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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
aggressive library
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
aggressive library
  02/20/18
...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
dark godawful filthpig
  02/20/18
lol yeah
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
yellow bossy preventive strike
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
Up-to-no-good curious immigrant
  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
Wonderful orchestra pit
  02/20/18
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  02/21/18
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Mint swollen faggotry
  02/21/18
do you have to be married or can you match some other chick'...
Multi-colored set pisswyrm
  02/20/18
i'm not sure tbh.
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
Multi-colored set pisswyrm
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
Glassy shrine
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
Glassy shrine
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
milky meetinghouse double fault
  02/20/18
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Harsh business firm crotch
  02/20/18
what's the grace period after i come back
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
milky meetinghouse double fault
  02/21/18
good to know friend, ty
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
Iridescent french point
  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
Iridescent french point
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
Exciting Bronze Boltzmann Institution
  02/20/18
prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
Bistre splenetic mental disorder stage
  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
Azure Persian Selfie
  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
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  02/20/18
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  02/20/18
You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
Judgmental Blood Rage Abode
  02/20/18
...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
Iridescent french point
  02/20/18
fucked how?
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
Iridescent french point
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
Slimy coiffed field
  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
Iridescent french point
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
Olive Adulterous Stock Car Ticket Booth
  02/20/18
hehe
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  02/20/18
lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taki...
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  02/20/18
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Azure Persian Selfie
  02/20/18
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  02/22/18
UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
Wonderful orchestra pit
  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
Wonderful orchestra pit
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
Iridescent french point
  02/21/18
Yes
Iridescent french point
  02/21/18
expound pls
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
Iridescent french point
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
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  02/21/18
absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
20 minutes one way? Take it, but don't give your boss 2 w...
Azure Persian Selfie
  02/21/18
terrible idea.
Citrine property cuckoldry
  02/21/18
?
Azure Persian Selfie
  02/22/18
they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
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  02/22/18
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  02/22/18
hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 w...
Insane rehab kitty
  02/21/18
You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!
Sick Gay Lay
  02/21/18
...
Azure Persian Selfie
  02/21/18
What would GC do?
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  02/22/18
It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leav...
Hideous titillating partner bbw
  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
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  02/22/18
cr analogy
Electric scarlet candlestick maker
  02/22/18
I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed sui...
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  02/22/18


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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: aggressive library

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: aggressive library

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: dark godawful filthpig

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: yellow bossy preventive strike

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: Up-to-no-good curious immigrant

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Wonderful orchestra pit

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: Appetizing Gold Travel Guidebook Idea He Suggested



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: Mint swollen faggotry



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Multi-colored set pisswyrm

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Multi-colored set pisswyrm

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Glassy shrine

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Glassy shrine

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: milky meetinghouse double fault

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Harsh business firm crotch



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: milky meetinghouse double fault

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Exciting Bronze Boltzmann Institution

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: Bistre splenetic mental disorder stage

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: Azure Persian Selfie

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: charismatic church macaca

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: concupiscible chartreuse chapel marketing idea



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Judgmental Blood Rage Abode

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: Slimy coiffed field

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Olive Adulterous Stock Car Ticket Booth

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Galvanic den azn

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: Dashing tripping place of business

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: Azure Persian Selfie



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: Cracking Sienna Space Newt



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Wonderful orchestra pit

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Wonderful orchestra pit

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: Iridescent french point

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Carmine fiercely-loyal casino

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: Azure Persian Selfie

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: Citrine property cuckoldry

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: Azure Persian Selfie

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: Hideous titillating partner bbw

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: Aqua tanning salon digit ratio

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: Insane rehab kitty

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: Sick Gay Lay

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: Azure Persian Selfie



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: big-titted school cafeteria

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: Hideous titillating partner bbw

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: crusty avocado idiot kitchen

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: Electric scarlet candlestick maker

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: translucent state

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325)