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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich
  01/21/18
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House-broken naked abode nowag
  01/21/18
was she hot?
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
of course.
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
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Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich
  01/21/18
...
Cerebral Mahogany Rehab
  01/21/18
Lol
Stimulating school giraffe
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
Charismatic Locus Doctorate
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
Apoplectic Hospital
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
Apoplectic Hospital
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
Apoplectic Hospital
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
Apoplectic Hospital
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
CR
Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich
  01/21/18
lololol
Rambunctious theatre
  01/21/18
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Drunken University Gunner
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
razzle partner liquid oxygen
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
lol
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
razzle partner liquid oxygen
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Cowardly pit patrolman
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18
how did she die/
passionate kitty cat hunting ground
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
crystalline principal's office dragon
  01/21/18


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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: House-broken naked abode nowag



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Cerebral Mahogany Rehab



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Stimulating school giraffe

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Charismatic Locus Doctorate

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: Apoplectic Hospital

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: Apoplectic Hospital

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: Apoplectic Hospital

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: Apoplectic Hospital

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Cyan Hissy Fit Sandwich

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Rambunctious theatre

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Drunken University Gunner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: razzle partner liquid oxygen

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: razzle partner liquid oxygen

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Cowardly pit patrolman

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: passionate kitty cat hunting ground

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: crystalline principal's office dragon

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)