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Dear Prudence: HELP! My 19-year-old nanny exercises in her underwear in our hous

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Talented doctorate
  07/23/17
Have to be a Slate plus member
transparent elite newt
  07/23/17
turn off java
appetizing stag film ceo
  07/23/17
. Adventures in babysitting: Last week, I decided to work fr...
topaz beady-eyed fanboi
  07/23/17
lol at this ubercuck running to his wife to tattle on a 19yo...
aromatic turquoise meetinghouse mother
  07/23/17
I hate shrews
Cerise nubile pit turdskin
  07/23/17
lol'd irl at your 2nd sentence, ty
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Azure skinny woman hell
  07/25/17
100% chance she was fat
Balding Magical Knife Organic Girlfriend
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this
Provocative ungodly locus becky
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180 post
Motley underhanded gunner
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flirting lilac property
  07/25/17
Definitely fat,
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laughsome pozpig theater stage
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up-to-no-good lodge
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Date: July 23rd, 2017 3:58 PM
Author: Talented doctorate

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 4:00 PM
Author: transparent elite newt

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 4:09 PM
Author: appetizing stag film ceo

turn off java

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 5:13 PM
Author: topaz beady-eyed fanboi

. Adventures in babysitting: Last week, I decided to work from home after a meeting instead of driving back across town to work. When I came home, I walked in on my 19-year-old female nanny working out in our home gym in just her underwear. This seems not-very-comfortable, but I didn't really care because the kids were napping.

I did tell her that she should probably plan ahead and bring workout clothes, which she can store in our house and launder if she’d like. I told my wife about this when she got home, and she was livid. The girl’s mom is a family friend, and my wife wants to talk to her.

My thoughts are that our nanny is an adult and is great with the kids, who love her. This might make her quit or affect our relationship with her negatively. Her behavior was odd but certainly not reckless in any way.

Do you feel further discussions are warranted?

A: I think it’s perfectly fine for you to slightly strengthen your initial recommendation from “You should probably keep gym clothes at the house instead of working out in your underwear” to “We’d like you to wear gym clothes if you’re working out in the house.” I think it should come from you, since your wife is currently “livid” and you’re not trying to communicate to your nanny that she’s done something borderline unforgivable. But you should say it when you’re all together so that it’s clear this message is coming from the both of you.

It is perfectly reasonable to ask anyone who looks after your children that they wear a shirt and shorts, even if the children are napping. You’re not trying to police her off-hours attire or demand she wear leggings and a turtleneck to the beach, nor are you demanding she apologize. You’re just letting her know the general, reasonable rules of workplace attire in her workplace.

Keep your request pleasant, say it once, and don’t overexplain or overapologize. She sounds like a reasonable, thoughtful employee, and odds are excellent that this is a conversation you’ll only ever have to have once.

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 5:41 PM
Author: aromatic turquoise meetinghouse mother

lol at this ubercuck running to his wife to tattle on a 19yo in her underwear. Unless shes fat in which case it was warranted

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 8:11 PM
Author: Cerise nubile pit turdskin

I hate shrews

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Date: July 23rd, 2017 8:16 PM
Author: slap-happy sticky brunch persian

lol'd irl at your 2nd sentence, ty

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Date: July 25th, 2017 10:11 AM
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Date: July 23rd, 2017 8:20 PM
Author: Balding Magical Knife Organic Girlfriend

100% chance she was fat



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Date: July 23rd, 2017 9:37 PM
Author: Provocative ungodly locus becky

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Date: July 25th, 2017 9:57 AM
Author: Motley underhanded gunner

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Date: July 25th, 2017 9:57 AM
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Date: July 25th, 2017 10:06 AM
Author: Brass french theater liquid oxygen

Definitely fat,

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Date: July 25th, 2017 9:56 AM
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Date: July 25th, 2017 9:58 AM
Author: up-to-no-good lodge

Dear Prudence is 100% flame letters and has been for years. I only liked the first Prudence, who was a fulanoesque gay man.

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Date: July 25th, 2017 9:58 AM
Author: cowardly buck-toothed home

2% chance this isnt flame

and 0% the girl is attractive if not flame

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