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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
Sadistic apoplectic parlour
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
Sadistic apoplectic parlour
  02/20/18
...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
razzle whorehouse azn
  02/20/18
lol yeah
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
frum people who are hurt laser beams
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
Bateful Nibblets Preventive Strike
  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
Godawful brass temple genital piercing
  02/20/18
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sepia codepig partner
  02/21/18
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Flushed degenerate point
  02/21/18
do you have to be married or can you match some other chick'...
olive center police squad
  02/20/18
i'm not sure tbh.
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
olive center police squad
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
lake lascivious library quadroon
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
lake lascivious library quadroon
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
Opaque trip weed whacker
  02/20/18
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fear-inspiring theater stage
  02/20/18
what's the grace period after i come back
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
Opaque trip weed whacker
  02/21/18
good to know friend, ty
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
cream nowag native
  02/20/18
prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
Fuchsia crackhouse
  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
Histrionic place of business
  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
Lemon Federal Boltzmann Candlestick Maker
  02/20/18
...
Glittery coldplay fan
  02/20/18
You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
Outnumbered Ladyboy Therapy
  02/20/18
...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/20/18
fucked how?
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
Beady-eyed Out-of-control Range
  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
Mauve low-t address halford
  02/20/18
hehe
titillating market
  02/20/18
lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taki...
Floppy menage
  02/20/18
...
Histrionic place of business
  02/20/18
...
sienna abnormal karate principal's office
  02/22/18
UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
Godawful brass temple genital piercing
  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
Godawful brass temple genital piercing
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/21/18
Yes
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/21/18
expound pls
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
honey-headed beta house
  02/21/18
absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
20 minutes one way? Take it, but don't give your boss 2 w...
Histrionic place of business
  02/21/18
terrible idea.
boyish massive dopamine son of senegal
  02/21/18
?
Histrionic place of business
  02/22/18
they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
Magenta Kink-friendly Church Building Mad-dog Skullcap
  02/22/18
starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't i...
spectacular national
  02/22/18
hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 w...
Splenetic hairraiser dysfunction
  02/21/18
You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!
snowy violent station
  02/21/18
...
Histrionic place of business
  02/21/18
What would GC do?
Contagious Free-loading Marketing Idea
  02/22/18
It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leav...
Magenta Kink-friendly Church Building Mad-dog Skullcap
  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
iridescent corner
  02/22/18
cr analogy
Ruddy tank
  02/22/18
I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed sui...
passionate base
  02/22/18


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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Sadistic apoplectic parlour

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Sadistic apoplectic parlour

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: razzle whorehouse azn

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: frum people who are hurt laser beams

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: Bateful Nibblets Preventive Strike

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Godawful brass temple genital piercing

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: sepia codepig partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: Flushed degenerate point



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: olive center police squad

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: olive center police squad

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: lake lascivious library quadroon

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: lake lascivious library quadroon

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Opaque trip weed whacker

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: fear-inspiring theater stage



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: Opaque trip weed whacker

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: cream nowag native

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: Fuchsia crackhouse

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: Histrionic place of business

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: Lemon Federal Boltzmann Candlestick Maker

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Glittery coldplay fan



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Outnumbered Ladyboy Therapy

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: Beady-eyed Out-of-control Range

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Mauve low-t address halford

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: titillating market

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: Floppy menage

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: Histrionic place of business



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: sienna abnormal karate principal's office



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Godawful brass temple genital piercing

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Godawful brass temple genital piercing

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: At-the-ready Filthpig Dilemma

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: honey-headed beta house

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: Histrionic place of business

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: boyish massive dopamine son of senegal

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: Histrionic place of business

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: Magenta Kink-friendly Church Building Mad-dog Skullcap

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: spectacular national

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: Splenetic hairraiser dysfunction

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: snowy violent station

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: Histrionic place of business



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: Contagious Free-loading Marketing Idea

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: Magenta Kink-friendly Church Building Mad-dog Skullcap

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: iridescent corner

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: Ruddy tank

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: passionate base

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

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