What do you imagine your parents think/feel about you?
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Date: May 7th, 2024 4:26 PM Author: Chestnut spectacular locus patrolman
Dad: I don't think he thinks about me at all. Theoretically if our paths were to cross then there could be some appreciation there and maybe he would be generous or sentimental.
Mom: I don't think she thinks about anyone other than herself. I could never matter to her. She is a vampire. My kids hate her and moan anytime she comes over.
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Date: May 7th, 2024 4:32 PM Author: razzle-dazzle ladyboy
They're typical boomers. On one hand we've never been all that close and now that they're old they're annoyed about that. We generally see each other a few times a year and probably will keep doing so until they pass.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47642715)
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Date: May 7th, 2024 6:42 PM Author: tan bearded giraffe
Dad: anger. pure rage.
Mom: disappointment.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47643192) |
Date: May 7th, 2024 8:57 PM Author: titillating lodge
I know they are crazy impressed w what I've accomplished especially when compared to my siblings
I do know however they will never love or care about me because I am sub 6'
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47643568) |
Date: May 8th, 2024 12:50 PM Author: Arousing Dead Church Weed Whacker
Really went in waves I have to say.
When I was younger and an alcoholic aimless law school dropout in my early twenties I think I probably hit an all time low with my Mom and my Dad - and the feeling was mutual - they were disappointed/ashamed at me and I was angry at them for a variety of reasons. I couldn’t trust them anymore - I took their advice all my life and it screwed me. I came out of school right around the bottom of the GFC.
Almost a decade later? Very different. Sobermo, have my own business, cute girlfriend, a lot of achievements to look back on. They both love me and I’m very lucky.
But they are still boomers - I clash with them on a lot - but there is some understanding now as they’ve seen what happened to this country. A lot of it I write off to age related cognitive decline and Lead exposure as a kid and also ignorance, but that could be a cope.
I think the big changes came when I took over a lot of responsibilities and started making good money at something they told me I could never do. Then I started making good money doing something they couldn’t imagine me doing. It’s frustrating that their opinion of me changed only AFTER I had started seeing a lot of success - but it is what it is.
I’d say I enjoy a relationship with my parents that is better than 8/10 of my peers - and I’m very lucky for it. That said, I won’t ever trust them 100% again - but now I have self determination shouldn’t trust them, I know enough now to realize that their advice and intentions are good, it’s just made for a different time.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47645037) |
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Date: May 8th, 2024 12:56 PM Author: Chestnut spectacular locus patrolman
Interesting perspective. Also, I am genuinely happy for you that you have a solid if not good relationship with them. Family is important.
I found my own self reacting to the part about parents giving poor advice. I think that's true. But I also think we can't hold it against our parents. They don't know any better than you do what is going to work at any given point of time. There needs to be some grace around the giving of advice.
For me personally, when I think about Boomers and their perspective, I can clearly see that a lot of things didn't go well for them. They fucked it up because they are flawed, broken people. They are arrogant and self-aggrandizing in the face of these objective failures too. I don't like it, but as I get older, I can see that for Boomer parents who check themselves out with retirement, they become truly socially irrelevant, and in that space I can begin to feel pity for them, because they are like misled children who know nothing of their surroundings and have no conception of how they are perceived by others.
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Date: May 8th, 2024 12:51 PM Author: crystalline voyeur
you can really just taste the judaism in this thread
as long as im not a serial killer my dad loves me in a stereotypical parent way and is proud of me blah blah blah. im pretty sure i could be packing boxes at costco and he would find some way to be proud of it
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Date: May 9th, 2024 2:18 AM Author: frozen stage jewess
I haven't talked to or seen my parents in decades.
Incredibly my brother has achieved success beyond anyone's dreams- granted we come from a low place but even UHNW friends that we had growing up did not land anywhere near my brother. My father will only ever hear about him in the newspaper or online and- who knows- may experience some regret over walking away from us as children; I do know specifically that he believed we were natural failures and to that effect bought Hooked On Phonics when we were very young as he stated we would have a hard time learning to read.
In my case he may have been correct as I went on to spend 13 years living in a car although frankly I am doing alright now.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47647119) |
Date: May 9th, 2024 3:16 AM Author: Bright disturbing dilemma
My parents are very proud of me, but they resent me for moving to California in the late 90s and haven’t gotten over it because they think I was trying to move away from them. Understandably wrong because I chose my undergraduate school as far away from them as possible because they were super strict growing up, but that’s not why I moved to California.
Things are much better now although there’s still a lot of weird tension because my wife is black and they are closet racists but they also love their only grandchildren.
They actually get along better with my black wife and have more to talk about.
But compared to my brother, I’m the good one.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2...id#47647126) |
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