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Cut all ties with my brother 3 months ago and have never felt better
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:17 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Dude is a total net negative so got rid of him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122535) |
Date: May 24th, 2018 9:18 PM Author: Jade hilarious cruise ship bbw explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122537) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn He's always been jealous because my folks obviously prefer me over him...there's just always been bad blood because of that. We had a huge falling out 3 months ago and I decided I'd be better off with him out of my life.
Cut him off 3 months ago and it's the best decision I've made in years. |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: 180 frisky windowlicker Seems like he has a reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122546) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:21 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn How's that a legitimate reason? He's a bum which is why he's considered the black sheep in the family. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122556) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: 180 frisky windowlicker You said "always preferring" Seems more deep seated than his adult decisions. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122566) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: hairraiser clown Maybe he's a bum b/c his parents put all their energy into you and never believed in him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122567) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:23 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn No, he had the same opportunities I had...only difference is that he spent it partying and smoking weed in college. As a result, he only completed 1 year of college and now has a shit job paying like $25k a year at the age of 38. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122574) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:26 PM Author: hairraiser clown That was college. What about before then? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122595) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Same opportunities, bro. He's just a bum who has never been able to get his shit together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122601) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:30 PM Author: hairraiser clown Not the same love, though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122625) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:32 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn False. He's just failed at everything in life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122639) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 10:01 PM Author: hairraiser clown Give yourself a chance to love him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122830) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 4:43 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn I've already known the guy for 28 years...he's a net negative. I'm better off not being bothered with him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124350) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:55 AM Author: Misunderstood foreskin base you suck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125857) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:31 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn No, he does...hence why I've gotten rid of him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129269) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: exhilarant jet school cafeteria lol you sound like an uptight teetotalling fag, tbf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122602) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: Diverse Nursing Home Trump Supporter (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122605) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:28 PM Author: 180 frisky windowlicker He probably did his a brother a favor by cutting ties. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122613) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:31 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Doesn't matter who did who a favor, I'm just glad he's gone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122636) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:29 PM Author: vigorous theater stage stain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122618) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:55 AM Author: Misunderstood foreskin base (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125864) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:53 AM Author: beady-eyed boistinker chapel whaaaat, he SMOKED WEED in college? and DIDNT GRADUATE? and now he is UNDEREMPLOYED? sheesh, what else can you say, the writing has been on the wall for years. what choice did you or your shitty parents have but to abandon him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124437) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:03 AM Author: Slate roommate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124541) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:03 AM Author: vigorous theater stage stain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124543) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:04 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn He’s a bum. Why continue to deal with a legit bum? Do you associate with bums? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124544) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:12 AM Author: beady-eyed boistinker chapel I will go to the ends of the earth to stick up for, protect, help, guide, and be supportive to the tiny handful of human beings on this planet that are kin to me. What's mine is theirs, I will never ever abandon them or even speak ill of them in public, no matter what. And I certainly wouldn't even dream of cutting them out of my life simply because they haven't achieved as much as I had hoped they would. Siblings are the only people on this planet who have been with you from the beginning and will be with you until the end. Tossing that deep bond aside for something as trifling as underemployment or sub-par academic performance is a clear indication of a deeply broken person with perverse motivations. To answer your question, do I associate with bums? If my brother was a literal strung-out filthy junkie bum living on the streets I would do absolutely everything in my power to help him. I would never give up on him. I would set aside all of my personal ambitions and focus all of my energy on making him whole again, even if he cursed me and spit in my face. And, I know with absolute certainty he would do the same for me. This is because we are brothers, and that's the type of thing that brothers do for each other. You? |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:27 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Yea...I don't view things that way. Rather, I evaluate my associations on whether or not the person in question adds value to my life. If yes, I keep them around and work towards making the relationship even better. If not, I cut them loose. It's no different than being a GM of a pro team or running a business.
In this case, I've concluded I'm better off cutting all ties with my brother as he's not someone I'd associate with if we weren't related. The fact that he's a relative makes no difference to me: he adds no value to my life. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:32 AM Author: Comical black woman your a huge faggot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125661) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:33 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Not sure why you enjoy keeping undesirables around. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125673) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: Comical black woman you mean like you? it would suck if you were my brother and my parents were like yours but i'd still deal with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125684) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:39 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn If anything, I'm the one who turned out well. It's my brother who ended up a bum and have caused my parents shame and embarrassment.
If you enjoy associating with bums, that's cool, but I do not.
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: glittery walnut library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202011) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: beady-eyed boistinker chapel It's sad that even the people who are closest to you (or should be closest to you) are nevertheless subject to this kind of transactional analysis. God forbid you stop adding tangible value to your loved-ones lives, right? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125682) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:02 PM Author: Jade hilarious cruise ship bbw Neoliberalism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128920) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 2:32 PM Author: impertinent hissy fit You are morally childish and your brain has clearly been infected by therapism and “toxic people” internet self-help hogwash. Don’t be such a pussy and learn to compartmentalize. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36126977) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 7:37 PM Author: passionate unholy ratface (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128807) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: glittery walnut library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202012) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:51 AM Author: vigorous theater stage stain titcr. What kind of person looks at family and calculates whether to associate with them based on whether they "add value"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125833) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:56 AM Author: Misunderstood foreskin base (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125870) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: glittery walnut library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202014) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 3:55 PM Author: Supple Honey-headed Office "I would set aside all of my personal ambitions and focus all of my energy on making him whole again"
this seems a bit much, counterproductive even.
"And, I know with absolute certainty he would do the same for me."
not everybody does. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:05 PM Author: Vermilion Psychic Son Of Senegal But he’s not actually underemployed. He’s appropriately employed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128937) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:36 PM Author: Jade hilarious cruise ship bbw Some might say parental love should be about more than dollars and cents. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122673) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: razzle umber associate tanning salon subtle RSF trolling. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122604) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:43 AM Author: Pink Ticket Booth Thread did not go as planned (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124424) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:00 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Not sure why folks aren’t in favor of cutting off those who are net negatives. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124537) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: Galvanic drunken community account puppy Yeah, odd case (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125764) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:52 AM Author: Ruddy stag film multi-billionaire Is OP Asian or Jewish? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124435) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:01 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn I’m neither, but grew up in a predominately Jewish area. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124538) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 12:00 PM Author: Racy Bawdyhouse Pretty obviously white as they're the only group on earth that abandons their kin wantonly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125898) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:47 PM Author: Titillating alcoholic parlour (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129098) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:47 PM Author: Titillating alcoholic parlour (retard) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129099) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:54 AM Author: irradiated misanthropic hall sad! my mother in law is no longer on speaking terms with either of her two siblings. it's very pathetic to watch, one of their parents is ailing right now and the fact that none of the kids talk means the hospital has to make three phone calls instead of one.
they do shit like send each other shitty holiday presents and whine on Facebook when they don't get a thank you note back. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:02 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn I don’t think it’s sad at all. If someone isn’t adding value to your life, get rid of them, family or not. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124540) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:27 AM Author: irradiated misanthropic hall I'd think it less sad if the reasons they don't talk to each other were actually good. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124599) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 10:56 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Tbf, that's subjective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125391) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:25 AM Author: Blue dashing headpube temple Your brother should meet my sister, they’d be great together. She’s 34 years old and has been living with my parents the past 4 years. Never finished college. Has never worked at a job longer than 3 months. Has never paid rent, food, or own bills. She’s unable to navigate normal life annoyances because she never has more than $200 in her account. Getting a flat tire is a huge deal and she can’t drive anywhere, until she begs my Dad to take care of it for her. My parents have basically given up with her. She quit her most recent job and has been unemployed the past month. My parents are begging me to try to get her a job at my company. So she can make $12 hour in a warehouse, show up late everyday, and be fired after a month. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124594) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:29 AM Author: autistic slap-happy electric furnace round eye Sounds like she’s doing great and has it all figured out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125639) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:40 AM Author: Blue dashing headpube temple She realized she’s a woman and will be taken care of. My parents kicked me out the month after graduating college. I thought I’d be able to chill, drink, and smoke weed for the summer. Then go out and start work. Nope. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125750) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:06 AM Author: sable big location Youre a bigger piece of shit than he is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124784) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 10:13 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125152) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: Galvanic drunken community account puppy But not nearly as bad as their parents (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125768) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:44 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn My parents sent that bum to THREE different colleges and the bum could barely complete one year. Too busy cutting class and smoking weed.
Now at 38, he's paying for it and is a total embarrassment. The opportunity was there and he blew it...oh well. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: Embarrassed to the bone church building elastic band *poasts about it on xo* (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125766) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:52 AM Author: Blue dashing headpube temple Don’t know why xo is shitting on you. Toxic people need to be cut out of your life. It’s difficult when it’s a family member, but it’s ultimately for the best. There was a time my family sort of closed off to me, I was being a piece of shit and not putting any effort into having a relationship with them
it was a wake up call and made me get my shit together about things. Hopefully your brother will take this and be introspective about his life |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:54 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Exactly. Finally someone who gets it. My brother is toxic, and when I say he doesn't add value to my life, what I'm really saying is that I don't enjoy being around him. Has nothing to do with his financial situation or how many degrees he has....I don't enjoy his company. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125848) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:56 AM Author: Jade hilarious cruise ship bbw You're conflating ABUSE with not living up to GC's expectations. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125868) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:57 AM Author: Yapping dilemma azn No, the real issue is that I don't enjoy being around him. However, his lack of achievement likely is the reason he is so bitter and unpleasant to be around at this point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125878) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 2:37 PM Author: impertinent hissy fit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36127018) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 12:02 PM Author: Charismatic Address (rsf) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125908) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:04 PM Author: Cowardly step-uncle's house OP is obviously a piece of shit asian (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128928) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:08 PM Author: Vermilion Psychic Son Of Senegal It’s JJC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128960) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:30 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn I'm not Asian. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129261) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 3:22 PM Author: Yapping dilemma azn Dude called me yesterday, but I didn't pickup...and don't plan on returning the call. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36201750) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:10 PM Author: jet-lagged underhanded crackhouse juggernaut Man if I had a sister who was as petty and self centered as the OP I'd probably want her to cut me off too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202041) |