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Wife quitting her job to be SAHM
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:28 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce I think this is going to be a good thing, but interested in others experiences (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660831) |
Date: February 10th, 2026 12:32 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle flesh office State the terms of your prenup before I engage you further (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660842) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:57 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Prenup status is non existant (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660946) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:02 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle flesh office Pepper angus my man! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660980) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:05 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Nature of the assignment (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660997) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:07 PM Author: Adventurous sable garrison death wish (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661012) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:32 PM Author: mildly autistic clown market how many kids do you have (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660845) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:57 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce 2, elementary and early middle school (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660950) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:06 PM Author: Boyish Mad Cow Disease lol, she ain’t never going back to work (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661008) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:08 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce cr cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661018) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:36 PM Author: zippy purple mad-dog skullcap lay what's her #? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660854) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:57 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Rude, but 1! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660952) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:07 PM Author: Boyish Mad Cow Disease He meant phone number, sicko (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661009) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:37 PM Author: know-it-all cream fortuitous meteor giraffe what could go wrong? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660858) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:58 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Mainly worries that she will spend all new free time thinking of new ways to spend money (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660957) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:35 PM Author: Adventurous sable garrison death wish (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661104) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:47 PM Author: twisted trailer park odds are your household chores actually go up after this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660904) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:48 PM Author: coiffed chestnut stage gaping she will get bored and want to open a "bead store" or something (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660909) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:50 PM Author: swashbuckling sticky feces *anal bead store (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660915) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:02 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle flesh office (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660986) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:59 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Zero chance (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660965) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:01 PM Author: Doobsian big mother laser beams she's taking on a ton of emotional labor bro, help her out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660972) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 7:04 PM Author: orchid coffee pot Cr. They lose momentum and get in the habit of doing nothing vs. a multitasking synchronized sprint to coordinate dishwasher, clothes washer, and dryer cycles with kids’ bath time in the lulls like they had to when they only had a couple of hours to do 4 hours’ worth of work on a weeknight evening. You will come home to a disaster almost daily. *You* will be doing dishes at 11:30pm. *You* will be folding clothes on the weekend because the fucking baskets full have been sitting there since last week. And god forbid you ever make a suggestion that perhaps she could handle some of this shit and wtf do you actually do all day. And she will be less happy than when she was working because of years of conditioning that American female fulfillment can only come from email jobs. You may not notice any of this right away, but after the honeymoon, it is almost certain. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661904) |
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Date: February 11th, 2026 10:07 AM Author: milky space newt Meh there are definitely periods like this for my SAHM wife and periods where she does everything, and for sure she acknowledges that having more time means more phone means shittier brain and less motivated and more depression prone overall, but 1) that’s also periodically true of many/most wives with email jobs unless your wife is really a super striver at work (in which case it’s dumb to have her SAHM), but my wife was down this path pre-SAHM, 2) the same critique obviously also applies to me and my lazy non-striver antics at my job, and 3) SAHM wife still does a great job managing kids and making sure they are doing all the bullshit kids have to do now to be functional and develop normally in 2026. For me 3) is a reasonable trade to accept doing some dishes and cooking some times, and I basically never fold laundry. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662828) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 11:21 PM Author: gold duck-like sound barrier Cr. More time in the house means more messes for op to clean up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662466) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 12:50 PM Author: Doobsian big mother laser beams how involved were you in this "decision"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660914) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:01 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce My comp increase this year was 2x her salary (and I already made 90% of HHI) before. I told her if her if she didn’t enjoy her job, what’s the point? You don’t need to work (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660970) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:00 PM Author: Vigorous legal warrant How much is she making now? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660969) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:01 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Part time job making around 45k (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49660975) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:20 PM Author: Mind-boggling area wagecucks Lol don't u realize that housechores/nanny costs more than 45k. And you actually get better tax writeoff I'd she can make jobs for your llc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661390) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:37 PM Author: Filthy Fanboi Wrinkle Congrats friend. You made it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661107) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 1:38 PM Author: electric gaming laptop seems a little late for that if the youngest is in elementary school lmao. say no. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661109) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:15 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce We will see what unfolds. I do think it will be a QoL improvement for both of us (her more so obviously!) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661364) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:17 PM Author: Anal talking pit Wait is this tree man? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661373) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:17 PM Author: Supple lodge bad call
the point isn't for her to make money, the point is so she doesn't lose total perspective over hard it is to make money, and to keep her busy so that retarded hamster wheel in her mind doesn't go amok
now she will have brunch with friends every day, compare husbands, spend your money, think of new ways to spend your money, fuck darnell then take you to the cleaners
rip
you should have kept her pushing up the rock like sisyphus |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:22 PM Author: Mind-boggling area wagecucks Or she can plan your vacations. I.e. you tell her April 1-15 is vacation and she figures out how to spend it in antalya or Greece or Tel Aviv. Instead of pretending like her job makes her too busy to take care of that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661397) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:26 PM Author: Supple lodge here's the counterintuitive thing: it gets *easier* to do more stuff the more you do. it gets *harder* to do more stuff the less you do. when your whole day is open, doing the littlest thing becomes hell after awhile (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661415) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:44 PM Author: Slimy henna kitchen scourge upon the earth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661477) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 7:05 PM Author: orchid coffee pot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661906) |
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Date: February 11th, 2026 11:05 AM Author: Boyish Mad Cow Disease Guy speaking from experience (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662982) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:27 PM Author: zippy purple mad-dog skullcap lay this is retarded. having a SAHW makes them more dependent on you.
anyone that forces their wife to send emails for kikes when they don't need the money is part of the problem. renormalizing traditional single income families is 180. |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:27 PM Author: Supple lodge that dependency is exactly the argument she'll use in divorce court (for you the second time), enjoy! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661419) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:33 PM Author: Cerebral forum dragon Are you married? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661437) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:35 PM Author: bossy spruce institution (((Consuela))) married a Guatamalan with the body shape of a microwave box (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661446) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:37 PM Author: zippy purple mad-dog skullcap lay which he complains about all the time.
clearly the best resource for advice on a maintaining a happy marriage! |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:38 PM Author: Supple lodge Yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661457) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 5:26 PM Author: Cerebral forum dragon You have kids? I don't know all the Consuela lore and will always think of you as Cock of Michael Obama btw. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661724) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:33 PM Author: zippy purple mad-dog skullcap lay id rather than do the socially and personally optimal thing than fret about getting divorceraped when even in that worse case scenario i still would be fine. also prenups, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661438) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:39 PM Author: Supple lodge Good luck! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661460) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:31 PM Author: bossy spruce institution here comes the opinion of a genetic dead end black piller, guys! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661432) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:39 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce divorce just isn’t a big concern. Unthinkable (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661461) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:46 PM Author: Supple lodge You may be the only poster who doesn’t come from a broken home (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661483) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:17 PM Author: Mind-boggling area wagecucks I am not married but plan to have a sahw. Basically it means I can get head before work and after work(I work from home in my office). And if you think about it chores that a woman can do like raising kids costs 100k+ and you can write off all the taxes, make her a roth ira, solo 401k, etc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661375) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:32 PM Author: bossy spruce institution but you will marry a mongolian (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661435) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:43 PM Author: seedy hot crackhouse trump supporter Explain how you write off taxes or have a Roth ira for a sahm? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661474) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:44 PM Author: coiffed chestnut stage gaping Aren't you like 45 by now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661476) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:55 PM Author: bossy spruce institution he's 52, not flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661507) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:45 PM Author: Supple lodge lol you’re never having sex again (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661480) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:30 PM Author: stirring demanding theatre masturbator Can answer questions. What do you want to know? She seems happy and has been a great wife and mother but it's not for everyone. Based on your other posts it appears you're already HNW and that's the main reason she's stopping work. No denying having a SAHW allows you to dedicate more time to your career, which typically means more travel. Which is why quite a few men above a certain career threshold have SAHWs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661424) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:34 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce LOL the last thing I want to do is devote more time to my career, but probably need to. I’m also about to inherit a huge book from a retiring partner and income could easily double over the next few years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661444) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:43 PM Author: stirring demanding theatre masturbator That's the thing, isn't it?
It is important to have clear expectations and communication around the expectations. For us it was a natural evolution that was kickstarted by having our first baby at the same time I was offered an expat gig. From that moment she never went back to work and it undeniably made it easier for me to be aggressive about work. Not too many years later it became clear if she returned to the workforce her income would barely reach 25% of what I was bringing home (and even worse now) the economics just wasn't there.
Some women will miss work. Some women feel the need to be generating wealth and assets of their own. In our case I do treat her well. Very well. Everything is comingled. Properties in both names.
Do suggest she find something to do outside the house and projects. In my wife's case it's exercise and fitness. Unfortunately her projects includes the rest of the family so our meals are the meals of health and fitness people rather than the search for umami. But I don't mind. It keeps her busy.
Also don't nitpick her spending. As long as she isn't unreasonably extravagant. We have cleaners and outsource stuff. I'm not having her scrubbing toilets just because she isn't working.
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Date: February 10th, 2026 4:24 PM Author: Boyish Mad Cow Disease In like a decade when she’s banging the tennis trainer you’ll need to come back to this thread and remember how you got there. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661568) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 4:31 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Cmon man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661586) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:42 PM Author: seedy hot crackhouse trump supporter It's good if she's conscientious and motivated. She should get involved in school stuff, pta, volunteer for kids extracurriculars etc. This can be a huge boost to the kids social lives since all those involved sahms form a clique and organize play dates and other social events for their kids, but she needs to be social and proactive. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661468) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:43 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce Yea, she is already super involved with school volunteer stuff so I can see more of that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661472) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 3:57 PM Author: Vengeful Maroon Boiling Water New Version lol SAHM for two kids? It’s only worth it as an investment if you have 4 or more (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661512) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 4:14 PM Author: Supple lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661554) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 4:30 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce I don’t see this as an “investment” (which would be a terrible one) but as a luxury (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661583) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 6:02 PM Author: know-it-all cream fortuitous meteor giraffe she should keep a part time job for lols, but if she hates it, then stay at home looks pretty good. does she golf at all? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661794) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 6:15 PM Author: Frisky carnelian piazza lettuce She likes to ride me with sometimes and mess around, but never tried to seriously play. My oldest daughter is a golf nut so I think she would enjoy picking it up (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49661813) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 8:45 PM Author: Carmine tank macaca Props to her for jumping on the SAHM mom train after the kids leave the house lol. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662133) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 9:25 PM Author: Filthy Fanboi Wrinkle To be fair, of kids are / will be big into sports a lot of the heavy lifting is just now starting. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662207) |
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Date: February 10th, 2026 11:37 PM Author: Lascivious bat shit crazy really tough guy Why is she staying at home when both kids are in school all day? It would have made sense if the kids were both between 0-4 years old. Now she’s just cooking and cleaning which won’t keep her busy enough. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5833270&forum_id=2...id#49662485) |