I'm a single mom. But I judge single dads.
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Date: April 17th, 2024 3:18 PM Author: Floppy drab church
He was a nice guy, in good shape, and attractive. But he had kids and the judgmental words flew out of my mouth before I could think to soften them: "How was that conducive to fatherhood and a relationship?"
I couldn't stop myself from judging single dads. My ex had also been away with work all the time, leaving me to do the lion's share of raising our two young children. I'd had to adjust my life and work around his work.
It was clear I could never see this guy again. This date was bringing up resentment on behalf of a woman I'd never even met. I ignored his texts to meet up again.
Then there was another guy I got on well with. He was chatty and fun. But he had a daughter who he had 50-50 custody of and saw himself as the stable, less chaotic parent who had clear routines.
Maybe it was true, but I couldn't see beyond the things my ex probably said about me in our custody situation. At the time, I was fighting against losing 50% of my time with my children, and it stirred up panic and loss for me. I never had a second date with that guy either.
Even a single dad who'd moved four hours away from his children and only saw them over school holidays wasn't right for me. What kind of father moves that far away from his kids?
https://www.businessinsider.com/single-mom-dating-men-without-kids-no-fathers-less-complicated-2024-4?utm_source=pocket-newtab-en-us
"If they had equal custody, I felt like they were the enemy — I didn't want to think about my own sons being taken away from me. If they spent less time with their children, I had a negative reaction to that too."
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5518811&forum_id=2#47591067) |
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Date: April 17th, 2024 3:22 PM Author: Floppy drab church Subject: same woman
I took a SWOT analysis with my partner. 8 years later I see how our 'weaknesses' told us we were not going to make it.
https://www.businessinsider.com/a-swot-analysis-predicted-my-relationship-was-going-to-fail-2022-6
But one of the most romantic bonding moments a former partner and I had was a SWOT analysis one month into our relationship. Since about 1,000 miles separated us, we shared a Google doc and compiled our relationship's strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats.
Our list was thoughtful and deep
The "strengths" section made us both a bit mushy. "Being with you brings out the best parts of me, personally and professionally," one of us wrote.
As our No. 1 strength, we listed the career paths that brought us together professionally two years before anything romantic happened; No. 2 was our physical compatibility; and No. 3 was we both believed in punctuality.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5518811&forum_id=2#47591087) |
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