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any body have experience w/ hospice end of life stuff re parents? need help

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Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
my mom went from doing ok-ish and doing infusion chemo to ba...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
get the private HOSPICE nurse to set drugs up / also call a ...
cerebral round eye hall
  04/17/18
Whats her diagnosis symptoms etc? Maybe she can get some pal...
Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold
  04/17/18
I don’t but best wishes man. Awful situation
Chocolate Stimulating Sanctuary
  04/16/18
ty. the inefficiency and bureaucracy of dying with dignity i...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
TITMFCR
Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold
  04/17/18
cr. Godspeed OP.
Supple claret athletic conference
  04/16/18
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adventurous corner laser beams
  04/16/18
Not helpful, but: Sorry, dude.
Mint Box Office Chad
  04/16/18
thanks kells
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
a lot of times they are stingy about it. just have to keep b...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
it was a last ditch super aggressive chemo treatment. she's ...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
take care of her. keep knocking heads until you get the morp...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
the worst part is that she refuses the morphine
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
don't force it if she genuinely doesn't want it. or let her ...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
Once she starts taking it the mom you remember will be effec...
Submissive Salmon Twinkling Uncleanness Friendly Grandma
  04/17/18
she's already gone : (
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
Gone gone, or she tried the morphine? Either way, with yo...
Costumed appetizing clown
  04/17/18
how old is she?
Vivacious unholy office
  04/16/18
early 70s
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
Sorry brah. Do you have anyone to support you through this?
Vivacious unholy office
  04/16/18
meh. friends i guess. my dad is kind of a babe in the woods ...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
*huge hug*
Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess
  04/16/18
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Supple claret athletic conference
  04/16/18
Sorry man. I think just be harassing to whoever is in charge...
Smoky coiffed antidepressant drug keepsake machete
  04/16/18
Condolences dude but also be warned that some unhinged psych...
Disgusting Field Mental Disorder
  04/16/18
that's ok
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
as said above, get the hospice doctor involved. It can ...
Honey-headed Soul-stirring Weed Whacker
  04/16/18
how do you get the hospice dr involved? demand they make a h...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
just get A DOCTOR or decision maker on the phone and ask him...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
we've got morphine. what i want now is for her to be admitte...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
yeah, that's what you want to do. the oncologist can push it...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
we've got the medical equipment and the hospital bed. we've ...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
yeah, assess the alternatives. some people are weirded out b...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
There is a doctor who has a car who works only for hospice. ...
Honey-headed Soul-stirring Weed Whacker
  04/16/18
ty. will do this.
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
sorry. i hope she goes quickly and that after it happens you...
pungent milk puppy
  04/16/18
we had a pretty lucid goodbye yesterday afternoon while she ...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
that's good. no advice but best of luck and make sure u take...
pungent milk puppy
  04/16/18
remember that when they stop responding, a lot of times they...
Maize Set
  04/16/18
yeah. i've been by her side for the last 20 or so hours. wen...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
Reach out to the doctor to see what can be done as far as ca...
180 whorehouse lettuce
  04/16/18
we have this. i want this. my mom wanted it. but hospice nur...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/16/18
You need to speak to an MD- they are the shot callers and ca...
180 whorehouse lettuce
  04/16/18
this is the plan for tmrw morning
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
Did she express any views on end of life care? I know both o...
sexy nofapping center cuck
  04/16/18
When my dog had cancer I just bashed its skull in with a sho...
Lake House
  04/16/18
You didn’t You are not a real human being but some other ...
Submissive Salmon Twinkling Uncleanness Friendly Grandma
  04/17/18
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multi-colored spot nibblets
  04/17/18
Sorry brother. My best friend buried his mom a week ago from...
Drab Concupiscible Stead
  04/16/18
IN this fight with my mom now and she is only 55. Stay stron...
Wild glassy giraffe
  04/17/18
I can't fathom what you're going through. My thoughts are wi...
House-broken abode
  04/17/18
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Beady-eyed erotic parlor azn
  04/17/18
Take her to palliative at a cancer center / cancer hospital....
arrogant private investor
  04/17/18
My father has stage 4 and is back in the hospital as of this...
Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry
  04/17/18
Very sorry and wishing you the best.
at-the-ready windowlicker rehab
  04/17/18
Hang in breh
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
ftge sorry bro.
Sinister Jet-lagged Theater
  04/17/18
Really sorry to hear this, God speed.
at-the-ready windowlicker rehab
  04/17/18
a family member died after a week of hospice, four years ago...
Green turdskin
  04/17/18
Ftge she's literally writhing in pain. My dad refuses to giv...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
Absolutely devastating
Hyperactive ivory water buffalo headpube
  04/17/18
call the ambulance. i'm guessing he's scared. tell him, &quo...
Green turdskin
  04/17/18
welp that's it bros. living a normal, happy life to dead in ...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
she died? sorry for your loss, this is horrible
carnelian self-centered chapel generalized bond
  04/17/18
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Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess
  04/17/18
sorry bro / at least it was relatively quick. my grandfather...
cerebral round eye hall
  04/17/18
My condolences friend <3 *biggest hug ever*
Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess
  04/17/18
Sorry for your loss
crystalline wonderful institution masturbator
  04/17/18
Sorry brother
Rose theater stage
  04/17/18
Fuck man, I am sorry.
Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold
  04/17/18
Omg...I’m so sorry to here this.
Wild glassy giraffe
  04/17/18
sorry brother
Big-titted talented school nowag
  04/17/18
Wow man I'm really sorry for your loss. In a weird way I hop...
Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry
  04/17/18
condolences friend
pungent milk puppy
  04/17/18
jfc
Vivacious unholy office
  04/17/18
holy shit. sorry dude
multi-colored spot nibblets
  04/17/18
Damn. I am truly sorry.
lilac kink-friendly telephone state
  04/17/18
I wish you and your family peace during this terrible time.
galvanic tan trust fund
  04/17/18
Get fucked you bimbo spic
Hyperactive ivory water buffalo headpube
  04/17/18
That's uncalled for man.
copper dilemma
  04/17/18
Sorry, man. Not easy.
topaz lodge striped hyena
  04/17/18
Sorry man. Been there. It sucks. Be w her as much as you ...
sable station
  04/17/18
Sorry man. Hang in there
marvelous jap
  04/17/18
important note for anyone who missed it: the subtext of &...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
This is eye opening for me.
fragrant yellow national
  04/17/18
to be clear, a little bit of morphine won't kill you. eno...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
just to clarify, that was 100% the goal
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
ofn bro I'm not criticizing you. I'm just putting it out ...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
It was a good subtext to highlight. Def needs to be known th...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
legit this was the deal before/without/during "euthanas...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
i dont know why im writing this down, but fuck it need to ch...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
yeah I'm not a scientist but I am in favor of pain relief at...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
Haven't exchanged with you before bro but your thread hit me...
Self-absorbed Forum Reading Party
  04/17/18
don't just hope. you're going to have to be clear as FUCK. ...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
thanks brother
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/18/18
This is helpful, no one ever explains it like this, ty
carnelian self-centered chapel generalized bond
  04/17/18
that's why we have xo bro. don't say this shit irl. unless, ...
Laughsome dun senate party of the first part
  04/17/18
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Anal property gay wizard
  04/17/18
Dealt with this about 15 years ago when I was 19. It isn't f...
jet boyish church
  04/17/18
You can talk to whokebe he knows a lot about it.
copper dilemma
  04/17/18
thanks to all my xo bros and bishes for the well wishes, and...
Domesticated dopamine stage
  04/17/18
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Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess
  04/17/18
So much of the industry you have to interact with at an emot...
Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry
  04/17/18
Sorry for your loss brother. I wish you all the best.
Supple claret athletic conference
  04/17/18
this seems kind of sketchy, bro. she had maybe a month to li...
Vibrant nighttime tank temple
  04/17/18
Sorry for your loss.
mischievous grizzly bawdyhouse
  04/17/18
Sorry for your loss.
Beta locus mediation
  04/17/18
Sorry for your loss, brother.
hairraiser gas station
  04/18/18


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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:16 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:20 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

my mom went from doing ok-ish and doing infusion chemo to basically on death's door over the course of the weekend. hospice came to day to set up a bed & oxygen and bring pain meds. but the nurse is only here like an hour and then leaves. have a private nurse starting tomorrow, but it doesn't feel like i'm doing enough to make her comfortable. even with the morphin she's restless and uncomfortable. how do i get her on a drip?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856384)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:00 AM
Author: cerebral round eye hall

get the private HOSPICE nurse to set drugs up / also call a friendly doc. Get her marijuana if you can. helps

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857388)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:44 AM
Author: Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold

Whats her diagnosis symptoms etc? Maybe she can get some palliative radiation. I personally wouldn't set her up with palliative care.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857442)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:23 PM
Author: Chocolate Stimulating Sanctuary

I don’t but best wishes man. Awful situation

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856412)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:24 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

ty. the inefficiency and bureaucracy of dying with dignity is unreal. feels like a biglaw firedrill

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856424)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:45 AM
Author: Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold

TITMFCR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857443)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:25 PM
Author: Supple claret athletic conference

cr. Godspeed OP.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856430)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:38 PM
Author: adventurous corner laser beams



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:24 PM
Author: Mint Box Office Chad

Not helpful, but: Sorry, dude.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856423)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:25 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

thanks kells

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856425)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:25 PM
Author: Maize Set

a lot of times they are stingy about it. just have to keep badgering people, get a DOCTOR involved.

is there absolutely no chance for even temporary recovery? a lot of these fuckers will push hospice on you even when it's not appropriate. keep a clear head.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856432)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:27 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

it was a last ditch super aggressive chemo treatment. she's had stage 4 for 3 years. it's pretty bleak, i thought my mom was going to die today. i doubt she'll last the week.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856440)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:31 PM
Author: Maize Set

take care of her. keep knocking heads until you get the morphine or whatever she seems to need. it's not going to be a pleasant experience.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856471)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:34 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

the worst part is that she refuses the morphine

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856508)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:38 PM
Author: Maize Set

don't force it if she genuinely doesn't want it. or let her try it and then see if she wants to keep it up.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856529)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:02 AM
Author: Submissive Salmon Twinkling Uncleanness Friendly Grandma

Once she starts taking it the mom you remember will be effectively gone. Not saying this isn’t the best outcome, but be prepared. Good luck and best wishes to you and your family.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856708)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:03 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

she's already gone : (

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856712)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:32 AM
Author: Costumed appetizing clown

Gone gone, or she tried the morphine?

Either way, with you right now in prayer

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857269)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:27 PM
Author: Vivacious unholy office

how old is she?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856442)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:29 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

early 70s

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856457)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:31 PM
Author: Vivacious unholy office

Sorry brah. Do you have anyone to support you through this?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856469)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:33 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

meh. friends i guess. my dad is kind of a babe in the woods / putz. he's not been aggressive dealing with doctors. can't really figure shit out. ugh

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856489)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:28 PM
Author: Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess

*huge hug*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856451)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:30 PM
Author: Supple claret athletic conference



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:31 PM
Author: Smoky coiffed antidepressant drug keepsake machete

Sorry man. I think just be harassing to whoever is in charge until they help you. Nothing to lose at this point.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856475)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:32 PM
Author: Disgusting Field Mental Disorder

Condolences dude but also be warned that some unhinged psycho with a grudge against you will likely spam the board using this to hurt you (cf. some crazed quotemo who keeps changing monikers attacking damn daddy for posting about when his dad was sick)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856481)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:33 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

that's ok

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856495)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:33 PM
Author: Honey-headed Soul-stirring Weed Whacker

as said above, get the hospice doctor involved.

It can be surprising how long someone with cancer can hang on. Be prepared for this to go on longer than you think it will. I do not know your exact situation but if she is able to voice that she has pain then she may have several weeks left.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856491)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:34 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

how do you get the hospice dr involved? demand they make a home visit? or do you mean the treating doctor?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856505)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:36 PM
Author: Maize Set

just get A DOCTOR or decision maker on the phone and ask him what needs to be done to get morphine or whatever, because it's NEEDED. meaning, don't rely on the nurses to investigate anything. they may or may not.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856522)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:41 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

we've got morphine. what i want now is for her to be admitted ASAP into the hospice facility. nurses say she has longer than a month so can't get admitted, i say bull shit. so i'm gonna call her oncologist and tmrw and get her to say that she has less than a month. than have doctor call the hospice decision makers. what else should i do? she's NOT comfortable at home.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856551)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:44 PM
Author: Maize Set

yeah, that's what you want to do. the oncologist can push it or finesse the prognosis so she is accepted by hospice.

but have you see the hospice place? is it definitely better than your home? they can bring hospital beds and all the medical equipment into your house immediately, converting her room into a hospital room, and then administering all the drugs at home. that's what they are set up to do.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856581)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:49 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

we've got the medical equipment and the hospital bed. we've go morphine for her. before she went downhill, she said she wanted to go to the hospice place rather than be at home. idk im just exhausted. private nurse is coming tmrw. maybe thatll help

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856618)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:53 PM
Author: Maize Set

yeah, assess the alternatives. some people are weirded out being ill at home and might want to be somewhere else, or maybe she wants more nursing attention at a medical facility, could be a lot of things. although, a lot of times, sick people say they want B and then as soon as you give it to them, they want to go back and have A. they are restless and confused.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856638)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:39 PM
Author: Honey-headed Soul-stirring Weed Whacker

There is a doctor who has a car who works only for hospice. He makes house visits. Call and leave a message with the hospice for him. Be a little emotional. they are used to it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856540)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:41 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

ty. will do this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856558)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:36 PM
Author: pungent milk puppy

sorry. i hope she goes quickly and that after it happens you feel like you got to say goodbye as well as anyone could

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856517)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:37 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

we had a pretty lucid goodbye yesterday afternoon while she was still a little with it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856524)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:39 PM
Author: pungent milk puppy

that's good. no advice but best of luck and make sure u take care of urself and ur dad in the meantime

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856535)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:39 PM
Author: Maize Set

remember that when they stop responding, a lot of times they can still hear you and sense you there for a long time afterward, until the end. don't leave her alone.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856542)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:42 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

yeah. i've been by her side for the last 20 or so hours. went upstairs for a megapoast break while my dad is down with her

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856566)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:47 PM
Author: 180 whorehouse lettuce

Reach out to the doctor to see what can be done as far as care, they can order more meds and maybe more frequent nursing care.

Also, there is something called a "hospice home" where people who aren't doing as well at home can choose to go get symptom treatment while on hospice, a lot of these are really good with good staff, so consider this an option if there is one in your area.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856601)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:50 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

we have this. i want this. my mom wanted it. but hospice nurses are saying she isnt far enough along yet, which i think is bullshit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856622)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:57 PM
Author: 180 whorehouse lettuce

You need to speak to an MD- they are the shot callers and can get her in. Just yell and get emotional and demand they come see her, etc. until it gets done. There is no going too far with this, it's your mom. (I'm an md)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856675)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:04 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

this is the plan for tmrw morning

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856723)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:50 PM
Author: sexy nofapping center cuck

Did she express any views on end of life care? I know both of my parents would want to be taken to Oregon and to die in peace at that point. They wrote this into their will, created medical power of attorney to make it happen, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856624)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:52 PM
Author: Lake House

When my dog had cancer I just bashed its skull in with a shovel. Much more humane than what we do with people .

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856632)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:00 AM
Author: Submissive Salmon Twinkling Uncleanness Friendly Grandma

You didn’t

You are not a real human being but some other lower order species. Like the kind they use for armor sitting on Russian tanks.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856693)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:22 PM
Author: multi-colored spot nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864735)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 11:58 PM
Author: Drab Concupiscible Stead

Sorry brother. My best friend buried his mom a week ago from cancer. Try to stay around people and don't drink too much. I hope everything is peaceful.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856676)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 8:00 AM
Author: Wild glassy giraffe

IN this fight with my mom now and she is only 55. Stay strong OP and I second the bit about the drinking

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857590)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:01 AM
Author: House-broken abode

I can't fathom what you're going through. My thoughts are with you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856700)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 12:01 AM
Author: Beady-eyed erotic parlor azn



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35856705)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 1:33 AM
Author: arrogant private investor

Take her to palliative at a cancer center / cancer hospital. Tell them that the morphine wears off and she is constantly adjusting her dose and her pain is poorly controlled. They will set her up with a morphine pump, which will help a bit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857106)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:15 AM
Author: Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry

My father has stage 4 and is back in the hospital as of this morning on a morphine drip- I'm right there with you man

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857259)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:25 AM
Author: at-the-ready windowlicker rehab

Very sorry and wishing you the best.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857263)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 4:27 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

Hang in breh

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857292)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:24 AM
Author: Sinister Jet-lagged Theater

ftge

sorry bro.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857262)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:25 AM
Author: at-the-ready windowlicker rehab

Really sorry to hear this, God speed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857264)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:57 AM
Author: Green turdskin

a family member died after a week of hospice, four years ago to the day. overwhelming time for sure. other than what's been said, don't be afraid to ask for help. let other people be there for you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857276)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 4:06 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

Ftge she's literally writhing in pain. My dad refuses to give her more morph. Or let me call the ambulance to take her to palliative care

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857280)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 4:10 AM
Author: Hyperactive ivory water buffalo headpube

Absolutely devastating

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857281)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 4:19 AM
Author: Green turdskin

call the ambulance. i'm guessing he's scared. tell him, "hey dad, let me take care of this."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857287)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 5:52 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

welp that's it bros. living a normal, happy life to dead in 4 days : ( don't forget to enter your time entries tomorrow

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857383)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 5:53 AM
Author: carnelian self-centered chapel generalized bond

she died? sorry for your loss, this is horrible

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857384)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:20 AM
Author: Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857400)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:01 AM
Author: cerebral round eye hall

sorry bro / at least it was relatively quick. my grandfather lingered for 4 months on hospice. Better than dying in a hospital I suppose

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857389)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:15 AM
Author: Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess

My condolences friend <3

*biggest hug ever*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857398)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:26 AM
Author: crystalline wonderful institution masturbator

Sorry for your loss

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857408)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:40 AM
Author: Rose theater stage

Sorry brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857434)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:45 AM
Author: Charismatic Fear-inspiring Cuckold

Fuck man, I am sorry.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857444)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 8:01 AM
Author: Wild glassy giraffe

Omg...I’m so sorry to here this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857591)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 8:02 AM
Author: Big-titted talented school nowag

sorry brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857596)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:47 AM
Author: Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry

Wow man I'm really sorry for your loss. In a weird way I hope when my dad goes it is that efficient because i don't want to see him suffer in an extra long drawn out way.

Just know she's not hurting anymore

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35858398)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:09 AM
Author: pungent milk puppy

condolences friend

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35858585)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:55 PM
Author: Vivacious unholy office

jfc

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35862674)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 9:18 PM
Author: multi-colored spot nibblets

holy shit. sorry dude

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35863729)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:24 AM
Author: lilac kink-friendly telephone state

Damn. I am truly sorry.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857404)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:31 AM
Author: galvanic tan trust fund

I wish you and your family peace during this terrible time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857414)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 7:48 AM
Author: Hyperactive ivory water buffalo headpube

Get fucked you bimbo spic

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857570)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 1:03 PM
Author: copper dilemma

That's uncalled for man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35859590)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:38 AM
Author: topaz lodge striped hyena

Sorry, man. Not easy.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857431)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 6:43 AM
Author: sable station

Sorry man. Been there. It sucks. Be w her as much as you can now. Comfort her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857440)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 9:15 AM
Author: marvelous jap

Sorry man. Hang in there

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35857776)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:20 AM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

important note for anyone who missed it:

the subtext of "increase morphine because she's in pain" is "i understand and wish to kill her."

because the "just enough painkiller to make him comfortable" will kill him/her. everyone on the medical side knows this, but i've seen other people not realize it. this is why youre getting pushback or whatever: the request for "really alleviating the pain" is a de facto request for euthanasia. so if you dont understand why the nurses are hesitant, that is why. we dont have euthanasia laws everywhere and a lot of nurses aren't comfortable making that decision alone. you have to insist because it really is asking for death. so, as others have said, talk to real doctors about how you *really* want pain relief and all that it entails; dont blame nurses and other functionaries for not making her "comfortable." if youre man enough to ask for death then be man enough to not put it on some random nurse whos not authorized to euthanize.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35858670)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 8:51 PM
Author: fragrant yellow national

This is eye opening for me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35863569)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 8:56 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

to be clear, a little bit of morphine won't kill you.

enough morphine to "stop the pain" for someone dying from cancer absolutely is enough to speed up the process. So that is 100% what were talking about and everyone needs to know that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35863609)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 9:17 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

just to clarify, that was 100% the goal

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35863724)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:32 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

ofn bro I'm not criticizing you.

I'm just putting it out there bc I've seen people unsure.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864357)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:56 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

It was a good subtext to highlight. Def needs to be known that that is a real trade off

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864568)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:19 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

legit this was the deal before/without/during "euthanasia" and I've been around people who understood and people who didn't.

it's very sad when people don't understand and are frustrated and confused (either way--why they can't get enough to make someone pain-free or why "pain relief" seemed to precede sudden death)

(not a doctormo but I once dated someone who took organic chemistry)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864704)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 9:36 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

i dont know why im writing this down, but fuck it need to chronicle this awfulness

prior to monday she had never taken any prescription pain meds. starting monday late afternoon, she took abt 5 doses of .25ml morphine spaced about an hour apart, which is the hospice 'starter' dose for patients expected to live 1 month +

after this thread, i called over a hospice nurse and badgered them to come over and urged for a dosage boost. they moved it up to .5ml. i was advocating for them to go straight to the 1ml "max" (im sure they go over this at hospice facilities for patients they consider to be actually 'near' death and are trying to kill). she died after 2 of those those .5ml doses, spaced an hour apart.

so, yes, my aim was absolutely to hasten her demise. unclear to me whether the amt she took accomplished that. but maybe others know more abt this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35863859)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:34 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

yeah I'm not a scientist but I am in favor of pain relief at risk of death for suffering terminal patients

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864376)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:52 PM
Author: Self-absorbed Forum Reading Party

Haven't exchanged with you before bro but your thread hit me hard. I had a very similar experience with my dad. Here is the deal, when I am about to die, and the choice is a few more hours of spaced-out unconscious pain vs. son giving me morphine to let me go quietly into the light -- I hope I have raised my son well enough to give me peace.

I have struggled with the decision I made for my dad for years. We all die. Some die horrible deaths. Some die gracefully. You gave your mother grace. Be proud. It wasn't you making the decision, it was her.

Edit: Sorry for your loss. Nothing is the same... at least for a long time. Find joy in the process of grief. You will understand when you see it in front of you and feel guilty for trying to grasp it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864522)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:23 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

don't just hope. you're going to have to be clear as FUCK. believe me brother. I've seen people you wouldn't believe turn completely irrational.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864742)



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Date: April 18th, 2018 12:22 AM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

thanks brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35865043)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:35 PM
Author: carnelian self-centered chapel generalized bond

This is helpful, no one ever explains it like this, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864384)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:20 PM
Author: Laughsome dun senate party of the first part

that's why we have xo bro. don't say this shit irl. unless, you know, it's very private and very serious

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864713)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:21 AM
Author: Anal property gay wizard



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Date: April 17th, 2018 1:01 PM
Author: jet boyish church

Dealt with this about 15 years ago when I was 19. It isn't fun at all but you seem like a good and strong dude. It was horrible at the time but you will be glad you were there for her at the end and will take great comfort from that. Hit me with any questions or if you just need a sounding board. It gets better.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35859578)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 1:02 PM
Author: copper dilemma

You can talk to whokebe he knows a lot about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35859587)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:51 PM
Author: Domesticated dopamine stage

thanks to all my xo bros and bishes for the well wishes, and even the vitriol. this sucks, but the worst is over. getting logistical advice from xo was much better than trying to get advice from 110 iq medical admin proles.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35861490)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 3:52 PM
Author: Indigo Bonkers Gaping Jewess



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35861510)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Zippy Juggernaut Cuckoldry

So much of the industry you have to interact with at an emotionally raw time is know it all shitnurses and autistic doctors who can barely speak English. There is little empathy to be found there, and that's coming from this fucking place

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35862227)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:39 PM
Author: Supple claret athletic conference

Sorry for your loss brother. I wish you all the best.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864407)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:00 PM
Author: Vibrant nighttime tank temple

this seems kind of sketchy, bro. she had maybe a month to live and you basically euthanized her with a morphine OD? did you run that by her?

(OP put it out there, so don't complain that i'm commenting.)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864586)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:01 PM
Author: mischievous grizzly bawdyhouse

Sorry for your loss.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864593)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:37 PM
Author: Beta locus mediation

Sorry for your loss.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35864836)



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Date: April 18th, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: hairraiser gas station

Sorry for your loss, brother.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3951258&forum_id=2#35865122)