: chad gundam (🧐) Like she tried to eat the baby or what? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286282) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 11:41 AM Author: you\'re the puppet Lol. I would have noticed if she tried to eat me and my sister. Let's face it, we were both looking for the signs...
It's a bit more diabolical than that. She tried to sabotage the nanny (twice with two different nannies before we caught on) so that she was more needed. She'll make snide remarks about the baby not being good enough (even though she is literally the world's best baby) and about our parenting skills being subpar. Meanwhile she says shit like "breast milk is overrated" and "get stone edging instead of these soft rubber things that will keep the baby from splitting her head open, the stone looks better"
Basically everything she does is out of self interest. Why is breast milk overrated? Because she didn't bother so to admit that it's good for the baby is to admit she did something less than perfectly. This will not happen. It's just toxic and unpleasant to have her over and I don't have the energy for it. |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 11:14 AM Author: 130k in childhood bedroom tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286430) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 9:44 AM Author: wagecuck who has lost the joie de vivre (his own flesh as well as all space was still a cage) At this point I just want my inheritances and then we can move forward by focusing on the younger generation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286249) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 10:01 AM Author: chad gundam (🧐) How much did you pay for school (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286284) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 11:15 AM Author: wagecuck who has lost the joie de vivre (his own flesh as well as all space was still a cage) I graduated law school and I had $112,000 in debt at my high water mark with no assets. Now I have a net worth of $2,010,000. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286432) |
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Date: September 20th, 2025 11:13 AM Author: 130k in childhood bedroom tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5777920&forum_id=2...id#49286429) |