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Learned to waltz at a church dance tonight (CharlesXII)
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:20 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Today was supposed to be the date on the Mall, but I got savagely canceled on a few days ago as most of you know. I figured the CR was to soldier on and keep thing-doing, so tonight I went to a contra dancing event held at a Catholic school in Alexandria. I'd literally never intentionally gone dancing so it was a very new experience. Luckily almost everybody else was new at it so I blended in fine and one person even praised me as surprisingly good for a total beginner.
Amusingly and awkwardly, the girl who canceled on me was there and we briefly danced together during a big circle dance that involved constantly swapping partners. I said hello and she said nothing while avoiding eye contact and frankly dancing rather poorly. Yikes!
On the plus side, two members of the quail family were there, though not the oldest one I spoke the most two last week. This time I spent a lot of time talking to the middle member. We chatted about literature, education policy (she asked me about it, not flame), and the differences between Midwestern and East Coast Catholicism. She also taught me how to do a basic waltz after the organized dancing was over. A bunch of us went to Bob and Edith's on Columbia Pike afterward but I spent most of the time talking to the two quailers along with a tall Catholic Chad who was in the band at the dance. We discussed his interest in going to law school and I think I persuaded him not to go.
I got the # of the girl I talked to the most. She also offered to lend me a copy of Gogol's Dead Souls which I accepted as an easy excuse for future in-person interactions. She should also be singing at my church on Sunday morning. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:25 AM Author: Frozen Razzle Friendly Grandma Mood 1 billion (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088706) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:26 AM Author: Frozen Razzle Friendly Grandma Mood btw contra dancing was a major old school pr/xo meme (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088708) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:52 AM Author: Khaki Charismatic Locale Cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088764) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:18 AM Author: trip national feces (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088811) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:18 AM Author: trip national feces What is contra dancing? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088813) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:20 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Apparently a key feature is that couples form lines:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contra_dance |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:31 AM Author: trip national feces Tbf the meme was 'what is contra dancing?' followed by a long explanation, but ty! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088863) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:33 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Shit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088870) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 4:05 AM Author: Khaki Charismatic Locale Cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088934) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:23 AM Author: racy onyx menage ape Can anyone find one of those old threads? I made a medium-low effort search but couldn’t. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089167) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:23 PM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36094114) |
Date: May 20th, 2018 2:21 AM Author: Stubborn Stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088697) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:27 AM Author: Insane native this has to be flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088711) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:28 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression What seems flame about it? I admit running into the girl who canceled in me was funny but given I first met her at a different NoVa Catholic event it's not that weird. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088714) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:30 AM Author: Aromatic corner sounds like a fun night. it's great that you're going out and meeting people. if you continue to meet people and do things and enjoy yourself in the process, i have no doubt you'll meet the woman you marry. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088718) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:31 AM Author: sapphire alcoholic kitchen antidepressant drug Nice work bro.
You're taking it in stride which is key.
Who cancelled on you? I missed that story arc |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:31 AM Author: Frozen Razzle Friendly Grandma Mood what is the male/female ratio at catholic young singles events (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088723) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:35 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression This event was pretty even overall, based on the fact dancing requires an opposite sex partner and almost nobody was sitting out each dance.
Not really sure what the average is as I haven't been deliberately hitting these events very long. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:43 AM Author: Frozen Razzle Friendly Grandma Mood describe age range and how many hot females there were (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088749) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:54 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Age range seemed about 20-35 with 24-28 probably the most common group. Wide range of attractiveness but definitely some cute chicks. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088766) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:32 AM Author: Yapping Sinister Plaza Why is the cancellation girl such a bitch (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088727) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:36 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Hey now, be nice. I don't know why she canceled and I'm guessing she just found it awkward (or maybe she thought my hello during the dance was passive aggressive/sinister, idk). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088736) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:38 AM Author: Aromatic corner is she normally a bit socially awkward? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088742) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:40 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression I've only interacted with her a couple times. I basically asked her out after talking to her at a dinner for like an hour. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088745) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:43 AM Author: Aromatic corner that's plenty of time to gauge social skills (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088750) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:37 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Also, 100-book quest continues to fascinate people who hear about it so that's nice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088740) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:21 AM Author: Fighting resort selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088825) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 2:55 AM Author: soggy tattoo heaven The quail family is your destiny. Embrace it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088769) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:01 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Regardless of whether anything happens they're a fascinating family and I love talking to all of them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088780) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:22 AM Author: Galvanic Bistre Blood Rage see if you can get them to poast! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088828) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 9:12 AM Author: racy onyx menage ape lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089242) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:37 AM Author: Glittery church building (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089708) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:41 AM Author: cerise dog poop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089726) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:23 AM Author: Fighting resort selfie You already have a plus here that might make it all worthwhile even if nothing else happens (and something else WILL happen in time). 180. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:30 AM Author: adventurous indian lodge jewess wtf is a quail family (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088856) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:32 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression See OP here:
http://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3975337&mc=84&forum_id=2 |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:36 AM Author: adventurous indian lodge jewess nice (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088878) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 7:03 AM Author: Know-it-all Spot Mental Disorder I thought you misspelled Quayle (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089030) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 8:31 AM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095168) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 6:56 AM Author: Wonderful lemon theater They're like his version of the Schuyler Sisters. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102875) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:09 AM Author: Ivory coldplay fan place of business "Luckily almost everybody else was new at it so I blended in fine and one person even praised me as surprisingly good for a total beginner."
One... person said that? Charles, was it a man or a woman? If a woman, was she alone and hence a potential date? Or was she NOT alone, paired off with someone, and therefore we can safely assume she's constantly getting questions from her friends like "I love that you have a guy who will go dancing, how do I get that?" Or was it just the sort of social lubrication used to keep newcomers in the game, the exact sort of low level praise you doubtless have given to board game players?
More broadly, that the OP didn't elaborate on these potential dynamics makes me worry that you might not be engaging with this problem to the best of your ability. For our extremely limited purposes here, there's no such thing as "a person"; there's men and women and each can be subdivided into "taken" or "single" and so on as needed. For a good bro like you, being the sort of single guy that a married friend knows and can at least sort of vouch for is incredibly helpful. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:13 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Compliment was from a dude, the other guy in a four pack. Compliment came when girl (one of the quails) asked what other dancing I did and I admitted this was the first structured dancing I'd ever done. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088801) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:57 AM Author: swollen stage Describe the unstructured dancing experiences. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36088918) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 6:48 AM Author: impressive supple genital piercing just straight jamming out to a colonial fife and drum band (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089011) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:22 AM Author: racy onyx menage ape 177.6 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089163) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:23 AM Author: impressive supple genital piercing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089164) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:46 AM Author: Confused irradiated philosopher-king (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089201) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: cerise dog poop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089733) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:21 PM Author: bearded dull rigor personal credit line (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090853) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:28 PM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090890) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:20 PM Author: Brilliant Erotic Hell I didn't get this the first time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36094097) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:23 AM Author: Abusive theatre doctorate You're a huge fucking dork (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089165) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:38 AM Author: Glittery church building don't even pretend like you haven't done line dancing with your xo boyfriends (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089713) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:21 PM Author: bearded dull rigor personal credit line (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090847) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:50 AM Author: hideous affirmative action (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095430) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 8:13 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier CharlesXII is a nigga that don't dance but he makes moves (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095135) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:29 AM Author: multi-colored orchid church fanboi 180!
Also, describe your thoughts on Midwest vs. East Coast Catholicism. I'm sure the former are more politically conservative than the latter, of course. As a Midwest Catholicmo, the biggest difference to me was whether people hold hands during the Lord's Prayer. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 8:56 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression That's one gap, but I mostly focused on how there's a more explicit "Trad/non-Trad" split in the East, with old-school Catholics attending Latin Mass, joining their own groups, etc. as a byproduct of so much Eastern Catholicism being politically and theologically liberal. In the Midwest there's a greater assumption of orthodoxy which ironically means the Mass itself is less traditional because people feel less need to push back against novus ordo stuff. So churches back in my hometown pretty much never hold Latin services and there's a lot of annoying services that have guitars and evangelical megachurch-style music. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089216) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 9:00 AM Author: multi-colored orchid church fanboi Cr makes a lot of sense. The guitars/megachurch style stuff aptly summarizes the church I attended growing up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089222) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 9:02 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression I suppose that's also just a byproduct of evangelicals existing as competition. Almost nobody in the urban Northeast is evangelical (besides some Hispanics, actually) but maybe 1/3 of Christians in the Midwest are these days. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089228) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 9:01 AM Author: racy onyx menage ape Yucko to the guitars and mega church. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089226) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: Milky associate expect massive competition for you in the quail family. play the whole field to keep them all interested and jealous (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089692) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:44 AM Author: cerise dog poop the moment he picks one the other four are going to turn on him and go 100% catty. he needs to bring along four other poasters so they each have a match (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36089744) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:22 PM Author: impressive supple genital piercing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090854) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:25 PM Author: Indigo community account He should hook the other 4 up with DC poasters and they can have a mass marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090871) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:38 AM Author: Ultramarine institution lol 180 reverse big willie style pwnage on girl who ghosted you |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:22 PM Author: impressive supple genital piercing so just to be clear: over the last 2 weeks, you've gotten 2 phone numbers from 2 of the 5 quail sisters, and you have not asked either of them out? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090857) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:45 PM Author: racy onyx menage ape In this one special case, I am maaaaybe ok with him seeing the family a time or two more to determine which sister he prefers, since they all seem like objectively good matches and good odds, but it might be a difficult trick to pull off dating another one if he doesn’t hit it off with the first. It’s not impossible by any means but that’ll be delicate to pull off.
Although if one of them is obviously cuter/more interesting/whatever and he’s figured that out already, he should go for it soon. |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:20 PM Author: Brilliant Erotic Hell This is a sitcom situation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36094102) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 3:24 PM Author: stirring haunted graveyard cruise ship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36090864) |
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Date: May 20th, 2018 11:17 PM Author: frum shrine idea he suggested 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36094080) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 8:40 AM Author: laughsome center halford Holy shit. 180. You’re killing it. I like your growing confidence in getting out there. Must really be getting in good shape. Goes hand-in-hand.
Two things missing:
1) With whom was “The Canceler” attending the dance?
2) Did you go solo or with someone? |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:40 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression 1. Don't know. She was talking to several different guys throughout the evening and didn't seem to favor any one in particular. She may have simply been there on her own or with a friend.
2. I rolled solo. Lots of people were there without an opposite-sex partner so it wasn't that weird. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:46 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier 180. I would hit up app sluts all day long, but never roll solo to something like that. That's pretty awesome. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095408) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:51 AM Author: laughsome center halford Proud of you, man.
BTW, I bet part of the reason The Canceler danced so poorly was because she was discombobulated by your presence. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:55 AM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095457) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 9:51 AM Author: trip national feces DAMN what a slut (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095444) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 10:51 AM Author: Glittery church building (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095798) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 10:50 AM Author: cerise dog poop surprising that quail hasn't become a MAJOR forcememe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095787) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 10:59 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Uh oh: Girl I danced/talked with the most on Saturday is apparently leaving the country for two months in about two weeks (State Dept-funded study abroad). CR would be to quickly ask her out before she heads off, right?
Possible concern: I haven't decided which of the sisters I like best; would asking out one effectively "reject" the others? |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:01 AM Author: cerise dog poop no; yes
any other qs?
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:01 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Well what is CR then? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095873) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:05 AM Author: cerise dog poop you're going to have to figure out which one you like the most first. it's a warning sign that this isn't immediately obvious to you, as that suggests you don't *really* like any of them that much (more generously, it might reflect ur natural conservatism & caution). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095905) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:08 AM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095934) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:20 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier consider the fact that he might like all of the sisters equally because they're likely similar in personality and temperament due to their upbringing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096028) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:27 AM Author: cerise dog poop I think we both know the tiebreaker here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096103) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:08 AM Author: honey-headed yarmulke wrinkle don't rush it unless you know for sure you like this one the best. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095929) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:09 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression What about all that stuff about getting friend zoned? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095939) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:12 AM Author: vibrant hominid I think in this case its better to not rush and pick the wrong sister. Harder to overcome 'you liked/ dated my sister' than it is to overcome the friendzone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095967) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:13 AM Author: cerise dog poop Worst case scenario is dating one girl and later realizing he liked a sister better. Or marrying one girl and spending the rest of your life fantasizing about porking another sister. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095977) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:14 AM Author: vibrant hominid That too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095982) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:10 AM Author: Aphrodisiac Henna Locus Voyeur yes / yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095948) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:23 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier The other thing to consider is that one of these sisters may like you more than the others. If you pick the wrong one, they may reject you because they know that one of the other sisters has stronger feelings for you.
Do you have any idea which one you think likes you best? |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 12:58 PM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096873) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:00 PM Author: laughsome center halford TITMFCR
You need to figure out which one, if any, likes you the best. There should be signals. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:04 PM Author: cerise dog poop pass them a note with "do u like me check y/n" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096917) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:07 PM Author: vibrant hominid I told him to approach their father and say 'im looking for a wife. Which of your dotters will you give me?' (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096936) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:10 PM Author: cerise dog poop Nah you have to start negotiations from a position of strength. Demand the two hottest daughters, plus a dozen quail as a dowry. Force him to make the counter-offer (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096967) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:11 PM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096974) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 2:36 PM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36097786) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:07 AM Author: Appetizing Bull Headed Sweet Tailpipe Crotch all this shit seems like some form of punishment, not entertainment. i'd pull my fucking hair our being surrounded by so many squares (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095918) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:08 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Ah, but my hair already fell out. That's the difference. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095930) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:11 AM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36095955) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:20 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096034) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:01 PM Author: laughsome center halford (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096892) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:05 PM Author: Aromatic corner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096921) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 2:36 PM Author: Ivory coldplay fan place of business (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36097782) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:20 AM Author: Filthy hissy fit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096031) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:22 AM Author: Filthy hissy fit was her excuse for cancelling on you in conflict with her attendance at this event (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096051) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:23 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression No, our date was scheduled for a good 6 hours earlier in the day, and when she canceled she just bluntly said she wasn't interested anymore. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096069) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 1:07 PM Author: Aromatic corner that's tough to do, esp for girls. she sounds credited as fuck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096934) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 12:54 PM Author: histrionic rough-skinned box office double fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36096840) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:34 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression Update: Asked out one of the sisters, got shot down. That simplifies the possibilities a bit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102558) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 2:35 AM Author: red lascivious persian lol shit man, describe the act of asking her out and her response tyia (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102662) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 2:42 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression I got her # during the dance, started chatting with her a good bit tonight by following up on stuff we'd discussed that night. Went on for about an hour and I was getting a positive vibe (humor, quips that felt mildly flirty, etc) so I just asked if she was free to meet up in person in the next week or so. Got this in response:
"Thank you! You seem like a barrel of fun person, and I could probably arrange a group something, but I would want to make it clear that I'm not in the place to date at the moment. It wouldn't be very kind not to say so now, I think."
Quite definitive. |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 2:48 AM Author: exciting disrespectful den describe what's happening to your self-esteem and confidence as you get rejected multiple times (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102675) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 2:54 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression I've certainly felt better but frankly my self-esteem and confidence have always been shit so they don't have far to fall. I'm recovering from each successive failure a little faster, at least. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102680) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 7:43 AM Author: laughsome center halford i view this as a positive. you went for it. that illustrates the yuge strides you are making and it is absolutely essential to the process.
there are tons of people out there who never even make it to that step.
it's sort of like building an immunity -- gotta absorb multiple small doses of poison to strengthen the body's response.
keep doing everything you are doing and something will break positively.
i analogize it to how i learned to throw a knuckleball. all my childhood that's all i wanted to do. i practiced, and practiced, and recorded and watched slow mo film of tim wakefield, and kept trying over and over. and then, one day, the universe was like, "okay, you've put your work in. i will turn the key for you." and then, out of nowhere, there it was. no spin. the ball taking off in crazy directions. people being unable to catch it. one of the greatest thrills of my life. |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 3:09 AM Author: red lascivious persian this isn't NEARLY as bad as the other chick she could very well be telling the truth, and it really doesn't have much to do with you specifically. even if it's you, at least she's being kind about it |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 3:12 AM Author: Fighting resort selfie Yeah this could have been worse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102696) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:23 PM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression That merely makes it unpleasant in a different, arguably worse way. With the first chick, it's more immediately unpleasant, but comes with the realization "oh, she may be kind of crappy, so it's fine it didn't work." In this case, the only new information is that I'm not appealing to her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36105128) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:26 PM Author: territorial legal warrant you need to ask out the girl who is leaving on her state dept trip. once she's gone, you're forgotten (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36105154) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:29 PM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression That was the girl who dinged me, and I approached her first for that reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36105179) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 6:47 AM Author: cerise dog poop you should not be talking to girls irl then asking them out by text. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102864) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 6:58 AM Author: Wonderful lemon theater wow, nice people are just different than us (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36102877) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 8:52 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier I think we need to work on your ability to discern whether girls are actually interested in you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103161) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:48 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression That would be nice I suppose. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103483) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:50 AM Author: cerise dog poop I really can't stress what a bad idea what it was to do this by text. how long did it take her to respond? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103492) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:51 AM Author: 180 frisky sound barrier no sense in dwelling on it.
Back to the dating apps... |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:54 AM Author: Umber Mewling Indirect Expression About a minute. We'd been going back and forth for about an hour at a pace where I was clearly holding her attention. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103521) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:51 AM Author: Aphrodisiac Henna Locus Voyeur white people shit on arranged marriages, but they exist for people like charles. he's relegated to being some dancing monkey now, it's degrading (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103503) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 9:53 AM Author: cerise dog poop completely agreed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36103519) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:31 PM Author: vibrant hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36105222) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2018 1:32 PM Author: Glittery church building he's breaking out of the dancing monkey frame, breh (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981843&forum_id=2#36105241) |