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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:05 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087786) |
Date: October 24th, 2018 6:06 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087797) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:07 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca DESCRIBE the actions you have taken, dork (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087799) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:11 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087838) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:14 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca 2 & 3 are good. never allowing them to apologize is psychopath territory, but do you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087856) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:15 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087870) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:21 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio 2 is also awful. He is not "equal" to people who are trying to teach him or who are experts in some field he is dependent on. The kids who act like this also never get the first part of the equation right in practice either. This is the way to raise entitled ignorant jerks. I see this nonsense in classrooms when kids say, "Well u gotta respect ME, teacher!". Its poisonous trash. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091046) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:26 AM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091063) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:27 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio Nice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091066) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:26 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood are you teacher? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091547) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:29 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker Not currently but I have taught kids before. It's always the worst, most indulged kids who say that stuff. I had a Brazilian kid who would say that stuff--he would fuck around at the pencil sharpener for 4 minutes and make noises and shit when I was trying to do something w the rest of the class. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091580) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:33 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood So you're a failure. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091604) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:37 AM Author: shaky cerebral persian cr if you ain't biglaw you = shit. #1 lesson 2 teach ur kids from day 1 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091630) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:40 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091646) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:42 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker Sounds sensible. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091661) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:15 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087868) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: Brilliant sick multi-billionaire chapel "Never allow him to apologize"
WTF? |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:56 PM Author: dun rambunctious hell telephone 2 is really good (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089344) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:57 AM Author: navy brunch antidepressant drug all great tips (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091407) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker Instilling a sense of superiority and confidence so they don't take shit from dumb people or accept a life of wagecuckery. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087807) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca How are you doing this? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087813) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:10 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker Giving my kids all of the educational and personal growth opportunities I can. Subtle hints to remind them that they're smarter than 99% of people they meet and that rules that apply to dumbs shouldn't apply to them.
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:10 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca Sounds like you're raising jerks. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087832) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:13 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker Following all the rules and being subservient ensures a drone life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087853) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:15 PM Author: soggy theater You can raise a kid who's a confident risk taker but isn't also an insufferable twat. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087869) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:17 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker (Not Fred Trump) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087878) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:20 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087886) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:41 PM Author: Boyish internal respiration hissy fit Lol this is terrible! Like what a 20 year old might say. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089711) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:25 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio Let me tell something: If you keep telling them they are smart they wont ever push themselves and will be mediocre when with a little effort they could be really good. Likewise, if you send a message that they are better than everyone else, they wont get a job and move out when they are grown up. Not to mention they'll be complete shits. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:27 AM Author: soggy theater this, you're supposed to congratulate your kid for their effort, not for their intelligence. that way they connect success with hard work, not raw smarts. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091558) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:38 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker as I said, if parents needed licenses to procreate … (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091637) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:04 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker remember there are no subtle hints w little kids. everything you do SCREAMS significance to them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091757) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:12 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087843) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:22 PM Author: 180 Yarmulke Round Eye (Modesto "Pete" Cunanan) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087898) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:24 PM Author: shaky cerebral persian cr approach maybe have them start by murdering a pawnshop owner, or a deaf girl. just to get a start. see where things progress from there (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087910) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:35 PM Author: comical fat ankles windowlicker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087974) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:29 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio Seems vaguely crime and punishment like. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091069) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 8:55 PM Author: umber disgusting menage cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088892) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: canary dysfunction family first, no excuses (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087811) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087815) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:57 AM Author: Contagious Nibblets Casino (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091123) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:18 AM Author: zippy awkward place of business Except you don't have kids (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091834) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:13 PM Author: soggy theater Concerted cultivation without overstructuring. Free play with the addition of adult socialization. I guess this is called "slow parenting" where you get the self-assuredness of the upper class style of parenting without stressing the kid out while fostering creativity and free play. Less likely the kid turns out to be a deferential prole or a neurotic, entitled rich kid. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087848) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:03 PM Author: Gay party of the first part lol, you make it sound like you’re growing plants or something. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088172) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:54 PM Author: blathering gaping (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088479) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 8:29 PM Author: soggy theater Concerted cultivation a phrase in use (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088743) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:42 PM Author: Brilliant sick multi-billionaire chapel A Child is Cultivated (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089224) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:23 AM Author: brindle nursing home (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090607) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:11 PM Author: Twinkling base sex offender say free play again you fucking rapist (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088981) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:52 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089310) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:13 PM Author: Nudist fantasy-prone kitchen It's okay to be white (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087854) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:16 PM Author: shaky cerebral persian no clue (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087876) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:20 PM Author: amber halford many successful men seem to have had absentee fathers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087887) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:20 PM Author: Mildly autistic doctorate Helicopter parenting. Too many crazies in this world (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087889) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:29 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca This is a terrible idea (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087939) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:23 PM Author: cheese-eating shitlib death wish ruthless denial of the fact that im the parent (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087903) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:26 PM Author: Glittery pontificating queen of the night The child is chosen to be a great man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087923) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:29 PM Author: stirring rose half-breed crackhouse What will you do to foster that colt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087937) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 8:31 PM Author: Glittery pontificating queen of the night Expose him to many, many things and let him develop his own preferences, then teach him a path to excellence in those things and the overarching principle of self-accountability and maximum effort in all things regardless of circumstances. As he gets older, teach him the difference between the man and the woman, the owner and the employee, the gladiator and the critic, the leader and the follower. Christian ethics based upon the golden rule, sermon on the mount (create the basis of servant leadership), beatitudes, 10 commandments. Appreciation for the moment. Teach him about money and financial principles early and build a mind that understands entrepreneurship. Allow him to watch my relationship with my wife as the basis for how to treat others. Let him choose his path from there. If I have succeeded in teaching those things and encouraging my son to live a thoughtful and intentional life, there is no more I could do as a parent. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:07 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088959) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:11 PM Author: Startled Azn This is an excellent poast. 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095679) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 12:52 AM Author: dun rambunctious hell telephone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37097627) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 9:52 PM Author: wonderful filthpig meetinghouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121793) |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 2:23 AM Author: cheese-eating shitlib death wish this was gay as fuck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37123306) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:29 PM Author: stirring rose half-breed crackhouse Genes are destiny (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37087940) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:51 PM Author: Fishy Thriller Crotch Spot Apparently "authoritative parenting" (not "authoritarian parenting") - high expectations but a lot of nurturing and explanation and kid has input.
We're also trying to expose her to a lot. Letting her pick what she likes to do and encouraging her to pursue those things. My parents (father) was authoritarian and I've told myself for 25 years that I would never be like that with my own kids. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:55 PM Author: stirring rose half-breed crackhouse Yea this whole shit is a cycle one generation to the next. All these poasters wanting to be hardasses bc they blame parental laxity for their failure to reach potential, then their kids will be resentful of their strict raising and do the opposite. In the end its 80% genes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088117) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:51 AM Author: shaky cerebral persian (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090959) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:21 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Cr. Parenting "philosophy" is a fraud. I'm with Mandy on this one. Don't let them die. Anything else is a crapshoot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091044) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:55 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca this is basically what i try to do as well. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088120) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:02 PM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape Same approach as you and same reaction to my authoritarian upbringing. I do not want my kids to fear me, but sometimes I question if it’s too wishy washy, like acknowledging feelings (“i know it’s frustrating when you can’t have 2 candies”). Sometimes I just want to put my foot down without an explanation.
When older, I want to make sure my kids don’t feel like they’re special snowflakes. They need to know the world doesn’t give a shit about them and they’re not entitled to anything. I need to counteract their privileged upbringing. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:07 PM Author: Exhilarant macaca (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088958) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:39 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks "They need to know the world doesn’t give a shit about them"
Hopefully the death toll won't be too high by the time the police shoot them down |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:55 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office high expectations are something I am sure I will have but high expectations of what exactly?
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:41 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker that they will work hard and try their best on everything they undertake. Google ARETE. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091652) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:05 AM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape High expectations to work hard and be decent and ethical human beings. Not high expectations of success, academic or otherwise (other than to try and work hard). I do not believe parents have much impact on whether their children do well academically or succeed in life. All the emphasis these days in preschool in learning to read and write early on is rubbish. Children need to play and be children. I do, however, believe parents can influence their values and how they conduct themselves in society through both example and respecting their children at an early age (without being pushovers). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091759) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:27 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio Yes, its authoritative parenting that works best. Readers can google this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091065) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:47 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker you have to force them when they hit a difficult hump in learning so they get over the hump because they will otherwise just quit but I agree. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091371) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 6:52 PM Author: Harsh dashing pit Egoism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088090) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:04 PM Author: haunting bright dingle berry Anything other than "fuck libs" is child abuse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088181) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:39 PM Author: Histrionic dull space messiness I use the approach detailed in this thread: http://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2623523&mc=96&forum_id=2#26082249.
So far so good. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:44 PM Author: Hairraiser well-lubricated famous landscape painting TIGER | MOM | HYMN (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088417) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 7:54 PM Author: honey-headed aromatic locale roast beef no kids (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37088483) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:17 PM Author: sooty legal warrant sound barrier The gospel of JESUS CHRIST is the most important thing in your life.
Respect your mother or face the wrath of G_d.
You will play a sport at least three seasons of the year. At least two of them will be team sports.
Speak your mind.
Ignore morons. You'll know them when you see them (you'll see a lot of them).
Protect your sister at all costs, including physical harm to yourself.
Don't let anybody punk you, ever. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089022) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:25 PM Author: sooty legal warrant sound barrier I'm not at all religious. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089057) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:47 PM Author: Boyish internal respiration hissy fit Are there a lot of gospels besides "of Jesus Christ"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089758) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:37 PM Author: Startled Azn This is all pretty good. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095471) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: exciting magical whorehouse I have 4 kids so I am just trying to make sure I don't lose one accidentally. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089021) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:33 PM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape Lol, I have no idea how you do it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089141) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:20 PM Author: exciting magical whorehouse The answer is negligence, but not gross negligence. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089558) |
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Date: December 4th, 2021 8:18 PM Author: insecure arousing set pisswyrm (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#43560125) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:54 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089332) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:55 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089338) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:07 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker Fair.
Have you ever lost one? Come on … |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 1:43 PM Author: exciting magical whorehouse Never lost one but a non-negligible number of times, I forgot which kid is where and with whom and whether I am picking up the right one from the right place. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092963) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat Do the absolute minimum necessary for the kids to grow up healthy with all limbs attached etc. Pay for college. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089023) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:21 PM Author: sooty legal warrant sound barrier First sentence is the most Russian thing ever poasted. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089032) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat I'm paying for college you fuckers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089042) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:24 PM Author: sooty legal warrant sound barrier You'll welsh on it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089054) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:31 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat Nah. I suspect my kids will be too lazy and low energy to go to college and have jobs. We'll have to pay for it. Grad school too, tbh. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089112) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:29 PM Author: Vibrant sanctuary Tufts is a damn good school (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089642) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:33 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat It seems fine. I'm not going to go crazy about the college rank. I want it to be something decent but in the end it's what you do with it, not the degree itself. It's more important that the degree be substantive. I'm not paying for English or poli sci majors. At least, not unless there is a very substantive plan behind it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089668) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:18 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker HInt: if you don't want your kid to major in bullshit, don't tell him he's smart. compliment him when he works hard. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091841) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 1:47 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat I am very committed to telling the truth. It's easy and tends to get the best results. If they are smart (and I expect they will be), I will tell them so but smart isnt enough. Without hard work, smart gets you a bench in the park. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092999) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:03 PM Author: adulterous jew So you're not necessarily paying for college (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094106) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 6:49 PM Author: supple rehab kitty cat Nah, they'll major in something sensible out of laziness and inertia. You'll see. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095131) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 12:51 AM Author: transparent hall Correct. If they're shitheads they're on their own. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37097623) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:02 AM Author: navy brunch antidepressant drug just keep feeding the educational-industrial complex beast (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091444) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:02 AM Author: supple rehab kitty cat I kind of figure they will come out sensible and sane all on their own. That's how I got here.
My theory is that kids are logical and rational and their parents and society screw them up. If I just let them learn all they want about the world and think for themselves, I hope they will come to the right conclusions with no major interference from me. Except I won't pay for poli sci or English degrees. |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: Internet-worthy Olive Kitty wgwag (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089037) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:26 PM Author: Vivacious rigpig ceo to raise socially conscious people who acknowledge and respect that there are many, many genders. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089066) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:33 PM Author: deranged iridescent theater stage You cannot spoil a child with love or gifts. However, if you are not a firm parent, keep to your word, rise to meet their challenges, and be their PARENT, you spoil your children. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089139) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: Lascivious shivering bawdyhouse Smothering my daughter with affection so she don’t seek it out elsewhere. Teach my son that being a man usually means choosing the more difficult path. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089162) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:04 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Number one might not lead to a slut but seems like a recipe for a princessy whiny cunt if she grows up believing this is how men should treat her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090569) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:07 AM Author: shaky cerebral persian What is the cr approach (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091153) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:18 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Lol who the fuck knows. No judgment in this thread but I'm with Leo Lenin. Everything you do will damage them in the opposite way |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: adulterous jew That is in fact how I want men to treat my daughter. You can take a pass if you're not interested. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094109) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:11 PM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Thanks but I'm good. The point is most guys will have a taste and then take a pass cuz they're not interested in dealing with her bitchy neediness. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094146) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 6:36 PM Author: adulterous jew You think showering your children with love makes them needy? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095045) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:22 AM Author: umber disgusting menage I think you can’t treat one kid like a princess and be rough with the other one - they will notice that and it will cause them both problems. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091238) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:25 AM Author: Lascivious shivering bawdyhouse I agree. I should have spent more time ion this or not commented. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091540) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:41 PM Author: Brilliant sick multi-billionaire chapel Consistency. They need to know that you mean what you say, and no amount of whining is going to get you to drop it out of convenience. Say things that you care about in a manner that conveys importance. Don't say "hey remember not to draw on the walls" in passing and then fail to follow up on whether they actually stopped doing it.
Let them know that your standards (your family's standards) might not be the same as standards applied to others. I think it's perfectly fine/healthy for them to see other kids acting up and being little shits and just wonder "what the fuck is that kid doing?"
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:51 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089305) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:51 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office do so much fucking better than mine
- kid will not miss opportunities they've earned access to - kid will not question if they are loved or worthy of love - kid will have clear expectations set for them - not many, but a few important ones - kid will experience consistent rules and developmentally appropriate household responsibilities commensurate with age - kid will get to be a kid - kid will not ever feel like it has to take care of me until I'm old and grey and even then I'll have my shit so organized it won't be too involved - kid will not live in a place where TV is king |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 9:56 PM Author: at-the-ready partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089346) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:41 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks but if your parents were so SPS, how'd you turn out more than okay? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37120887) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:44 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office how do you know I'm okay (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37120915) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:49 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks you are a future north shore mommy, just don't leave little brayden behind home alone in winnetka for xmas (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37120962) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:58 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121058) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:46 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks you should also give kid an opposite-gender (any of the 47 on facebook) sibling.
also be careful about #2. Not all other kids will love your kid (for example, many urban youfs are lost causes). Make kid evaluate friend-enemy distinction with a gimlet eye |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:24 PM Author: Obsidian talented twinkling uncleanness Go play in traffic and don't bother me (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089602) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:09 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker well they'll go to another room and chill out if you've already spent like three hours w them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091780) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:24 PM Author: razzle-dazzle station candlestick maker Crazy pills (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089606) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:29 PM Author: Vibrant sanctuary Let them play with dynamite. God favors the strong. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089648) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:30 PM Author: Deep Yellow Shrine http://mwkworks.com/desiderata.html (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089655) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 11:21 PM Author: Glittery pontificating queen of the night (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089940) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:35 PM Author: Black school cafeteria masturbator Rejecting all of the retarded GC and Boomer tropes my idiot parents raised me on. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089680) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:48 AM Author: Twisted Senate Background Story (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092095) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:06 PM Author: adulterous jew (guy playing with his iphone with his right hand while cradling his child over his left shoulder. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094122) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 10:52 PM Author: Boyish internal respiration hissy fit Lol at the sociopathy raging itt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089796) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 11:15 PM Author: claret wild range ITT: kidhavers tripping over themselves to give parenting advice (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089913) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 11:18 PM Author: Glittery pontificating queen of the night In this subthread: jag (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089924) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 11:20 PM Author: claret wild range these threads are the worst. like threads where people are asked to list their favorite movies. thread baloons to 100 posts and no one reads any post but their own (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089935) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:15 AM Author: cheese-eating shitlib death wish some of us provided good insights itt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090594) |
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Date: October 24th, 2018 11:22 PM Author: mewling parlor wherever whatever children I've fathered are, hope their mothers are raising them well and commit to meeting and potentially feeding them if they ever show up at my door. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37089949) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:06 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Now what about your wife's children (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090574) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:03 AM Author: unhinged reading party digit ratio Heh (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090995) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:59 AM Author: Up-to-no-good Splenetic Point 1. Be involved in the kid's life.
2. Patiently answer every single question they ask.
3. Expose them to a lot of different activities.
4. Let them decide which activities to gravitate to.
5. Give them the means to pursue those activities. Do not push them past the point of not enjoying the activity. But also be firm in not allowing them to quit when they face adversity or briefly lose interest.
6. Teach them to respect all people. You don't have to like everyone and you don't have to be friends with everyone, but you have to respect everyone. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:26 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Re #2 I nearly missed my flight because some new age bitch was explaining to her son why they had to check the bag and this went on for like 15 minutes until he was completely satisfied. Some of these responses have pernicious externalities that cause the kids to be narcissistic and self obsorbed |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:39 PM Author: Startled Azn This is all pretty good (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095477) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:59 AM Author: Rebellious Affirmative Action Garrison Slide and let do. Die of alcoholism while they are in middle school. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37090985) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:18 AM Author: adventurous church building No need for a philosphy. It's pretty obvious that you have to set rules and enforce them and don't reward whining.
Other than that, I just stress the importance of working hard and praise them when they do. I try to tell them all the traditional morals (Ten Commandments, boy who cried wolf, etc.)
Perhaps most importantly limit TV to 2 movies a week. No ipads. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:56 AM Author: shaky cerebral persian this is probably closest to what we try to do but LJL at calling it a "philosophy" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091403) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:01 AM Author: multi-colored vengeful piazza therapy raise them to be conservative and be confident that they're genetically superior to just about everyone else. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091131) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:38 AM Author: cheese-eating shitlib death wish Hope they end up as good looking as their parents (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091329) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 9:46 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker chums, let me tell you something:
Most people are shitty parents. Most people out and about are doing all sorts of messed up scarring crap, just not loving enough and openly, just not listening, not encouraging, using force when they need understanding, through neglect and indifference occluding all the passageways that need to stay open for the child to be receptive to needed advice later on.
If you had to take an extensive battery of tests and meetings w social workers and such to get a license to procreate, and the bar were set at a level sure to raise healthy, well-rounded kids who grow up to be gentlemen, most current kid havers would fail. Nearly half of the stuff ITT right now is dead wrong, like DEAD WRONG. Think about this. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:30 AM Author: at-the-ready partner i'm listening. what are your thoughts on child rearing best practices? which half of ITT is wrong? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091582) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:37 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker okay --look, just read up on authoritative parenting techniques. Then go from there.
remember kids get fucked up If you downplay their own feelings--remember they are little scientists in every aspect of their behavior--when we say "testing boundaries" they are literally being scientific in figuring out what works.
Also practice reflective listening w them rather than horning in on what they SHOULD do. If you do that all the time when they are little they will come to you for help w the big problems too later on.
Read brain books when they are babies. Talk to them all the time--non stop prattling when they are even tiny little babies. Just talk about what is around them--like some sort of idiot. "see the big flower its green, green and white and there's a big car--the doors make a noise when they close"--kids have to hear a bunch of words by the time they are 4 in order to maximize brain growth. Talk talk talk. every minute you are with them you shoud be talking. Start reading when they are tiny little babies. Do the same thing over and over--same books--as a man, speak in a soothing deep voice--you want them to feel safe. They need to FEEL SAFE to explore shit. No screen time AT ALL the first couple years.
If you have a tiny little baby now like uh incelot, and you don't know what to do w him, just talk all the time talk talk talk about any kind of nonsense. tlak about whats around you what you see whats what--play w shapes and blocks and just jabber like a retard. it's all good for them.
Google reflective listening and google authoritative parenting. I know retards on here wont bother to investigate anything ive just said but look into those items.
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:50 AM Author: at-the-ready partner ty. i agree that children have rich emotional lives and do best when they feel safe and understood. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091695) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:51 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker teach emotional regulation early on too.
"Smell the rose, blow out the candle 5 times when you are so mad you can't stand it!"
LEt them have their own downtime after some intense activity. They like it and learn to regulate their feelings by doing so.
Make sure they are outside running around a bit every single day you can. nowadays you basically have to do PLAYDATES--kids don't bicycle to other kids houses any more and most young parents are too retarded to realize that they are externalizing daycare costs by letting their kid go to a SAHM house every single damn day--so these things have to be organized a bit by the parents. And most parents are in fact assholes who rarely reciprocate but it doesn't matter--the focus is on socializing YOUR kid even though other young parents will gladly drop their kid off at your house but wont ever offer to reciprocate. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:52 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood this sounds like spaceporn. Are you spaceporn? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091705) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:54 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker spaceporn doesn't poast here any more.
But didn't SP have to read a bunch of books and undergo months and months of testing and training and meeting w social workers etc before he could be a parent? |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:57 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood okay so this is spaceporn's pumo.
You get high around your kid all the time. Why the fuck are you dolling out advice? |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:06 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker this isn't spaceporn --he doesn't poast here.
I agree w you--Spaceporn shouldn't smoke weed while his kid is in the house, even if its in a different part of the house.
Also, it seems as though SP's kid is doing great on all fronts. he's a bit babyish still but that's because his mom babies him when SP's not around--but SP breaks that stuff up by spending his entire Saturday out and about w him |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:10 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood You are so fucking stupid. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091788) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:15 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker Rude! I don't care whether you pay attention to what I'm saying or not man. But there's a right way and a wrong way to raise kids. Do the wrong way, and youll have a kid who calls smart people who know vastly more than they do on a wealth of topics "so fucking stupid" online. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091818) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:24 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood literally everyone here knows this is you, spaceporn. Stop giving your shitty advice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091881) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:28 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker whats shitty about the advice? be specific. and I assume you wont make the cognitive error of associating the person with the advice. A bold assumption for xo in its current incarnation I know. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker I will await an apology from you for being so rude to me when I am providing some of The Best Advice ITW on this subject. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091965) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:44 AM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood Shouldn't you be trying to stop that pumo from raping your kid? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092068) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:53 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker and try not to say NO all the time when they are little kids. My mom would say NO! every third word growing up. Only say NO if safety is legitimately an issue. I mean you can move them around and stuff just don't have the word NO coming out of your mouth all the time when they are tiny little babies. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091707) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:00 PM Author: adventurous church building All of your advice is effeminate and dumb and you're overthinking this stuff. And you also hilariously are convinced you are right. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093093) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 9:39 PM Author: Boyish internal respiration hissy fit (dummy) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121703) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:00 AM Author: Big State I REFUSE to compliment kid unless he worked hard to do something. I firmly believe that my parents fucked me up by always praising my supposed innate abilities rather than hard work. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091427) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:03 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker You compliment when you see something positive. Like, "Hey, I really like how you took that risk at the talent show--that was really cool that you just stood up and said you'd do it."
You also compliment for hard work performed. All the time. You DO NOT compliment for "being smart". You do not teach them they are better than others. Why on earth would you teach them this. If you teach them this you wont be able to dislodge them from your house when it comes time to get an entry level job, for one thing. Also, they'll be jerks who talk about their mansion when they play w other kids. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:20 AM Author: navy brunch antidepressant drug okay but I assume you think it would also lead to some negative behaviors? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091519) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:31 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker what would? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091589) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:01 AM Author: milky spectacular church Talk to your kids about niggers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091433) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:08 AM Author: claret wild range (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091472) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:21 AM Author: multi-colored vengeful piazza therapy three knuckles on left hand + don't swing like a ballerina = I don't pay for college (at least for girls) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091525) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:22 AM Author: odious ultramarine electric furnace home fuck libs 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091531) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:36 AM Author: Effete vigorous center My first priority is instilling in my children an indelible confidence in their immediate family while also appreciating that we are all fallible.
Confidence in themselves to be able to do almost anything they set their minds to with sufficient preparation and commitment.
I try to foster true empathy in them without self-defeating deference to other's SPS ideas. I have had good success using their pet dog and their care for the dog to achieve this (e.g., how do you think the dog feels when he asks to be let out so he can do what he knows we want him to do, but you ignore him?). I also point out that just because they are empathizing with the dog, they shouldn't assume licking their own ass is a good idea.
We make sure they get up no later than a predetermined time every morning, with no exceptions, and immediately do a chore they don't necessarily want to do, such as making their bed, picking up toys, etc.
To sum it up, I am trying to foster their understanding that their and their family's well-being is paramount and their achieving this desired well-being takes real, often monotonous, effort on their part, but not being an asshole to others while pursuing their own self interest.
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:42 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker yeah the dog thing is good. they are quick to get this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091658) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:46 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Explain waking kids up early to do some chore (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091682) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 10:52 AM Author: Chocolate indecent boistinker kids can be dicks about this. like, "NOOOOOW I'MMMM A SNAAAAAIIILLLL" and shit like that when they need to get moving and your stressed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37091702) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:13 AM Author: Effete vigorous center Both my wife and I are prone to debilitating procrastination, and we both had parents that were soft on this behavioral issue. I am hoping that by structuring the kids' day-to-day lives in a way that it always begins by doing a boring a chore of some sort, it helps prevent their dopamine receptors from becoming blown the fuck out and doing boring shit is not a painful experience.
I am also a big fan of structuring their lives in a way so that desired behaviors are a natural consequence of their lifestyle. Making them get up at the same time every day and immediately be active is a huge help with getting them to go to sleep. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: fragrant copper lay useless brakes Idk seems like this strategy would backfire bigly, at least the way you're presenting it. I imagine they'll soon consider that you're waking them up for some trivial bullshit that could wait until they were ready. I get the lesson but not the interference with sleep. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 12:02 PM Author: Effete vigorous center It's not like I'm running drill sergeant shtick from Full Metal Jacket and waking them up at random times in the middle of the night. As for waking them up at the same time everyday, I don't think that is a controversial parenting practice from anyone's perspective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092203) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 12:26 PM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape Btw, you people realize “parenting” matters a lot less than you think in life outcomes right? So much of it is already ingrained by virtue of genetics and personality. Parenting wasn’t even a verb until the last 15-20 years. Current generation of young adults and 20-somethings are not any better than older generations. Yes I pay 10x more attention to my kids than my parents did, but it’s because I want to foster good relationships with my children and because I want to give them a happy childhood. There’s only so much you can do to influence their outcomes though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092379) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 12:41 PM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4450758-dr-spock-on-parenting (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092487) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 1:46 PM Author: exciting magical whorehouse Yeah each of my kids has fairly different personalities and it was noticeable at an early age (and haven't really changed since then). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37092989) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 3:52 PM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape you’re doing it right by having more kids. There are a lot of books, like “all joy, no fun” and “the self driven child” which talks about how parenting has evolved over the decades and how kids and their parents these days are more anxious, depressed and insecure than ever. This is the result of helicopter parenting, social media, and the pressure to devote more and more attention and resources into each child. As a result, educated people have fewer kids which is not what society needs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094012) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 1:53 PM Author: multi-colored vengeful piazza therapy whatever you have to say to justify you only seeing them for 45 minutes a day. ovsiouly whatever you do is the perfect thing to do. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093043) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:01 PM Author: beady-eyed preventive strike mood Yes, parenting is a completely made up concept that was only invented 15 years ago (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093095) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:52 PM Author: chest-beating deer antler tanning salon (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37120995) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:07 PM Author: sexy mahogany philosopher-king ape I spend 4-5 hours/day on the weekdays and all day on weekends with my kids. My job has super flexible hours. We read books, do crafts, and go outside and play. Minimal screen time. Not sure where you get 45 min/day from. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094126) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 1:56 PM Author: Smoky Alcoholic Idea He Suggested Market Sounds like bullshit. Why are there so many strippers with daddy issues? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093069) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:02 PM Author: soggy theater probably makes a difference in their life outcomes having a happy childhood, which you want to give them
it also helps to direct their personalities within a certain social habitus. you can have an outgoing kid who runs around pissing people off like he's raised by wolves or you can have an outgoing kid who has manners and social skills |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:03 PM Author: cheese-eating shitlib death wish this is just you justifying your decision to procreate with some white nerd and drink wine (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093110) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:05 PM Author: adventurous church building And evidently the everyone gets a trophy generation is coming up with even more conculated ways to mess their kids up (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093116) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:05 PM Author: Appetizing cream stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093124) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:56 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks lmao if she thinks her nutelliot rodgers isn't gonna pick up on that. helpful reminder: adam lanza (or w/e idiot did sandy hook) shot his mom FIRST. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 4:20 PM Author: sable zombie-like national security agency (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37094210) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:55 PM Author: Vivacious rigpig ceo my thought has always kind of been parents can certainly do a lot of damage to their kids but don't really have the same potential to affect them positively. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121035) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:08 PM Author: Sickened mustard office don't currently have kids but do want them someday I feel like I need to develop an overall "philosophy" before then. As of now, I only really have some specific planned tactics such as: - read to them every night from the day they're born. Obviously it's true that IQ is genetic, but being an early and avid reader is a yuuuuuge leg up in the long run over kids whose parents just hand them an iPad. - on that note, very limited tech use until their teens. No smartphone until maybe 11-12. - frank discussion of sex at an appropriate age, striking a balance between not shaming the act but giving healthy warnings/advice - hard curfew until HS. not sure what time, something reasonable |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:10 PM Author: soggy theater my mom forcememed reading hard for us but i was the only one out of three who really ran with it. it made a massive difference to me though, maybe the most important single factor in my development (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37093153) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 2:12 PM Author: Sickened mustard office cr again, obviously parental impact is inherently limited, but this seems like a no-brainer to me. So many parents these days seem to start turning their kids into braindead Netflix drones from like age 2 instead of encouraging reading. They should be HAPPY to read Chronicles of Narnia blew my fucking mind as a child. Even intelligent comics like Calvin & Hobbes are good. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:22 PM Author: Startled Azn 1. Never discipline in anger. There's no single thing I can think of that caused more resentment or contempt towards my parents from me and my siblings than when one was out of control and unable to be reasoned with. 2. Always discipline consistently, and don't tolerate disrespect. Inconsistency breeds contempt. Compel respect for authority figures, and the need for order. 3. Always be willing and able to explain what is expected of them and the reasons for it. When challenged, draw a distinction between disrespect and legitimate questions. 4. Always treat them as much like adults as possible; while there are some things that they can't understand the complexities of until they're older, most things can be simplified to a level that they can understand, even from a very young age. 5. Don't tolerate cowardice. Explain to them that while fear is normal, it's also something that should be overcome. (E.g. If they're afraid of heights, expose them to heights from a young age and push them to get over it.) Similarly, teach them to get over pain and minor injury quickly by letting them play outside and not babying them when they get cuts and scrapes. 6. Teach them to read and to do math as soon as possible. I was reading by two, thanks wholly to my mother's diligence in teaching me as soon as I knew my alphabet. I regard this as the best thing my parents ever did for me. This teaches them to love books, makes learning easier, and opens up an entire world to them much sooner. It really allows them to begin self-development. 7. Regularly play and hang out with them, from birth through adulthood. Every single father-child relationship I have ever seen that I consider successful has ended with a close friendship, particularly during middle/high school. This is, by far, the most effective way to guide children during adolescence; punishments and rewards don't work, but genuine mutual affection allows you to influence their decisions more than anything else will. 8. Teach them to work hard at things. This is a lesson I never learned; virtually everything came very easily for me and I learned to coast, which made learning to work hard difficult when it became necessary. There is little that is more fulfilling than hard work rewarded by accomplishment, and the sooner they learn that, the happier and better their lives will be. 9. Mandate lots of physical activity. Sports, lifting, and running will all be mandatory for both boys and girls. This is valuable for teaching several things, and also teaches them to enjoy exercise, which is an excellent habit. 10. Teach them to follow Christianity. Teach them the reasoning behind an intelligent faith - make them read Aquinas, MacIntyre, Plantinga, & co. in high school, and push them to reason through theology on their own. 11. Provide as many opportunities as possible for them to pursue their interests - music lessons, sports, academic competitions, etc. will all be a priority. 12. Model a strong marriage for them; the primary shaping influence of what is "normal" in a home and in a marriage is the parental example. During high school and college, have frank discussions with them about relationships and marriage. 13. No video games. Give a frank explanation of the neurological problems that video games create. Similarly, no internet until they need it for school, and minimal TV exposure. 14. Teach them to value family.
i think that's most of it. |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:40 PM Author: Twinkling base sex offender Congrats ur not a garbage poster (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095485) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:57 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks 1 10 6 3 4 14 are YUGE. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121046) |
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Date: December 4th, 2021 8:37 PM Author: Startled Azn I stand by all of this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#43560175) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 7:38 PM Author: Twinkling base sex offender Hylomorphism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095472) |
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Date: October 25th, 2018 8:19 PM Author: gaped jap As if I'd ever be in a position to need one. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37095737) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 12:10 AM Author: gaped jap https://files.catbox.moe/mml5it.jpg (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37097363) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 12:48 AM Author: blathering gaping when moon son (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37097610) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:57 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks 89437562948376982473823423 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121048) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:14 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks shouldn't this be "im gay" though??? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121122) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:58 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks As far as the education of children is concerned I think they should be taught not the little virtues but the great ones. Not thrift but generosity and an indifference to money; not caution but courage and a contempt for danger; not shrewdness but frankness and a love of truth; not tact but love for one’s neighbor and self-denial; not a desire for success but a desire to be and to know.
Usually we do just the opposite; we rush to teach them a respect for the little virtues, on which we build our whole system of education. In doing this we are choosing the easiest way, because the little virtues do not involve any actual dangers; indeed they provide shelter from Fortune’s blows. We do not bother to teach the great virtues, though we love them and want our children to have them. But we nourish the hope that they will spontaneously appear in their consciousness someday in the future. We think of them as being part of our instinctive nature, while the others, the little virtues, seem to be the result of reflection and calculation and so we think that they absolutely must be taught. . . . |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 7:59 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks We usually give a quite unwarranted importance to our children’s scholastic performance. And this is nothing but a respect for the little virtue “success.” It should be enough for us that they do not lag too far behind the others, that they do not fail their exams. But we are not content with this; we want success from them; we want them to satisfy our pride.
It is not true that they have a duty to do well at school for our sake and to give the best of their skills to studying. Once we have started them in their lessons, their duty is simply to go forward. If they wish to spend the best of their skills on things outside school — collecting Coleoptera [beetles] or learning Turkish — that is their business and we have no right to reproach them, or to show that our pride has been hurt or that we feel dissatisfied with them. If at the moment the best of their skills do not seem to be applied to anything, then we do not have the right to shout at them very much in that case either; who knows, perhaps what seems laziness to us is really a kind of daydreaming and thoughtfulness that will bear fruit tomorrow. If it seems they are wasting the best of their energies and skills lying on the sofa reading ridiculous novels or charging around a football pitch, then again we cannot know whether this is really a waste of energy and skill or whether tomorrow this too will bear fruit in some way that we have not yet suspected. Because there are an infinite number of possibilities open to the spirit. But we, the parents, must not let ourselves be seized by a terror of failure.
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:00 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks What we must remember above all in the education of our children is that their love of life should never weaken. This love can take different forms, and sometimes a listless, solitary, bashful child is not lacking in a love of life. He is not overwhelmed by a fear of life; he is simply in a state of expectancy, intent on preparing himself for his vocation. And what is a human being’s vocation but the highest expression of his love of life? And so we must wait, next to him, while his vocation awakens and takes shape.
A vocation, an ardent and exclusive passion for something in which there is no prospect of money, the consciousness of being able to do something better than others, and being able to love this thing more than anything else — this is the only, the unique way in which a . . . child can completely escape being conditioned by money, so that he is free of its claims; so that he . . . will not even be conscious of what clothes he is wearing, or of the clothes around him, and tomorrow he will be equal to any privation because the one hunger and thirst within him will be his own passion which will have devoured everything futile and provisional and divested him of every habit learned in childhood, and which alone will rule his spirit. A vocation is man’s one true wealth and salvation. |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 10:07 PM Author: Domesticated galvanic immigrant incel (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121908) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:05 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks sexual conquest/social hypergamy loyalty to family skepticism towards The System cui bono?/Ubi est mea? (edit: Cohen benefits, but the micks and the hicks are worse) GNON / does it fly? physical reality >>>>> lefty ideology at school don't start a bar fight, but never lose one reading is fundamental don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner. |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:07 PM Author: Domesticated galvanic immigrant incel (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121097) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:12 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks yeah 8 is a joke. 2 makes sense to ME because 2 informs 3 in the fundamental text of my personal moral bildung, The Godfather the novel do you think admitting fallibility and foibles as a father is shitlibby and weak? "don't fucking do X, I did X and now I'm a POS wagecuck, I want better for you, etc." |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:39 PM Author: Domesticated galvanic immigrant incel (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121310) |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 12:00 AM Author: Startled Azn Absolutely not. It's perfectly fine, particularly within the context of good parenting - if you're not just a general fuckup, it's not going to ruin your credibility. If you are, then you're fucked whether or not you admit/discuss it (and so are your kids).
You should be able to command respect in other areas. I think it's much harder to command respect when you're physically weak or unable to reason with them. |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:08 PM Author: aphrodisiac pervert box office I would like to read each of these lines as the title of a chapter in a novella
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:10 PM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks contrary to popular belief, I am not, in fact, schizohipster aznfaggit author Tao Lin (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121111) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 11:54 PM Author: Startled Azn Heat is 180^180, but the moral to draw from it is that the titular quote shouldn't be construed to include family, just stuff/jobs. The whole point of the movie - which happens to be my favorite - is that McCauley and Chris both find emptiness without family, while Hanna keeps needing one to be happy - why else would he have three (going on four) divorces - but can't manage to wean himself from the job he loves more, in order to make the family work. EDIT: Hadn't read your above poast that this one is a joke before writing this.
1 is corrosive and will destroy 2, while also encouraging a hedonistic bent; a better revision would contextualize that within marriage. I think sexual dominance/stereotypically "alpha" behavior have their place within (and strengthen) a marriage.
The rest are excellent. |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 12:59 AM Author: curious know-it-all wagecucks McCauley would’ve gotten away if he had stuck by his gf. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37123076) |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 2:29 AM Author: Startled Azn Yes. He should've taken it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37123313) |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 2:32 AM Author: Domesticated galvanic immigrant incel (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37123317) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 8:10 PM Author: Erotic provocative turdskin https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1lFUswrf6yA (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121113) |
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Date: October 29th, 2018 9:48 PM Author: Cerise striped hyena abode ITT: the results of xoxoers having kids (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37121763) |
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Date: October 30th, 2018 12:59 AM Author: Cobalt Motley International Law Enforcement Agency husband of an attachment parent (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4114268&forum_id=2#37123078) |
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Date: November 9th, 2018 1:07 PM Author: Floppy Beta Foreskin Have a bunch of kids with a woman I love.
Try to spend time with them both doing fun things but also teaching them about virtue, practical wisdom, and how to get on in the world.
Put hard limits on stuff like screen time and other addictive behaviors.
Encourage and allow them to take risks by toiling away and being generous -- but also letting them feel the sting of failure. |