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Dumped by organic gf, feel like shit weeks later. Fuck.
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Date: March 13th, 2017 3:47 AM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Thought I'd be over this shit by now, fuck. Objectively I know that she had become a 120 gf but the rejection is still brutal. Fuck bros. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817207) |
Date: March 13th, 2017 3:49 AM Author: Gold appetizing crotch :(:(
sorry to hear that bro. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:02 AM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Tx. Weekends seem to really suck worse than during the week. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817225) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 3:50 AM Author: Vivacious orchestra pit With any luck you'll mostly be over it in 15-20 years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817211) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 3:52 AM Author: Umber Diverse Wagecucks people reminisce about organic gf but the truth is they frequently degenerate into pure shit in mid 20s (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817216) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 3:55 AM Author: bearded private investor Is this is where you unsuccessfully try to wash the pain away by sleeping with a dozen tindersloots? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817218) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:02 AM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Nah, I sent some half hearted texts to some old flames and they all seemed willing but I really don't feel like it at the moment. Never have done tinder or bumble, don't feel like it now.
I've just been lifting like a maniac and playing a ton of sports over the last few weeks, noticing a difference.
Sucks because there was massive potential with this girl and I was excited about it, that doesn't happen often. I'm 32. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:04 AM Author: bearded private investor I am sorry then. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817226) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:12 AM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Thanks bro. Hopefully it gets better. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817231) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:42 AM Author: Vivacious orchestra pit Lol my dad was done having kids by 30 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817245) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:53 AM Author: Fluffy heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817262) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:52 AM Author: Poppy territorial point pisswyrm norwood level ? why did she dump your ass ? How come you didn't see this coming and pull the plug yourself earlier ? how many girls have you slept with ? How many girlfriends have you had ? Were you living with her ? What's his name ? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817261) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:18 AM Author: Supple fear-inspiring sweet tailpipe jap lol jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817923) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:22 AM Author: swashbuckling dysfunction (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817942) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:39 AM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Not sure the relevance but I'll bite.
I have a full head of 180 hair.
She just started growing distant and didn't feel like she could commit.
The distancing sucked but I honestly didn't think she would break up with me. I had probably started putting up with too much 120 behavior in terms of reciprocity, etc. and kind of lost track of how these things should really be.
I've probably slept with like 20 or so girls, had 4-5 gf's. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:42 AM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard What sorts of 120 behavior?
How did she initiate the breakup? Did you ever push back when she did something 120? |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 12:02 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Mainly just being cold and not fun to be with. Didn't really reach out much or seem to care about seeing me. Probably were only spending one night a week together at the end.
She just said she knew she should be making effort but couldn't for whatever reason and that's what initiated the break up.
I pushed back about the behavior, which tended to make her defensive and shut down. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 1:55 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Yikes. Sorry, dood. That's the beginning of the end right there when someone starts to shut down whenever you express your needs.
Did it happen all of a sudden? Can you think of a trigger? |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 1:59 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression I think it's just how she is and the early stages of being with her were not reality. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819564) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:25 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Early stages are never reality. We have on our persona mask and we're attracted to the other person's persona mask. That's why we seem to love the "connection" and their "sense of humor" and everything's zipping along until you're faced with more and more situations where the real YOU (or the real THEM) comes out. And that's what makes or breaks things. Your mask is part of who you are, but eventually you wipe the makeup off and that's what your partner has to deal with at the end of the day.
TL; DR: you can't judge a relationship by the first three, six, or even twelve months. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:27 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Yet all I can think about is the good shit and I dont spend a moment thinking about the stuff that I used to think was ridiculous while we were together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819836) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:28 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard That's our mind playing tricks on us. Don't let it. Our brains are trained through evolution to minimize bad memories and rose-tint positive memories. This is useful in almost all situations except when it comes to idealizing failed relationships. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819849) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:31 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression So is the secret just putting one foot in front of the other and trudging on? I know that deep down, all this shit will seem hysterical a year from now or when I meet a true 180 girl. That all just seems like fantasy right now though since I'm in such a deep rut. I'm trying to get my mind right.
Ty for your counsel, friend. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:52 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard We've all been there, FRIEND.
Don't think of the "true 180" girl. Just think of how you and your ex were fundamentally incompatible even though you had some great surface-level fun times. Focus on yourself, learn whatever lessons you need to learn in order to protect yourself going forward, but never forget that the only way to discover someone's 180ness (or 120ness) is to take off your mask. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 9:56 AM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Damn, dood. That sucks. For how long were you two together and when did things start going bad?
We tend to idealize partners and sometimes the long-term organic ones that gave you a few solid years before things started to go south are the ones you idealize the most. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 1:58 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression We actually were not together that long relative to other relationships I've had but it seemed like it had a lot of potential for many reasons - both a little older/wiser, similar upbringing, shared interests. It started out so strong that the turn to coldness stings.
We took a trip together about a month before we broke up and I re,ember thinking "this girl isn't fun at all anymore, why am I putting up with this" but kept thinking it would get better and was just a phase. Then the breakup and my self esteem has cratered for whatever reason. Really sucks. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 9:59 AM Author: Maroon Field I think I'm going to have to do this to long term organic gf and its driving me crazy. She's mostly 180, but I think the relationship has run its course, we have become more distant, and now have some possibly-irreconcilable differences. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817853) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:04 AM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Describe. Why do you think things have run their course and what are the nature of the differences and when did you start thinking you had them?
How old were the two of you when you started dating? |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:18 AM Author: Maroon Field We just don't enjoy each other's company in the same way, and sex has gotten a bit sideways. A few years ago, I discovered that I'm pretty fucking kinky, and she is mostly vanilla. After being with a couple true, natural subs, I think that's what I need in my life. We started dating at 24. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817917) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:48 AM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Yikes. That's a big difference. She isn't willing to be sort of accommodating and buy some silk hand ties or fluffy cuffs or other more "vanilla" forms of fetish (which have all been mainstreamed via 50 Shades of Grey)? And you aren't willing to accept that she may not be a total natural sub even if she's willing to play along at times? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818059) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 12:00 PM Author: Maroon Field She goes through the motions, but hates pain, and just isn't submissive. It's like pulling teeth. I need more that silk hand ties. I want a fucking dungeon in the basement and a girl who sleeps in a cage at least once a week. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818562) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 12:03 PM Author: talented sick public bath (Normal pumo) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818577) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 12:04 PM Author: Maroon Field Like you have room to talk. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818589) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:37 AM Author: Irradiated house karate "true natural subs" are completely fucking busted (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818404) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:59 AM Author: Maroon Field I've played with a couple decent ones. Not as good for taking home to parents or to a work function, but that's the lifestyle I want at home. I'm convinced there are some good ones out there. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818556) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:20 AM Author: Supple fear-inspiring sweet tailpipe jap previous monikers? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817932) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:20 AM Author: fiercely-loyal razzle church building antidepressant drug (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817933) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:02 AM Author: exhilarant dilemma quadroon Probably feeling 40-50x better already (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818156) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:24 AM Author: slap-happy ungodly space (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818318) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 11:19 AM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Nah, relationships are hard to get over especially organic ones.
If a relationship is DONE, then it's easier to get over. Sometimes the couple have just cycled through everything they needed to cycle through and the relationship has run its course. In this case, the relationship is easy to get over but you still miss the person terribly. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 10:24 AM Author: Clear hairraiser crackhouse At 28 I no longer had emotions. You're better than this OP (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32817944) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 12:48 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression I know, I know. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32818996) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:01 PM Author: Clear hairraiser crackhouse The good news is this will be it for you. You won't open up to a woman again and have no chance of being hurt. Getting through this time will make you tough as fuck and unyieldingly alpha for the next. Good luck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819579) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:18 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Aside from the bitchmade behavior I am currently exhibiting, I'm not sure I want to drastically change myself that much. This personality has gotten plenty of hot girls, not sure why I'd change it because it didn't work out with one of them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819744) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:27 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard Which is credited. Unless someone has some major personality glitch that can easily be fixed but is causing them to strike out (poor listening skills, constantly interrupting), most people fare best if they just put their true selves forward. Best foot forward is all flame in the long run.
One of my good female friends has the shrewiest, most grating voice that I can hear when I'm in the bathroom. She talks and talks and talks and argues and filibusters you into submission. She doesn't change herself at all for doods and she found someone (her age, and she's 37) that loves her just as she is. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:34 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Ty.
On the other hand, I need to stop exposing myself so much and putting myself out there to just be shredded. Not healthy. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:48 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard It's a sliding scale. You don't cannonball into a cold pool unless you just want to get it over with. Which could be a credited way to do things.
In some ways, this is why guys with some red flag in their background - divorce, kids - are at the advantage. They have to lay their vulnerability cards on the table early and can't hide behind their mask. |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:29 PM Author: Supple fear-inspiring sweet tailpipe jap it will happen again if you allow it. you must close off (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819863) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:33 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression How do you mean? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819900) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 4:12 PM Author: Overrated ivory den haunted graveyard No, if you can't open up to women they will continue to dump you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32820767) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 2:53 PM Author: shimmering blood rage native (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32820053) |
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Date: March 13th, 2017 1:02 PM Author: lime sadistic indirect expression Bump (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3551451&forum_id=2#32819098) |