\
  The most prestigious law school admissions discussion board in the world.
BackRefresh Options Favorite

Etiquette advice please..

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease
  01/21/18
...
Nudist space persian
  01/21/18
was she hot?
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
of course.
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
...
Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease
  01/21/18
...
Nubile Church Building
  01/21/18
Lol
Lascivious Library Candlestick Maker
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
Maroon locale
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
dull flickering menage
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
dull flickering menage
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
dull flickering menage
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
dull flickering menage
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
CR
Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease
  01/21/18
lololol
Exhilarant kitchen
  01/21/18
...
demanding field jap
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
Pea-brained massive trust fund milk
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
lol
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
Pea-brained massive trust fund milk
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
alcoholic thriller roast beef
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18
how did she die/
Shimmering puppy
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
Confused brunch pozpig
  01/21/18


Poast new message in this thread



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Nudist space persian



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Shimmering puppy

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Shimmering puppy

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Shimmering puppy

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Nubile Church Building



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Lascivious Library Candlestick Maker

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Maroon locale

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: Shimmering puppy

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: dull flickering menage

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: dull flickering menage

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: dull flickering menage

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: dull flickering menage

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Vermilion Hateful Mad Cow Disease

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Exhilarant kitchen

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: demanding field jap



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: Pea-brained massive trust fund milk

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: Shimmering puppy

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Pea-brained massive trust fund milk

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: alcoholic thriller roast beef

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: Shimmering puppy

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



Reply Favorite

Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: Confused brunch pozpig

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)