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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
Overrated thriller point
  01/21/18
...
Ebony Misunderstood Wrinkle
  01/21/18
was she hot?
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
of course.
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
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Overrated thriller point
  01/21/18
...
Free-loading plaza patrolman
  01/21/18
Lol
Mischievous Nursing Home Stain
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
Fiercely-loyal background story dog poop
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
CR
Overrated thriller point
  01/21/18
lololol
Brass crawly roommate stage
  01/21/18
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Slap-happy pocket flask
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
primrose base fortuitous meteor
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
lol
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
primrose base fortuitous meteor
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Appetizing azure party of the first part indian lodge
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18
how did she die/
swashbuckling death wish
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma
  01/21/18


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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Overrated thriller point

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Ebony Misunderstood Wrinkle



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Overrated thriller point



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Free-loading plaza patrolman



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Mischievous Nursing Home Stain

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Fiercely-loyal background story dog poop

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: Smoky multi-colored institution sneaky criminal

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Overrated thriller point

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Brass crawly roommate stage

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Slap-happy pocket flask



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: primrose base fortuitous meteor

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: primrose base fortuitous meteor

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Appetizing azure party of the first part indian lodge

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: swashbuckling death wish

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: Marvelous bistre associate friendly grandma

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)