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Pretty sure my dad is going to die in the next few years
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:10 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape He's in his early 60s and has had a lot of heart problems and related issues. He had quintuple bypass surgery at 54 and then a stent years after that. Found out a few months ago one of his carotid arteries is fully occluded. Currently dealing with abnormally low heart rate and blood pressure issues and wearing a heart monitor to determine if he needs a pacemaker. He has no energy and tires easily. I just feel like things continue to get progressively worse for him.
I don't know what happened to make his heart health so bad. My grandfather was healthy and lived into his late 80s without serious health problems despite having smoked.
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:11 PM Author: pontificating chapel pervert I am sorry bro. do you live near him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099013) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:15 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape Thanks. I live relatively close and try to see them as often as I can, but I want to leave my current job and city and options are farther away, so I'm struggling to decide what to do. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099034) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:13 PM Author: claret lay My dad died less than a month ago. It was his third stroke. Not great. He was quite overweight and not active. Encourage your father to live healthy, even if its just walking. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099022) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:17 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape That sucks, really sorry to hear that. My dad should take better care of himself and I've kept at him about for years, but he's just stubborn.
How is your mom handling it? I worry a lot about my mom, sometimes I feel like she's on her own dealing with this |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:21 PM Author: claret lay Well, funny you should ask. My parents are divorced but my stepdad also died. In the same week. It was like two days after my dad's death. Stepdad was in perfect shape and good health, diagnosed with stage 4 terminal stomach cancer and killed himself weeks after diagnosis.
Mom is not great. She has been staying with my sis and with me and traveling. Hasnt been alone since it happened. But she went home Sunday so we will see. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:24 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape Damn, that's a heavy burden for your mom.
It's just me and my sister also, and my sister can barely take care of herself, so I worry about taking care of my mom if something happens. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:27 PM Author: claret lay She has been awfully bitchy but no one will even say anything becasue, you know, like holy shit, right? I damn near had a panic attack after she left last sunday, just at the thought of dealing with her like this forever. Plus i actually have grown to like my dad and my stepdad, each in their own way. I know its hardest on her but its not great for me. And just before leaving my mom started talking about how my last surviving grandma will die, who is my favorite relative, because her son just died. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099113) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:35 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape That's rough to deal with. My grandmother (my dad's mom) is like that to an extent, there is no sadness but theirs.
My mom is a saint and her mom was a widow for nearly 40 years. She would try to soldier on and worry about us. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:39 PM Author: startling big dog poop Holy shit! That's a terrible week.
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:37 PM Author: claret lay My entire month's been not that great. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36101850) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:19 PM Author: startling big dog poop :(
Going through this right now with my dad. He needs a Kidney transplant and I may need to donate a kidney if I'm a match.
I can't help but be mad at him for not taking care of himself. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:22 PM Author: claret lay How is his health otherwise? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099072) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:25 PM Author: startling big dog poop Terrible. After surviving the stroke and heart attacks, you'd think it would kick him into gear and start eating healthier, getting more active. Nope, I don't think he leaves his lazy boy except to go to the bathroom. He still eats like shit.
It's frustrating. I love him, but it's disheartening to think I'm going to give away a perfectly functioning kidney to a person that has such little respect for his own life. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:28 PM Author: claret lay Thats terrible. Im so sorry. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099121) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:29 PM Author: bearded shrine Man, easier said than done and I would probably do what are your going to do, but from an outside perspective, giving that kidney makes no sense. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099132) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 6:12 PM Author: Cyan multi-colored temple Is not giving a kidney an option for you? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099446) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 6:17 PM Author: startling big dog poop My aunt is first in line, because siblings are the most viable matches. If she can't, then I'm the oldest child that isn't disgustingly obese, or tobacco user. (I quit chewing a month ago just to be able to donate, if need be).
I might not even be a match, but won't know unless my aunt isn't a match.
If I'm a match, I'm definitely donating. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:38 PM Author: concupiscible point antidepressant drug Sorry for your loss. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36101859) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:13 PM Author: ruddy theatre whats his diet and exercise like?
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:15 PM Author: heady haunted graveyard Just spend as much time with him as possible. And have every conversation you might be waiting on having. Also, maybe take some videos. My mom passed two weeks ago at 55. Don’t think you can prepare for it tho. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099033) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:16 PM Author: Odious School Cafeteria im sorry for your loss :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099038) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:17 PM Author: heady haunted graveyard Thanks :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099042) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:18 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape I'm remember seeing your thread about your mom and how her cancer came on fast. That was a terrible situation. I was really sorry to hear about your loss. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099050) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:22 PM Author: heady haunted graveyard Yea, It was so so quick. Thank you
Losing a parent, especially one you are that close with, is so tough. Hope your pops stays on for longer. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:16 PM Author: vivacious azn Same. My dad has cancer but a relatively healthy heart but same outcome. Spend as much time with him as possible and br patient. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099039) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:22 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape Hope your dad can beat the cancer. I'm the only son, so I keep thinking about how to take care of all of them. My mom's dad died in his 60s of cancer when she was young, so I think she thinks about that a lot with my dad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099080) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:17 PM Author: Flushed Ratface Kitty max out that time with him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099045) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:23 PM Author: boyish psychic depressing af thread overall. Happy Monday, everyone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099085) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:24 PM Author: pontificating chapel pervert yea what is the fucking point (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099093) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:25 PM Author: startling big dog poop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099102) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:26 PM Author: heady haunted graveyard Credited fucking question (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099104) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:28 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape Of asking? My mom called me today after my dad's depressing doctor's visit and it was on my mind. Just wondered how other people deal this kind of thing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099115) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:29 PM Author: pontificating chapel pervert no what is the point of being alive at all man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099137) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:30 PM Author: boyish psychic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099145) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:40 PM Author: startling big dog poop Sorry friend. I'm not sure how I'll deal with the loss when my father dies. I don't think it's too far off.
I've been calling and talking to him a lot more lately. |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:54 PM Author: shivering burgundy ape Thanks, bro. Yeah trying to spend as much time is the thing to do. Here's hoping there's still a lot of years for you to spend with your dad. I wish my dad and I were closer. But at least my family overall is close.
I didn't mean to make a depressing thread but I know a lot of people have to deal with this and XO is often helpful in dealing these kinds of things |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 5:29 PM Author: khaki nibblets menage Your first mistake was putting him in the care of FRAUD DOCTORS. what good did that "bypass" surgery do for him? Those "stents"?? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36099135) |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:41 PM Author: maize talented native weed whacker cr that shit is major fraud |
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Date: May 21st, 2018 11:39 PM Author: pearl cowardly casino selfie which dad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3983071&forum_id=2#36101863) |