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I'm a 32 year old virgin and have never even kissed. Or hugged romantically

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Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
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Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin
  03/14/18
what do you think your problem is? crippling social anxiety...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
i have never been good looking the biggest issue is i ha...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
BEEP BEEP BEEP
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
flirting is poetry and song. its not something an autist wou...
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
i get along pretty well in almost every other context though...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
flirting is the aim of life. you have failed at being human ...
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
it is autism bro, I do the same thing
Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin
  03/14/18
so how are you dealing with the situation. i don't really un...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
thinking about killing myself
Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin
  03/14/18
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hot tan resort macaca
  03/14/18
do you experience sexual arousal generally? does your heart...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
yes. i used to get crushes on people but haven't in like 8 y...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
take my advice above the next time you're talking to a girl...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
maybe you're just not a sex-haver, it's OK
slippery rehab quadroon
  03/14/18
you should chop your cock off and buy one of those anime pil...
odious people who are hurt stag film
  03/14/18
32 is young you can still maek it
Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
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Puce Impressive Nursing Home
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My mom used to say stupid shit like this to me right up unti...
black deranged internal respiration mediation
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lavender thirsty principal's office
  03/14/18
join the club: https://twitter.com/mlauzon/
adventurous striped hyena
  03/14/18
How have you not visited a prostitute or killed yourself?
passionate tattoo
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copper bossy ape
  03/14/18
hie to asia. not flame. you bombed out of this society. b...
Haunting stead
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supple site
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dashing brethren
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racy brilliant shrine yarmulke
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Fragrant bat-shit-crazy forum queen of the night
  03/15/18
btw, do your coworkers know you are a virgin at 32?
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
i don't think so, they probably think i'm private about pers...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
k...
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
probably. there's usually something off/awkward about these ...
adventurous striped hyena
  03/14/18
can you describe? i'm not like some neckbeard
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
people, ESPECIALLY women, can smell (sometimes literally via...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
Yeah it's brutal.
amber gunner brunch
  03/14/18
:( I believe in you, friend
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
What would you advise?
amber gunner brunch
  03/14/18
honestly, you might want to give OKCupid a shot I know, I k...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
Is that really the only option? It's weird and probably irra...
amber gunner brunch
  03/14/18
Okcupid is a wasteland. Quality has massively declined somet...
boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house
  03/14/18
if you're in a major city (he's in DC), there are still diam...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
I mean just look at it as a surefire way of increasing your ...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
Well, not zero risk. Journalists do have their dating profil...
amber gunner brunch
  03/14/18
Do ChristianMingle
cracking philosopher-king
  03/15/18
OKCupid is pretty much at the bottom, second only to Plenty ...
iridescent keepsake machete prole
  03/15/18
actually know a dude who got a hotwife on match
henna floppy native cuck
  03/15/18
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adventurous striped hyena
  03/14/18
spin, ratfucks
Wine Motley Public Bath National Security Agency
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henna floppy native cuck
  03/15/18
OP here. i think another related issue is i'm not really int...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
yeah again, you're autistic.
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
but i'm quite good at public speaking, making jokes, "b...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
you could just be high functioning your inability to form e...
Doobsian party of the first part
  03/14/18
OK that's fair, inability to form emotional relationships is...
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
you're more likely to be schizoid probably best if you k...
slippery rehab quadroon
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Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse
  03/14/18
im super bad at all these. you are not autistic, but somethi...
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
I’m the same way for the most part.
Yellow double fault hell
  03/14/18
Sorry bro, you have some similarities to me based on what yo...
boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house
  03/14/18
JFC this is like an advertisement for hookers. How to s...
Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse
  03/15/18
this sounds like it might be correct. i have been on a coupl...
Slate titillating church
  03/15/18
Keep in mind that if the idea of touching someone seems weir...
boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house
  03/15/18
What are good alternatives?
amber gunner brunch
  03/15/18
Oof.
amber gunner brunch
  03/15/18
The only advice on dating on xo that even comes remotely clo...
jade exciting codepig fat ankles
  03/15/18
Just do lay down the pipe EXTREMELY WELL the first time when...
Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse
  03/15/18
Or just keep on making up excuses on xo why you can't even p...
jade exciting codepig fat ankles
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Never got into hentai. I was planning to drink myself to de...
Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse
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Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
  03/15/18
this poast is embarrassing, jfc. deleting
Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
  03/15/18
Schizoid?
Electric box office fanboi
  03/14/18
covert schizoid does seem very apt.
Slate titillating church
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hot tan resort macaca
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im worse than you. everyone i meet immediately knows i never...
Rose Deep Patrolman
  03/14/18
what are your issues? also, biglaw?
Slate titillating church
  03/14/18
my issues? 140lb, sound like a little boy, small penis, zero...
Rose Deep Patrolman
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copper bossy ape
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: the xo story
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Aromatic Pink Bbw
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Asian?
henna floppy native cuck
  03/15/18
(the xo story)
Puce Impressive Nursing Home
  03/15/18
Bang a hooker and get in shape.
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You could have just said you’re Asian and we would’ve unders...
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henna floppy native cuck
  03/15/18
I'm like this too, but even older.
pontificating piazza sneaky criminal
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Evan, you’re gay. Totally different
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pontificating piazza sneaky criminal
  03/15/18
i have never been within a mile of a woman. ever.
dashing brethren
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irate juggernaut
  03/14/18
Why even live if this is your life? Just killself.
black deranged internal respiration mediation
  03/14/18
I don’t believe it. Or you’re just sick
soul-stirring smoky wrinkle heaven
  03/14/18
Why is it hard to believe? There's actually tons of people l...
amber gunner brunch
  03/14/18
for me to give a shit, list the self-improvement activities ...
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Arousing Stage Main People
  03/15/18
Are you lonely?
sickened gold crackhouse foreskin
  03/15/18
no. i'm very introverted and can entertain myself for hours ...
Slate titillating church
  03/15/18
You've come to the right place
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Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
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i really liek it here.
Slate titillating church
  03/15/18
CharlesXII, i think you and i are very similar. you have sai...
Slate titillating church
  03/15/18
Spare yourself any further mental derangement and consider a...
jade exciting codepig fat ankles
  03/15/18
So you're just now realizing what women say they want and wh...
Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
  03/15/18
I can relate to a lot of this: Like you, I have a very ha...
amber gunner brunch
  03/15/18
lol @ "hugged romantically" -- what part of asia a...
bull headed hominid
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Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus
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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Slate titillating church



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605531)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605533)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

what do you think your problem is?

crippling social anxiety?

ugliness?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605534)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

i have never been good looking

the biggest issue is i have trouble expressing attraction to women. i have never understood "flirting" or "hitting on" someone and have never done it. i basically interact with everyone in the exact same way -- friendly and professional

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605561)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

BEEP BEEP BEEP

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605567)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:07 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

flirting is poetry and song. its not something an autist would understand.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605570)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:09 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

i get along pretty well in almost every other context though - school, biglaw, recreational outings with co-workers

so i dont' know if i'm really an autist. it's just that expressing sexual attraction seems shameful and strange to me, as is changing one's behavior toward someone else because of such base instincts

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605592)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:10 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

flirting is the aim of life. you have failed at being human and alive.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605600)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:10 PM
Author: Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin

it is autism bro, I do the same thing

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605602)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:12 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

so how are you dealing with the situation. i don't really understand why i'm pretty normal in every way except sex/romance stuff

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605622)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:13 PM
Author: Zombie-like mind-boggling turdskin

thinking about killing myself

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605625)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:20 PM
Author: hot tan resort macaca



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605699)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:13 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

do you experience sexual arousal generally?

does your heart start beating faster when an attractive girl talks to you?

you would be better off literally straight up saying "btw I think you're beautiful" instead of trying to flirt in a subtler, more experienced way

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605623)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:14 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

yes. i used to get crushes on people but haven't in like 8 years.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605633)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:15 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

take my advice above

the next time you're talking to a girl you find attractive, just be 100% honest if the conversation seems to be going well at all. Don't try too hard to be "smooth." Just tell her you think she's hot and go from there. If she rejects you, who fucking cares? You're better batting .100 than 0/0.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605652)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:12 PM
Author: slippery rehab quadroon

maybe you're just not a sex-haver, it's OK

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605613)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:19 PM
Author: odious people who are hurt stag film

you should chop your cock off and buy one of those anime pillows and use it for emotional affection



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606164)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus

32 is young you can still maek it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605535)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:25 PM
Author: Puce Impressive Nursing Home



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:49 PM
Author: black deranged internal respiration mediation

My mom used to say stupid shit like this to me right up until I hit 35 and then even my mom stopped pretending I was young.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607216)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:51 PM
Author: lavender thirsty principal's office



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:03 PM
Author: adventurous striped hyena

join the club:

https://twitter.com/mlauzon/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605542)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: passionate tattoo

How have you not visited a prostitute or killed yourself?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605543)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:07 PM
Author: copper bossy ape



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: Haunting stead

hie to asia.

not flame. you bombed out of this society. but you have the privilege of descending on a lesser scene and being gifted bigstatus.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605584)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:45 PM
Author: supple site



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:46 PM
Author: dashing brethren



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Date: March 14th, 2018 9:08 PM
Author: racy brilliant shrine yarmulke



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Date: March 15th, 2018 12:41 PM
Author: Fragrant bat-shit-crazy forum queen of the night



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:11 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

btw, do your coworkers know you are a virgin at 32?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605611)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:13 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

i don't think so, they probably think i'm private about personal matters.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605628)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:15 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

k...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605646)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:14 PM
Author: adventurous striped hyena

probably. there's usually something off/awkward about these types

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605634)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:16 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

can you describe? i'm not like some neckbeard

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605654)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:18 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

people, ESPECIALLY women, can smell (sometimes literally via pheromones) whether you're the kind of guy who gets laid or not

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605670)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:32 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

Yeah it's brutal.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605790)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:34 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

:(

I believe in you, friend

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605806)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:38 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

What would you advise?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605821)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:49 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

honestly, you might want to give OKCupid a shot

I know, I know you detest the very idea of dating apps, but IME OKC is better than Tinder for finding more than just a hookup. You can fill out an extensive written profile, answer lifestyle questions that determine match %, indicate prominently that you're exclusively looking for a long-term relationship, that you're Christian and it's very important to you, etc. All of this information is instantly featured on all the women you'll look at. True, the quality of women looks-wise is not as good as Tinder/Bumble, but I don't think you can be too picky at this point.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605895)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

Is that really the only option? It's weird and probably irrational but my revulsion toward dating apps is incredibly powerful.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606081)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:13 PM
Author: boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house

Okcupid is a wasteland. Quality has massively declined sometime in the last several years.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606095)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:14 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

if you're in a major city (he's in DC), there are still diamonds in the rough

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606111)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:13 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

I mean just look at it as a surefire way of increasing your pool of options tenfold. No one will make you swipe right on chicks you don't like. No one will force you to message or respond to messages. I don't see the downside of at least checking it out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. It really is different from Tinder/Bumble (again, IME)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606105)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:26 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

Well, not zero risk. Journalists do have their dating profiles found and used for malicious purposes (I was literally told at my last job not to join Tinder for this reason).

Still, point taken. Maybe I'll give it a look.

Maybe.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606220)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:33 PM
Author: cracking philosopher-king

Do ChristianMingle

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612229)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:44 PM
Author: iridescent keepsake machete prole

OKCupid is pretty much at the bottom, second only to Plenty of Fish. He'd probably have much better luck on eHarmony or Match. At least with the pay services, you're filtering out the riffraff.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612321)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:51 PM
Author: henna floppy native cuck

actually know a dude who got a hotwife on match

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612377)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:47 PM
Author: adventurous striped hyena

cr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605882)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:47 PM
Author: Wine Motley Public Bath National Security Agency

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605885)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:02 PM
Author: henna floppy native cuck



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:15 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

OP here. i think another related issue is i'm not really interested in developing relationships with people...like i don't really care about deepening friendships with people. my parents don't really have friends and just have each other and that's kinda what i'd like to have.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605647)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:16 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

yeah again, you're autistic.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605660)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:20 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

but i'm quite good at public speaking, making jokes, "banter" with co-workers etc. can I still be autist?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605692)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:21 PM
Author: Doobsian party of the first part

you could just be high functioning

your inability to form emotional relationships is the key factor

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605705)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:38 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

OK that's fair, inability to form emotional relationships is very accurate description of my life so far.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605818)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:24 PM
Author: slippery rehab quadroon

you're more likely to be schizoid

probably best if you keep not having sex

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605732)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:48 PM
Author: Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607206)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:27 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

im super bad at all these. you are not autistic, but something about you must be off.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605750)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: Yellow double fault hell

I’m the same way for the most part.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605784)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house

Sorry bro, you have some similarities to me based on what you've posted in this thread and I can tell you that the outlook for what you desire is very rough. I had it with organic hs gf/wife but divorced. The process to get it back was long and painful but I did eventually have a couple of decent LTRs.

The fundamental problem for you is that most women do not want what you want. In fact, wanting it makes you less desirable in their eyes. Somewhat counterintiutively, that is probably true *even* for the women who have similar goals to you because they will be attracted to high social status.

In my case I could use being better than average looking as a crutch. Got even more jacked, dressed well, etc. That combined with being successful and getting some real confidence (confidence that was actually innate, not the forced PUA kind) put me in a place where I could pointedly tell women that I prefer to keep to myself and not have it be a big deal. If you convey high status in other ways, being anti-social isn't fatal because it is perceived as a choice, but if you look like a slob you're creepy and DONE HERE.

Unfortunately I can also tell you that being aggressive is a requirement. My results got drastically better when I went in with the goal of FUCKING girls rather than hoping that I would have a nice date with some one I liked who also liked me. You gotta FUCK them and then it becomes your option as to where things go, but being nice and hoping they like you and that you go on several dates and form a bond is a path that will get you a lot of "didn't really feel a spark" texts.

I know having someone tell you these things isn't pleasant (nor did I find it pleasant learning them through trial and error), but you'll have to go against your personality in uncomfortable ways to get women.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606012)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 5:37 AM
Author: Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse

JFC this is like an advertisement for hookers.

How to succeed on the dating market as a woman: Whatever, just show up, guys will fawn over you and no matter what you look or act like you're somebody's fetish.

How to succeed on the dating market as a man: Just do adopt an elaborate false consciousness and never deviate from wearing the mask.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35609648)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:01 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

this sounds like it might be correct. i have been on a couple of dates that didn't end up going anywhere because i just don't know how to express attraction. the idea of touching someone without explicit permission is very weird to me...i supposed i've always wished the woman would make the first physical move.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611912)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:29 PM
Author: boyish dark toaster step-uncle's house

Keep in mind that if the idea of touching someone seems weird, you might be setting up your dates wrong. There are plenty of settings, like a coffee date, where escalating physically feels weird because it WOULD be weird to do so in that situation. Don't have dates like that, because female hamster brains will typically characterize them as "not really any chemistry" even if the date actually went quite well given its setting and constraints. The date needs to be one where you are naturally interacting with her physically to go well. Take this advice from a fellow autist to heart . . . It took a lot of IRL trial and error for me to learn this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612182)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 3:27 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

What are good alternatives?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612681)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:09 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

Oof.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611990)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:39 PM
Author: jade exciting codepig fat ankles

The only advice on dating on xo that even comes remotely close to the truth. Prioritize giving them a peak sexual experience and then the whole kingdom is yours. It's so simple. Just lay down the pipe EXTREMELY WELL the first time and she is yours to lose forever. Sexual attraction, and subsequent domination, is the origination of everything.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612285)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:43 PM
Author: Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse

Just do lay down the pipe EXTREMELY WELL the first time when you're frozen out of the sexual market and she's used to Chad.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612315)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:47 PM
Author: jade exciting codepig fat ankles

Or just keep on making up excuses on xo why you can't even perform the basic task of satisfying a woman and jerk off to hentai for the rest of your wretched life, or whatever the fuck it is you weirdos do instead of chase women.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612344)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 3:23 PM
Author: Very tactful marketing idea whorehouse

Never got into hentai. I was planning to drink myself to death.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612656)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:45 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612333)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 3:25 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus

this poast is embarrassing, jfc. deleting

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612674)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:16 PM
Author: Electric box office fanboi

Schizoid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605658)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:19 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

covert schizoid does seem very apt.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605685)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: hot tan resort macaca



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605662)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:18 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

im worse than you. everyone i meet immediately knows i never had a gf and that im a virgin. i never got along with classmates and dont get along with my co-workers. you have it better than me.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605675)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:20 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

what are your issues? also, biglaw?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605698)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:28 PM
Author: Rose Deep Patrolman

my issues? 140lb, sound like a little boy, small penis, zero confidence, high anxiety, super angry and sad all the time in public. in other words, no chill, and no chad.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605755)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:29 PM
Author: copper bossy ape



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605766)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: Thriller rough-skinned giraffe

: the xo story

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605817)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:03 PM
Author: Aromatic Pink Bbw



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611929)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:18 PM
Author: henna floppy native cuck

Asian?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612071)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:36 PM
Author: Puce Impressive Nursing Home

(the xo story)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612263)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:24 PM
Author: Comical kitchen

Bang a hooker and get in shape.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605736)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:26 PM
Author: nofapping dilemma mad cow disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605748)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: arrogant center reading party

You could have just said you’re Asian and we would’ve understood

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605794)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:06 PM
Author: fishy fortuitous meteor boltzmann



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606034)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:02 PM
Author: henna floppy native cuck



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611927)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: pontificating piazza sneaky criminal

I'm like this too, but even older.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35605797)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 6:26 PM
Author: Laughsome big-titted base

Evan, you’re gay. Totally different

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35606227)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 5:40 AM
Author: naked school weed whacker

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35609649)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 9:30 AM
Author: pontificating piazza sneaky criminal

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35610215)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:47 PM
Author: dashing brethren

i have never been within a mile of a woman. ever.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607201)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:48 PM
Author: irate juggernaut



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607204)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:48 PM
Author: black deranged internal respiration mediation

Why even live if this is your life? Just killself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607209)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:51 PM
Author: soul-stirring smoky wrinkle heaven

I don’t believe it. Or you’re just sick

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607227)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 8:59 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

Why is it hard to believe? There's actually tons of people like this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607294)



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Date: March 14th, 2018 9:00 PM
Author: cerise stimulating hospital

for me to give a shit, list the self-improvement activities you've attempted over the years and the results

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35607305)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 3:12 PM
Author: Arousing Stage Main People



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612549)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 9:39 AM
Author: sickened gold crackhouse foreskin

Are you lonely?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35610264)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 1:59 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

no. i'm very introverted and can entertain myself for hours on the internet. poasting on forums also is great social interaction. my jerb gives me enough human contact, too.

the main thing is i think starting a family would be cool in the next 10 years but i don't really see any way for that to happen given my personality and experience.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611895)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:02 PM
Author: Turquoise chest-beating pisswyrm

You've come to the right place

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611922)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:03 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611935)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:05 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

i really liek it here.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35611953)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:15 PM
Author: Slate titillating church

CharlesXII, i think you and i are very similar. you have said before that you are fairly good in social situations and are not some shut-in aspie neckbeard.

have you also had this similar difficulty with expressing attraction? i'm not religious, but i feel like for some reason i have internalized the idea of sexual attraction as something to be hidden, or something that should be revealed and acted on only in rare, private situations. so flirting and being "physical" with women have always struck me as highly inappropriate and strange, even when i was a kid. i had always noticed some guys doing what i would identify as stupid, cringe-inducing things around women just for their attention, and I looked down on it. i remember noticing when friends would act differently around women. i treated women just like i treated men - friendly, professional, what i would call "normal." but clearly something is wrong with my approach. i feel very similar to Stevens in Remains of the Day. the way that he interacted with Kenton reminds me of my own interactions with girls i've had crushes on before. we have decent friendships and interaction, but i cannot bring myself to elevate those interactions to a more personal level; i wouldn't even know how and would feel like some ass doing anything that i see other people do with their girlfriends/wives/dates etc.

what troubles me is this whole "metoo" movement and anti-harassment movement seems to JUSTIFY my own behavior...as if what i'm doing is actually what society is saying is good and it's those other men who are bad.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612038)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:45 PM
Author: jade exciting codepig fat ankles

Spare yourself any further mental derangement and consider avoiding the temptation of following another blind man, or even soliciting his thoughts on anything even peripherally related to the matter at hand.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612334)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:47 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus

So you're just now realizing what women say they want and what they actually want are not the same?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612341)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 3:24 PM
Author: amber gunner brunch

I can relate to a lot of this:

Like you, I have a very hard (really, almost impossible) time expressing attraction for others, and I think I also view it as subtly inappropriate to be overly attracted to a person I just met. This is apparently an extremely non-CR attitude to have ('friend zone' and all that) but has proven difficult to overcome. Maybe this is an outgrowth of my religious conservatism but I personally don't think so.

I'm also self-conscious to a high degree and one of my deepest fears is being publicly humiliated. This makes me extremely wary of putting myself "out there" by admitting interest in somebody. Basically, I have every teenage boy's fear of rejection but I never really got over it. This combines badly with my sentiment against expressing attraction quickly, because this means most people I could express an interest in are friends to one degree or another, and so there's a genuine downside to expressing interest and getting rejected.

I can selectively overcome this fear in certain domains or for a short period of time but it's proven very hard to totally abolish. Add to that the #MeToo concerns about getting labeled creepy and it's a toxic mix.

If my goal were solely to find a slut and get laid I could probably start using brute-force methods to overcome this, but that's not my goal, and instead it's pretty rare for me to even meet a woman who I find interesting.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612658)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:46 PM
Author: bull headed hominid

lol @ "hugged romantically" -- what part of asia are you from? any chance to go back to the mainland to find a mate?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612337)



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Date: March 15th, 2018 2:47 PM
Author: Talking medicated sweet tailpipe potus



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3918708&forum_id=2#35612345)