There's no point in spending your life with someone you'll be constantly feeling annoyed or unhappy with.

Do couples literally just go through that hell to look good to society and their friends and family?

I've heard horror stories in my own family, where my uncles would kick my aunts out of the house in their 20's due to fights and they had to find places to stay. JFC.

Marriedmos, tell me how bad it is really, ty.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34857903)

Life = hell in disguise.

We should all kill selves ASAP.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34857940)

180 CR, but...

WOW.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34857989)

Newsflash: They can also turn into nightmares.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34858012)

htfh

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34858381)

Not long after wedding she started constantly getting 'sick' and 'injured' and this further hampered her job search. I was stretched pretty thin paying for both of us even on BIGLAW salary. She started showing a ton of insecurity issues, gaining weight and accusing me of cheating all the time, despite the fact i was working 70 hour weeks and had no friends in new city and pretty much hated anything and everyone there. I found out she was on a lot more antidepressants and antianxities and other meds than I knew about and was constantly going to doctors. We fought like fucking comanches

She got a job, acted like a fucking martyr having to go in every day, quit after 8 months and went blubbering home to her folks (who were always in our lives and i couldn't stand them) for a week. I decided to make a plan, save some money. Things settled down for a few months but then we started getting at each others throats. We said fuck it, got s separate places, sold townhouse. A month or two in I was drinking less, found a few friends but decided i hated my job and was moving back to CA with or without a jerb and we filed. It was a massive relief to get out despite getting harangued by my mom and sisters with the 'i told you so' bullshit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34859809)

honestly sounds like pretty average for a western society in 2017. your only mistake was not running away when you knew she was on mental health medications even if you didnt know the full extent.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34864230)

That said, yes it is very difficult. You have to get lucky. Modern western (and westernized) women are fucked up and really it's not even their fault. Feminism, social media, ability to work, government safety nets, etc. have essentially made you (the man) kinda useless. They are responding to the incentives they have.

To the above that claim that you have to meet the right one in college otherwise it's not going to happen - i met my ex wife in college. Yet she is now my ex. There is no rule that college is where it's at and it's not going to happen after. People in college are still immature and don't fully know themselves. That combined with the forces outlined in point #2 means some chick you marry in college may turn into something completely different in a few years.

To recap, you need to get lucky. But there are steps you can take to maximize your luck. Try to meet women in the right places - church, volunteering, grad school, etc. Work is no longer an option due to #MeToo. Also seek out avenues to meet foreign women. They tend to be better. Second, give it time. Don't rush in. Take things slowly and give time for the crazy to come out. If after 2-3 years of dating some chick in her mid-late 20s, you haven't seen red flags, you are probably good to go.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34859218)

what's the problem?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34859241)

most of us know what it is like to be with other people, have sex with strange, and otherwise enjoy life as an adult in some other state than being settled with your mentally disabled wife since the age of 20.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860783)

nothing I said is incorrect.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860859)

Yeah, most people who don't want an actual moniker are such dicks that they realize that if they ever got outted that everyone would shun them.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860866)

that's fucking retarded. I had a moniker for years but fear outing and tracking and don't really care to have an identity here anymore. this place is more than half pumo/quotemo and has always had a huge population of anonymous posters. it's incredibly faggy how much you whine about pumos whenever you are validly critiqued.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860902)

Also, 99% of you are complete losers that have never so much as touched a tit that didn't belong to your mother.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860947)

even your best online friends don't believe you were some kind of 16 year old alpha stud fucking left and right until you met mandy and decided to hang up your spurs at 19.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860911)

*leans into mic*

Anyway, sorry you lost your virginity at 18, bro.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860929)

TMF doling out marriage advice is like a 68 year old boomer partner who has been at the firm for 31 years giving you advice on finding a job.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860964)

2) That said, I don't know who is really an authority here since you will always need considerable time lag to know if a marriage is successful or not. Asking a guy married, say, 2 years about marriage is pretty pointless. Same with the guy with "a lot of" experience with marriage (because he's on marriage #4)

3) In any event, it isn't like I was giving advice for adults looking to get married ITT. I was just refuting the notion that all marriages turn to shitshows

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860990)

and this disregards the 50% or so who got divorced before they hit the decade mark.

you will get endless pushback from the married zombies, but marriage in the modern U.S. is largely a GC cuck scam. most people derive little long-term benefit from it save for pleasing their idiotic boomer parents who just want their kids to act exactly like they did and a modest tax benefit in some cases.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34860822)

It's a low % play.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34861686)

it makes no sense for men to get married. none. it's just a way for a woman to get an expensive diamond and a wedding she can post pictures of and be told how beautiful she looks, and then take half or more of your money.

if women want feminism, fine. but marriage has to stop. enough with having their cake and eating it, too.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3820441&forum_id=2#34864285)