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wife has gotten a lot meaner, short tempered, demanding post-baby
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:21 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus its a bummer, a real personality transplant from what she was like before
i guess i blame it on this
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/pregnancy-causes-lasting-changes-in-a-womans-brain/ |
Date: January 21st, 2018 8:22 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine How post-baby are we talking? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205800) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:23 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus personality change happened fairly quickly post-baby but hasn't gotten better after ~2 yrs (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205802) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:26 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine Two years? Ouch. Is she SAHM or working? Possible she's bitter about the one she chose? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205837) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:26 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus shes working and complaining about the work constantly now (which she used to love before). she doesn't want to be a SAHM though.
various relatives have told me shes had a personality change so im not just imagining things |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:30 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus have you dealt with a similar situation? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205885) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:41 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine I'm the wife lol. I was very nervous/sensitive when the baby was first born but have been fine since. Might be worth counseling to delve into it more? Or at least have a sit-down with her and find out what's up? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206000) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:42 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus we've done one counseling session to discuss the specific issue of her blowing up at me screaming about once a week, but might need more for broader stuff (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206017) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:51 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine Nothing came from that session? How far back was that? How bad are the blowups? Is she irrational followed by apologetic or does anything of value actually come from it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206113) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:53 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus she hasn't really blown up at me since the session (a month ago) so i think she's worked on that issue. today she was snapping hard at me though so it was close to what happened before.
i don't think she's been willing to recognize the magnitude of her personality change. i've brought it up to her in various contexts. |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:57 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine Do there seem to be specific triggers for it? Is it always the same issue or different stuff? Is there a pattern (specific days or time of day)? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206179) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:58 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus usually after work about once a week. no specific triggers, just seems like she is looking to pick a fight randomly one day (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206188) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:59 PM Author: Mauve Fragrant Dopamine Maybe find an activity or offer her some alone time (take the kid out for an errand, etc) where she can figure out a way to calm down on her own? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206202) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 9:09 PM Author: unhinged hominid Have her go to the gym or an exercise class after work. It’s a great stress release and no one is angry after a workout - endorphins etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206288) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:23 PM Author: wonderful institution fatherhood also turns you into a complaining little bitch
http://healthland.time.com/2011/09/13/why-do-dads-have-lower-levels-of-testosterone/ |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:24 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus the rule of thumb is women expect men will change, while men expect women will never change
ive had to put up with a lot more than i would have been willing to pre-baby -- maybe that is what you are getting at... |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:25 PM Author: wonderful institution low t = more irritable and letting shit get to you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205835) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:27 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus im putting up with much more than i would have pre-pregnancy. wouldn't have put up with this shit if we didn't have baby (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205853) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:35 PM Author: 180 Roast Beef Business Firm normal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205945) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:35 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus have you dealt with a similar situation? describe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205955) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:47 PM Author: carnelian frum clown chad This is very common and causes a fair number of divorces. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206068) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:48 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus jeez, i had no idea this was common. did it happen to you? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206076) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM Author: carnelian frum clown chad I worked for a family lawyer for two years and many separations unfolded this way. UMC wife has baby, freaks out and starts to direct nonstop negative affect at dad/dad's family and has no insight into her behavior. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206163) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:56 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus sounds about right (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206175) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM Author: irradiated trust fund (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206156) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM Author: Soul-stirring opaque orchestra pit french chef my wife recovered from this after about 18 months, but now we are having #2 so lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206158) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:57 PM Author: Splenetic yapping locus how did she recover? was it just an 18 month hormonal thing? or the pressure from having a young very needy baby created the personality changes? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206183) |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 9:06 PM Author: Soul-stirring opaque orchestra pit french chef first 4 months in particular are very stressful. Female hormone burst at birth is ridiculous and would drive anyone nuts.
Once we got the hang of dealing with babydood, and also the fact that he is super easy as far as babydood's go, we were able to get back into a routine. She also has a support network of Mamas where she can bitch about shit without having to take it out on me. |
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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:58 PM Author: motley coral tanning salon Awful. My wife never had any of this shit.
*knocks on wood* |
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Date: January 22nd, 2018 10:50 AM Author: Splenetic yapping locus Lucky (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35208917) |