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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM Author: azure house company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.
i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo? |
Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM Author: Effete forum mother fuck yeah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: azure house fuck yeah i should feel bad? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: Effete forum mother no fuck yeah you should take the full amount (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: azure house (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: Flickering aggressive party of the first part filthpig do u actually have a kid? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: azure house lol yeah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: deep multi-billionaire casino doesn't have to actually be his (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM Author: cerebral trailer park how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM Author: territorial lavender locus immigrant Moar like “eternity leave” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM Author: fighting crackhouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM Author: Floppy university (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: Provocative Area Rigor do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: azure house i'm not sure tbh. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Provocative Area Rigor firm-wide email. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: Lake vivacious toaster you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: azure house ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM Author: Lake vivacious toaster i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM Author: Ruddy marvelous point You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM Author: angry vigorous boistinker gaming laptop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: azure house what's the grace period after i come back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM Author: Ruddy marvelous point However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM Author: azure house good to know friend, ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.
That said, seems bitchmade. |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Relevant to my interests. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Low-t shaky stag film State your IQ if you have to ask this question? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: azure house prob 110-120 tbh, not that high. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM Author: aquamarine stubborn ape institution of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM Author: Concupiscible Claret Double Fault cr.
use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM Author: plum frisky cuckoldry mental disorder spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM Author: Chartreuse Senate Jewess (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM Author: At-the-ready sadistic hunting ground You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM Author: azure house (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: azure house fucked how? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.
Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews. |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM Author: heady sable queen of the night What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM Author: fear-inspiring native honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.' (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM Author: charcoal business firm hehe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM Author: hyperventilating medicated affirmative action degenerate lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM Author: Concupiscible Claret Double Fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM Author: mildly autistic bright doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM Author: azure house UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM Author: territorial lavender locus immigrant I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.
The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM Author: azure house current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.
yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM Author: territorial lavender locus immigrant I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM Author: azure house expound pls (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM Author: mischievous boyish market turdskin Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.
Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.
Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM Author: azure house we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?
the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.
the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.
however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM Author: razzle bistre skinny woman no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM Author: azure house absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM Author: azure house need more opinions please. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM Author: Concupiscible Claret Double Fault 20 minutes one way?
Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM Author: azure house terrible idea. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM Author: Concupiscible Claret Double Fault ? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM Author: Deranged Rusted Trust Fund they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM Author: Aqua Station Volcanic Crater starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM Author: smoky theater hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM Author: Frozen Indigo Den Dopamine You owe a corporation nothing. HTH! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM Author: Concupiscible Claret Double Fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM Author: peach bull headed incel What would GC do? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM Author: Deranged Rusted Trust Fund It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM Author: 180 Bearded Kitty Cat do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM Author: Thirsty church building cr analogy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM Author: swashbuckling fiercely-loyal round eye office I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325) |