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When is too soon to take days off in biglaw?
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:11 AM Author: sickened church I just started in late sept, and I haven’t taken any days off (obviously). Unfortunately there was a death in my family - not someone I was close to - and while I don’t really feel like I have to be there, I do think my family might appreciate it. I’d probably have to take a couple days off. How bad would this look to take off so early in the game? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699711) |
Date: November 16th, 2017 10:12 AM Author: Sticky macaca son of senegal tell people a close family member died and take the fucking time off (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699716) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:16 AM Author: sickened church I’m worried there’s a risk people might think I’m using this as cover to get a vacation to go home since it’s thanksgiving time (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699749) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:16 AM Author: Sticky macaca son of senegal be confident, have backbone, dont waver. youll gain respect. not flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699755) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:16 AM Author: Stimulating puce stead pocket flask get a certified letter from the spouse of the deceased (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699758) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:32 AM Author: sickened church lol. unfortunately my grandma died almost 10 yrs ago so they’ll have to take someone else (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699868) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:25 PM Author: Salmon national half-breed You are debating whether to go to your grandfather's funeral? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701301) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:33 PM Author: zombie-like station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701395) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:27 PM Author: Purple Stag Film (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701855) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:59 PM Author: sickened church I know it sounds ridiculous, especially if you have a normal relationship, but I was just being honest that we were not close at all. It’s just how it was - we were totally different people. I know grandfather would sound like a reasonable funeral to go to, I know I’m good in that area. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702089) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:00 PM Author: sable useless address close this thread and walk away for 20 minutes. revisit, and reflect on how pathetic you sound right now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702095) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:00 PM Author: Domesticated dashing death wish (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702100) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:08 PM Author: rambunctious blathering crackhouse yarmulke (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702150) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:36 PM Author: sickened church I get people have different relationships with their grandparents than I did... that ship has sailed at this point though lol. Just take my word for it that we were not close. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702391) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:40 PM Author: Salmon national half-breed It's your grandfather. You go unless he was estranged from the family or something. This isn't about the strength and quality of your relationship with him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702416) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 6:28 PM Author: sickened church Look, I get that. That’s why I’m deliberating over this so extensively. There are other factors that make this tough. I’m far from home. Frankly, I just didn’t need this headache so soon to starting, but yeah I hear you. I’ll probably just go. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34703587) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:39 AM Author: spectacular black rigor dragon There probably is a risk of that. Now you have to decide whether you’re going to be one of those spineless sacks that goes through life concerned about the risk of offending your psychopath overlords. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699924) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:11 PM Author: sickened church How do you think I got into this mess (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701152) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:21 PM Author: zombie-like station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701246) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:27 PM Author: Purple Stag Film (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701859) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:27 PM Author: Purple Stag Film If this is not flame then just bounce. You may even be viewed as a human being by the partners. Be sure to stay on your phone though.
Reminder: Years 1-2 you are a non-entity. |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:13 AM Author: Lilac Trip Mexican Skinny Woman just prepare documentation (family trees, archived emails, etc.) supporting your claim of closeness and youll be fine (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699721) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:35 AM Author: Provocative regret lettuce Is an authenticating declaration sufficient, or should it be an affidavit? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699887) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:46 AM Author: Rebellious preventive strike garrison depends on whether he practices federal law, in which case 28 usc 1746 will apply (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699971) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:55 AM Author: Provocative regret lettuce *checks Dallas Office Local Rules for any supplementing requirements* (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34700045) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:36 AM Author: fishy coldplay fan If it's not your funeral, they really don't see any valid reason for you to attend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34699902) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 10:49 AM Author: Bat shit crazy odious state candlestick maker In the end it's unlikeky to impact you in the long haul. One thing though - are you busy with something? Like if you have a deal closing the week after thanksgiving that'll obviously be a bit riskier. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34700004) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:12 PM Author: Domesticated dashing death wish standard is March/6 mos in before first >1 week vacation. nobody considers a death in the family/going to a funeral to be a vacation though (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701166) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:24 PM Author: sickened church Interesting, thanks for the data point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701282) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:13 PM Author: motley mother genital piercing My fellow summers took Fridays off to attend weddings. It's never too early! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701174) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:23 PM Author: cyan principal's office Is this a serious question? Just tell them you're taking time off due to a family death and do it. It's that simple. Don't be a pussy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701277) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:25 PM Author: Purple Stag Film “You can take a day for a death. But please stay available if there is an emergency.”
*logs on to WillisFamilyFuneral’s wifi* |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 1:31 PM Author: transparent range trump supporter You can always take the day off, so long as you remain reachable and able to do work at all times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701372) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:18 PM Author: Big-titted aphrodisiac center filthpig It’s a terrible profession. Take the time off. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701788) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:19 PM Author: Supple fluffy locus take as much bereavement leave as you can and then never go back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701800) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 2:27 PM Author: motley mother genital piercing he should kill himself to take advantage of indefinite bereavement leave (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34701853) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:08 PM Author: rambunctious blathering crackhouse yarmulke This industry is mentally ill. Take the time off and go home.
If you approach this job with that kind of insane fear of acting like socially normal human being, you won't last long.
Nutella was always completely correct on this topic. If you are a normal person and not one of those psychotically driven workaholic billable monsters, then you need to establish work-life boundaries and learn to assert yourself.
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Date: November 16th, 2017 3:38 PM Author: Laughsome bistre theater persian Two years. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34702408) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 7:09 PM Author: Beta red jew coffee pot Rule #17494 of biglaw: don’t ask for permission to go, just tell them “my grandfather died and I’ll be gone x dates. I’ll be available to work other than (time of actual funeral).”
It doesn’t matter you were not close to your grandpa. Going to the funeral is more about spending time with your family than anything else. 10 years from now, the path that your career takes will not reflect whether you took this trip or whatever else days you take off for whatever reason.
If you don’t take the time off, however, you may deeply regret 10 years from now not spending time with your family. People can die suddenly. Family is all you have in life. |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 8:38 PM Author: 180 school This (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34704553) |
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Date: November 17th, 2017 10:20 AM Author: sickened church Thanks I think I’ll do this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34708840) |
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Date: November 17th, 2017 10:25 AM Author: transparent range trump supporter Yup (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34708876) |
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Date: November 16th, 2017 7:09 PM Author: razzmatazz keepsake machete patrolman Once you've made partner you may take a day off. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3799166&forum_id=2#34703884) |
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Date: November 17th, 2017 10:31 AM Author: lascivious sooty queen of the night You just started so are not that important anyway. People will forget you took the time off shortly after you take the time off. You aren't making partner anyway. It is your grandfather who died. You will regret not attending, but you will not regret missing a couple days of work. Be a man.
So, in short, take the time. |