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How I Told My Husband and Boyfriend I'm Dating Another Man (Vice)

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/mvka3v/how-i-told-my-tria...
mind-boggling forum gaming laptop
  11/19/17
Writer: https://video-images.vice.com/contributors/58477f9f6...
bright mad cow disease
  11/19/17
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Brindle angry cuckold jew
  11/20/17
damn daddy
Lime telephone gas station
  11/20/17
Whoa, that was an interesting five minutes I had.
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
180 twist
Self-centered Queen Of The Night Meetinghouse
  11/20/17
alpha
Fuchsia Provocative Useless Brakes Nursing Home
  11/20/17
*shakes my tired fist at american white women*
laughsome disgusting stead
  11/19/17
How fat is this woman? Easily 200lbs, right?
jade round eye
  11/19/17
isn't this a guy?
lake theatre
  11/19/17
lol, this was written by a gay man.
jade round eye
  11/19/17
LOL
Flesh apoplectic trailer park cumskin
  11/19/17
Oh, well then this is all fine.
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
Obviously written by a gay guy
Swashbuckling nibblets
  11/19/17
nah, these days American women pride themselves on behaving ...
Tan boiling water
  11/20/17
...
pale casino mediation
  11/19/17
lol our country is doomed
sexy underhanded locale national security agency
  11/19/17
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boyish karate
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bright mad cow disease
  11/19/17
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Brindle angry cuckold jew
  11/20/17
this is about and written by a literal gay?
Adventurous azn chapel
  11/19/17
clearly. amazed that the level of RC ability on this bort...
mahogany location partner
  11/19/17
I just got it from brief context. In fairness to the abo...
Adventurous azn chapel
  11/19/17
Tbf, nobody actually reads entire articles
jade round eye
  11/19/17
he IDs himself as a gay bar bouncer in the second paragraph....
mahogany location partner
  11/19/17
...
Brindle angry cuckold jew
  11/20/17
who clicks on VICE articles?
Pearl thirsty theater puppy
  11/19/17
stuffwhitepeoplelike:
indecent adulterous water buffalo
  11/19/17
Sex without paying for it
jade round eye
  11/19/17
sex without some chick's feces, all without paying for it
mahogany location partner
  11/19/17
...
Pearl thirsty theater puppy
  11/19/17
Lol this is stage three of gay activism. Stage one: we d...
geriatric sticky cruise ship
  11/19/17
Stage four: you also must voluntarily partake in the same ho...
boyish karate
  11/19/17
stage five: involuntarily.
appetizing striped hyena pit
  11/20/17
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violet sanctuary bbw
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bright mad cow disease
  11/20/17
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mind-boggling forum gaming laptop
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https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/ne7azz/how-i-make-my-mixe...
Stubborn market ladyboy
  11/19/17
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Pearl thirsty theater puppy
  11/19/17
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obsidian famous landscape painting elastic band
  11/20/17
NO H8
free-loading judgmental death wish laser beams
  11/19/17
fck it
Pearl thirsty theater puppy
  11/20/17
And they want to overturn the gay blood ban because civil ri...
Spectacular foreskin church
  11/20/17
What’s his monicker
pale casino mediation
  11/20/17
sad fact: this many has much more sex than all poasters p...
fear-inspiring marvelous tattoo menage
  11/20/17
...
mind-boggling forum gaming laptop
  11/20/17
? I doubt this author has ever placed his penis in a vagina ...
appetizing striped hyena pit
  11/20/17
I'm so glad that fags can marry now so that they can get mar...
flushed haunting love of her life fanboi
  11/20/17
LMAO, love when these crazy titles aren't blank.
Topaz talking coldplay fan
  11/20/17
"Jon is different than Alex and me: He is easier, has l...
appetizing striped hyena pit
  11/20/17
She works as a bouncer and rented a large house? How much m...
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
Holy shit, this is devastating.
geriatric sticky cruise ship
  11/20/17
Big twist when you click on the photo.
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
TWIST: She’s a whore with boundary issues. Edit: rofl, I ...
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. F...
Histrionic learning disabled hominid
  11/20/17
*watches thread fill with vomit*
Sable irate selfie
  11/20/17


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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:22 PM
Author: mind-boggling forum gaming laptop

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/mvka3v/how-i-told-my-triad-im-in-love

I had a confession to make. To my husband, Alex, and our boyfriend, Jon. I was pretty sure I was having an affair, and I was pretty sure it was outside the rules of our open relationship.

His name is Conor. At first, he was just supposed to be some guy I fucked after one Sunday afternoon beer bust at the Faultline, the gay bar in Los Angeles where I work as a bouncer. I didn't even know at the time that I was attracted to him—I was just impressed by his game.

Out of nowhere, Conor slid in next to me and started speaking, too softly for me to hear at first. I kept moving in closer, saying, "What? I can't hear you." Finally, when I was right up next to him, he said, "Nothing. I just wanted to get you close."

We talked for a few minutes, then I took him into the dressing room. The following Sunday, we were fucking in the bathroom.

It was only meant to be a fuck. That's all.

I didn't need another guy in my life. I already had a husband and a boyfriend. I already had guys I could fuck whenever I wanted. I had enough guys.

Falling in love with Jon taught me that my ability to love other people was endless, and that the more love I experienced, the larger my love for Alex became. Alex is my soulmate, my husband, and my best friend. He is still the sexiest man I've ever seen.

When I first started dating Alex, I wanted to be the only one he loved, the only one he wanted, the center of his world. The problem with that scenario was that I was never able to return the favor. I've cheated in every relationship I had.

Growing up meant being honest about who I am, which in turn meant I had to learn to accept my partners for who they were, even if that was uncomfortable to do. It meant accepting that I was not going to be faithful to just one person, and learning to be honest about that with the people I loved.

Telling Jon about Conor was easy. Jon was in LA, living with me full-time, while Alex was in Spokane, Washington, for six months working on a TV show, subject to a grueling production schedule and often unavailable for necessary conversations. Jon is different than Alex and me: He is easier, has less need to be in control. Alex and I are alpha, territorial.

Jon encouraged me. He enjoyed watching my new relationship develop. And that meant I had someone to share my fears and anxieties with.

I planned on spending a week in Spokane to celebrate Alex's birthday with him. I had rented a large house, so we could be alone. I knew if I let this go any longer without being honest then I was back to being a cheater.

We would probably fight, and our fights can be epic. But we would have endless conversations, too, and I loved our endless conversations. I loved nothing more than staying up all night with Alex, simply talking.

Nothing mattered if I couldn't share my feelings about Conor with Alex, but I was afraid.

Recently, things had been tough between us. I had always thought Alex and I were good at allowing each other to be who we are, to go out and experience the world as individuals and not as people trapped within the confines of a marriage. But we were afraid of being abandoned, of not being loved, of not being good enough. We kept trying to force each other into boxes that didn't fit the reality of our personalities. We kept trying to change each other based on our own needs and insecurities.

I believed that if we could break this pattern then maybe we could love each other for who we were, and not who we wanted each other to be. To encourage each other to be our fullest selves, even if that might scare us.

That is why I wasn't willing to give Conor up. When I finally decided to allow myself to be who I am, it opened a door to allow Alex to be who he is. Marriage no longer meant I had ownership over my husband. It no longer meant I dictated who he was or who he would become. I didn't get to tell him how to live his life. And he didn't get to tell me how to live mine.

On the way to Spokane, my flight got delayed in Salt Lake City. I imagined every possible outcome to the conversation we were about to have. I imagined huge, operatic screaming matches in my head. I would storm out. Alex would throw my luggage through windows. We would end up fucking on the lawn, all of Spokane cheering us on.

When I finally saw Alex at the arrivals curb, I thought I would cry. I always feel this way when I haven't seen him in a long time. All the emptiness of him being gone suddenly filling up with his presence. I suddenly felt home and safe.

We sat at the Satellite Diner in downtown Spokane, surrounded by drunk straight guys and their drunker girlfriends.

"I need to say something," I said. "But I don't want to." The words I finally spoke lacked the poetry I had imagined they would summon. Where were all the things I had practiced saying? All the beautiful one liners that would sum up my love for him? I suddenly began to doubt my conviction.

"Uh oh," Alex said.

I told him everything. I talked for 30 minutes straight.

When I was done, when everything was out there between us, he simply said, "Hmmmm. OK." And took a bite of his biscuits and gravy.

"Baby, are you mad at me?" I asked.

"Maybe. Sure, I'm mad. But not at you. It's just not what I want to hear."

It was then he told me about Greg, who lives in LA. He and Greg had been talking. He had been thinking that he'd like to fly Greg to Spokane for a weekend.

It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct.

I imagined Greg and Alex spending a weekend alone together. I allowed myself to feel hurt and then mad, but those emotions only lasted a few seconds. What replaced them was happiness for my husband. And empathy: He was lonely in Spokane. It was hard being away from me and Jon, from his life. I felt happy there was someone else out there to care for him. I want Alex to have all the love in the world. The more people there are to hold him, the safer he will be.

I want that for all of them. For Alex and Jon, and Conor too. I want them to be loved and happy. I no longer needed to be the only one they wanted, the only one they loved. The more people we have, the more love, the more sex, the more friendship and hugs and kisses, the safer we would all be.

"That would be amazing," I said.

Alex was quiet. Our conversation was far from over. It would never really be over. We would have to talk about this again. And again. And again. We would fight and throw things around the house and fuck and fight and fuck again. But whatever we did, we would do it together. This life is our life, and we're in it together.

He reached across the table to hold my hand.

"I'm glad you're here, baby," he said. "I've missed you. I've missed you a lot."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727529)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:31 PM
Author: bright mad cow disease

Writer: https://video-images.vice.com/contributors/58477f9f6a07b201e0f297eb/lede/1502419653878-JeffLeavell_7.jpeg?crop=1xw:0.6667xh;0xw,0.0117xh

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727601)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:38 PM
Author: Brindle angry cuckold jew



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731896)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:42 PM
Author: Lime telephone gas station

damn daddy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731945)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:43 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

Whoa, that was an interesting five minutes I had.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731949)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:45 PM
Author: Self-centered Queen Of The Night Meetinghouse

180 twist

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731992)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:51 PM
Author: Fuchsia Provocative Useless Brakes Nursing Home

alpha

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34732058)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:24 PM
Author: laughsome disgusting stead

*shakes my tired fist at american white women*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727538)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:25 PM
Author: jade round eye

How fat is this woman? Easily 200lbs, right?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727550)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:26 PM
Author: lake theatre

isn't this a guy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727566)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:26 PM
Author: jade round eye

lol, this was written by a gay man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727567)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:39 PM
Author: Flesh apoplectic trailer park cumskin

LOL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727673)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:41 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

Oh, well then this is all fine.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731933)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 11:00 PM
Author: Swashbuckling nibblets

Obviously written by a gay guy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727793)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:48 PM
Author: Tan boiling water

nah, these days American women pride themselves on behaving like (and weighing as much as) gay men

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34732022)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 11:31 PM
Author: pale casino mediation



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728037)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:25 PM
Author: sexy underhanded locale national security agency

lol our country is doomed

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727555)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:26 PM
Author: boyish karate



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727559)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:30 PM
Author: bright mad cow disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727593)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:38 PM
Author: Brindle angry cuckold jew



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731899)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:26 PM
Author: Adventurous azn chapel

this is about and written by a literal gay?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727560)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:29 PM
Author: mahogany location partner

clearly.

amazed that the level of RC ability on this bort has dropped to the point where the above poasters didn't pick that up.

btw, if you click on the link and view the tagline, the author's name is jeff.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727581)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:30 PM
Author: Adventurous azn chapel

I just got it from brief context.

In fairness to the above posters, the cuckoldry today is off the charts.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727591)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:30 PM
Author: jade round eye

Tbf, nobody actually reads entire articles

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727595)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:36 PM
Author: mahogany location partner

he IDs himself as a gay bar bouncer in the second paragraph. not much reading necessary.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727652)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:39 PM
Author: Brindle angry cuckold jew



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731906)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:32 PM
Author: Pearl thirsty theater puppy

who clicks on VICE articles?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727619)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:26 PM
Author: indecent adulterous water buffalo

stuffwhitepeoplelike:

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727561)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:28 PM
Author: jade round eye

Sex without paying for it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727573)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:37 PM
Author: mahogany location partner

sex without some chick's feces, all without paying for it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727657)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:27 PM
Author: Pearl thirsty theater puppy



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727570)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:43 PM
Author: geriatric sticky cruise ship

Lol this is stage three of gay activism.

Stage one: we don't have to be in closet

Stage two: we are just like everyone else in love people fundamentally and deserve the same rights

Stage three: although we are fundamentally similar, we also enjoy promiscuity that may seem exteme to some, and also have some unique sexual interests such as purposefully obtaining STDs. And all of this is fine too and you need to accept it right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727684)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 10:46 PM
Author: boyish karate

Stage four: you also must voluntarily partake in the same homosexual behavior

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727696)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:32 PM
Author: appetizing striped hyena pit

stage five: involuntarily.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731825)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:33 PM
Author: violet sanctuary bbw



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731837)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:35 PM
Author: bright mad cow disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731855)



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Date: March 19th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: mind-boggling forum gaming laptop



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#35640048)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 11:02 PM
Author: Stubborn market ladyboy

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/ne7azz/how-i-make-my-mixed-hiv-status-relationship-work

I'm HIV positive, but my partner is not. And though science has rendered that difference medically negligible, it's hard to shed decades of stigma overnight.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727806)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 11:05 PM
Author: Pearl thirsty theater puppy



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34727829)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:15 AM
Author: obsidian famous landscape painting elastic band



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728539)



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Date: November 19th, 2017 11:26 PM
Author: free-loading judgmental death wish laser beams

NO H8

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728014)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 12:52 AM
Author: Pearl thirsty theater puppy

fck it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728447)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 12:37 AM
Author: Spectacular foreskin church

And they want to overturn the gay blood ban because civil rights

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728354)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 12:44 AM
Author: pale casino mediation

What’s his monicker

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728400)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 12:52 AM
Author: fear-inspiring marvelous tattoo menage

sad fact:

this many has much more sex than all poasters put together (except peterman/doobs/halford)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34728445)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:25 PM
Author: mind-boggling forum gaming laptop



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731732)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:35 PM
Author: appetizing striped hyena pit

? I doubt this author has ever placed his penis in a vagina or vagine (ie, had sex)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731861)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:26 PM
Author: flushed haunting love of her life fanboi

I'm so glad that fags can marry now so that they can get married then act like they're not married at all. Its important.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731751)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:27 PM
Author: Topaz talking coldplay fan

LMAO, love when these crazy titles aren't blank.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731759)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:33 PM
Author: appetizing striped hyena pit

"Jon is different than Alex and me: He is easier, has less need to be in control. Alex and I are alpha, territorial."

"When I finally saw Alex at the arrivals curb, I thought I would cry. I always feel this way when I haven't seen him in a long time. All the emptiness of him being gone suddenly filling up with his presence. I suddenly felt home and safe."

OH WHAT AN ALPHA

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731836)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:37 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

She works as a bouncer and rented a large house? How much money do these dudes pay her?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731885)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:39 PM
Author: geriatric sticky cruise ship

Holy shit, this is devastating.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731908)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:42 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

Big twist when you click on the photo.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731942)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:38 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

TWIST: She’s a whore with boundary issues.

Edit: rofl, I meant he.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731894)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:40 PM
Author: Histrionic learning disabled hominid

It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct. It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct. It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct. It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct. It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct. It took Alex four minutes to say everything he had to say. Four minutes to my thirty. The man is succinct.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731920)



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Date: November 20th, 2017 1:42 PM
Author: Sable irate selfie

*watches thread fill with vomit*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3803041&forum_id=2#34731948)