How do you feel about people who are "in love"
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Date: December 15th, 2025 7:14 PM Author: I can tell you right now
I believe in marriage. I believe in duty to your wife and family. I believe in physical attraction. I believe in interdependency.
But I don't believe in love. The kind that you hear from musicians and you see in Disney movies. When you see two people who look so happy and you can tell they, in that moment, mistake what they have as that illusion, how do you feel?
I used to feel disdain and a weird hint of envy and pity. Disdain for the trap that this illusion represents. Envy for the bliss they currently have in their ignorance about how temporary and conditional their "love" is. Pity for how likely they will be eventually disappointed. Now, when I see it, it's more just "oh that's cute" like how an adult looks feels when they see kids wearing costumes to get candy on Halloween.
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Date: December 15th, 2025 8:13 PM Author: Ozzie Canseco
that stuff is kind of gay past maybe college but i dont really feel any emotion other than good for them.
how do you feel about these two
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d310qj8jXJE
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Date: December 15th, 2025 7:29 PM Author: MuhammadAziz Umurzakov
why do you think it's an "illusion"
you can say that all human subjective experiences are "illusions" because they're created by our brains. but it's not a meaningful statement
romantic love is definitely real
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Date: December 15th, 2025 8:16 PM Author: I can tell you right now
You’re arguing against something I’m not saying. I’m not denying that people feel romantic love. I’m denying the fairytale people attach to it, that it’s permanent, unconditional, or a foundation that can sustain a marriage on its own.
The feeling is real. The story layered on top of it is the illusion. That’s why it predictably dies out and has to be replaced by duty, commitment, and interdependence if things are going to last.
So, when I see that early glow, I don’t dismiss it. I just don’t mistake it for something timeless.
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Date: December 15th, 2025 8:26 PM Author: MuhammadAziz Umurzakov
you're way too unfocused with whatever it is that you're trying to say
yeah obviously there are limitations and boundaries on being in love. it's not a permanent state. no one believes that
the only reason why people say they're "in love" with their high school girlfriend and "in love" with their wife of 40 years is because the english language doesn't have separate terms for those two separate phenomena
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Date: December 15th, 2025 8:35 PM Author: I can tell you right now
That’s a semantics strawman.
I’m not disputing vocabulary or claiming anyone thinks the feeling lasts forever. I’m pointing out that people treat the feeling as decisive while it lasts—they let intensity do work it shouldn’t. That’s the illusion.
Arguing about how English labels different states doesn’t touch on what I'm saying. It just explains why people keep confusing a temporary feeling with something authoritative.
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Date: December 15th, 2025 9:43 PM
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