He left me on read for a long time. Like 45 min. To the point where I expected him to say something like “haha no thanks” and it to just be another rejection in a string of rejections. Surprisingly he said “that would be fantastic”. He called me soon after to say with traffic he wouldn’t be home for almost 2 hours (his commute is terrible if he’s stuck in rush hour).

So I fed our toddler, cleaned up the house because when her stuff is everywhere it stresses him out, sprayed our pillows on our bed with lavender spray, and laid out his robe and the condoms.

Our kid never goes to sleep easy and she went down so good and fast I couldn’t believe it. So everything was set.

I laid down with him and cuddled up and he was rubbing on my body a little. So it felt very normal and natural. I went down on him and he seemed to enjoy it and came within a few minutes. I straddled him to cuddle after and he was holding me. It was nice. I could feel him hard again and asked if I could sit on it. He helped me take my shorts on and get situated but then it went downhill.

I don’t know if he would say that but it was the most impersonal sex I’ve ever had. He barely kissed me back when I kissed him. Didn’t really do anything other than help bounce my hips. There was no eye contact. He even looked around me to watch the news on the TV. So I had him switch positions after a while and we did missionary and doggy. I made occasional dirty comments and made sure to be vocal about enjoying myself. He was silent save a grunt or two. Not a moan, not a “this feels so good”, nothing. He also didn’t even try to make sure I finished. Which after 14 years he should know doesn’t happen with PIV.

He showered and went to sleep and is snoring soundly now. I don’t even know what to do now. I can’t sleep. Like, I have to bring this up right? I don’t want to fuck someone that doesn’t enthusiastically want to fuck me. I thought he would really want to after a bj but maybe he was too spent or too stressed about work. Am I reading into this too much?

How would you address without being ungrateful?

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