The truth is that unlike RSF Sr, my old man is a miser. My father is insanely rich and has never done anything to help me financially. This is an incredibly pathetic thing to whine about because a lot of my friends for some reason never even knew their dads and came from nothing and shit. So it's extremely lame to whine about it. But I've been in denial for a long time about just how stingy my ratfuck father is.

Some XO dads like cslg who put millions in the bank for his kids already and they're still in elementary school. My dad would never do fuckall for me. Even my dad's dad did more for him than mine did for me. My grandfather died and left my boomer dad enough money to buy a house. My dad would never buy me a house.

I realize this is one of the most pathetic things ever whined about in the history of Zozo but I have to put it out there to get dunked on. I know many of you grew up in a trailer park and made it all the way to biglaw and financial freedom and shit. I just can't think of one example of anyone in my life who has a rich dad who didn't benefit from it hardly at all. And until recently I was in denial both of how rich he was and of how little he's done for me.

He also is really out of touch like while his kids struggle to survive he spends his money lavishly on his pet dogs, Michelin star dining, trips to Antarctica, and adding gold leaflet trim on his awning. He's obviously enjoying the fruits of his labor. Zero concern for the children. I have friends whose parents have a small fraction of my dad's wealth who have done 10x as much financially for them as mine have. People move heaven and Earth for their kids. Is my old man justified in living it up for himself? Am I undeserving scum? I just can't think of one example anywhere of someone who had rich parents but they didn't lift a finger to help them.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50134954)

will you be getting a significant inheritance? white goyim love stiffing their children and leaving their fortunes to harvard, get their name on a building somewhere for a blip of time

but good for you for realizing where your resentment toward him comes from

nothing to be ashamed about owning these feelings, i would be pissed too.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50134958)

Inheritance is split with my siblings. My sister is an escort with nojerb and she gets more because she's the favorite. My brother is a high school dropout who plays video games all day. I have no idea what he does I try and avoid him. My parents are in good health so I doubt they croak any time soon.

The fortune is vast and it will go into a trust to be doled out in small increments forever.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50134978)

He periodically makes jokes poking fun at himself for never having done anything major for me financially. You can tell it's totally off the table. It's not in his nature and he's never done anything for the other kids either. It's moot.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50136542)

Maybe it's not about the money you spend or a house you build and fill with things. Maybe it's more about sitting in a truck cab on a mountain ridge with the old man, staring out at the valley opening up beneath. Unable to say a thing. Unable to even begin to try to oar yourself across that immense gulf of time and pain. Maybe it's just about giving up and accepting that we're not here forever and sometimes we need to set things down for what's staring back right in front of us.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135021)

But it seems like you're just shifting resentment from RSF to your Dad. You said in your inheritance thread that yours is getting docked because he invested more in you than your sister, so he must've helped you out financially. He also peovided a very financially secure upbringing where you had plenty of opportunity. And on top of that you are still expected to receive a large inheritance. You have no reason to resent him, and resentment is unhealthy even if you did.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50134996)

I exaggerated how much he "docked" my inheritance. It's honestly like nickels and dimes. Yeah he helped me out he gave me a $20 bill for Christmas and shit. It's like a really tiny amount. Lol. Imagine how Jewish you would have to be to keep a spreadsheet of how much you spent on your kids Christmas and birthday presents and then dock their inheritance from that amount.

And yeah his whole ethos about supporting kids was just about giving away free education. Like he "still believes" in helping their kid get a degree. I didn't want to do that. He would never help with buying a home or starting a business, that sort of thing.

But dude I mean I know a guy who bought his teenage son a racing team so he could live out the dream of being a race car driver. And my dad is richer than that guy. That's what's wild. Some people their dads just go crazy trying to give their kids a good life. My dad couldn't be fucked. My cousin's parents gave him shitloads of money. He has a fake job. They just love him so much here you go son have a boatload. Lotta my friends their parents bought them a house or gave them a house. Again in my peer group I'm in last place.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135012)

my friend growing up his parents gave him 2 million dollar house

another friend I grew up with his parents bought him commercial real estate so he could be a property manager and live off the collected rent

cousin's parents bought him a fake business, he ran it into the red, parents just gave him more money to run it (and he stole my girlfriend)

a buddy of mine whose parents have 10% the wealth of mine bought him a house

the list goes on and on. it's an ultra long list. nearly everyone got more. the old man never did shit for me financially. I am thankful that he was in my life and cared about me on an emotional level which is cool I guess.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135084)

It's fine to be annoyed other people got things you didn't or that he's booming while you struggle. It's another to harbor resentment that he didn't just give you a bag of cash when he still set you up to be in the 1% of opportunity in the world.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135117)

I'll lay it out plainly since you're in a self-reflective mood and I hope you won't chalk it up to me just attacking you: you're a hater. You have unjustly negative and uncharitable takes all the time. This often morphs into bitter resentment and excuse making. I think you should work on being positive and take more accountability. That's my POV as someone that knows you pretty well and who wishes the best for you, and I hope you take it in the spirit it's intended.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135147)

RSF did have a job for one year and he quit when he was gifted generational wealth circa age 25. I think it's fair to say that proverbially he never had a job. I highly doubt his biglaw output passed muster.

My sister 100% is an escort and everyone in the family knows about it. She has no work history for 6 years. My mom even met one of her sugar daddies. Everyone knows she's an escort at this point. She is permanently on vacation with no form of employment. My dad believe it or not doesn't give her any dough (I believe him because he's a miser!).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135156)

but he hasn't done much for my siblings either. at least I'm not singled out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135060)

You have mentioned a number of people in your "peer group" that sound like the ultimate fail-sons whose parents do whatever to keep them afloat. And then you seem to suggest that if your dad just gave you some money, that you'd be more successful in some way. I am not convinced this is the case.

To be clear, your dad does sound like a real miser and like a shitlib from what you've described elsewhere. Especially w.r.t. him excusing your sister for basically being a hooker. That said, he does seem to hold you to a much higher standard because you are a man (which is in opposition to his stated shitlib persuasions).

My read is that he actually thinks you've got the juice to make a life for yourself and this may be his way of trying to coax you into doing it. Note that I don't mean he thinks you must make as much $$$ as him, but that you can maek it on your own.

To be fair, I don't really know anything about your backstory and am fairly weak when it comes to understanding bort lore. I also don't agree with the approach that I believe your dad may be taking. But these are my 2 cents.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135422)

Just one nit to pick about my failson peer group which is that just like RSF at a certain point you give a person enough money they're no longer a failure insofar as they are able to afford the life they want and obtain everything their heart desires. Can you really call it a failure if your kid has everything they want?

Ty for acknowledging his maximal austerity probably isn't right for most people and situations. It's a bit over the top.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135464)

TBH yes. In the case of a son, at least. Maybe it's because I'm not a hedonist, but I believe strongly that a rewarding life comes from making something of it yourself and the relationships you forge along the way.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135535)

I think also that someone who is given truly substantial $$$ from their parents will have their own challenges. I like to think that if I were in that sort of situation that I'd do something really "outside the box" with my life. But I won't flatter myself. I think it probably becomes hard to push through the sort of bullshit involved with work, even if you're building a meaningful career, if you know you've got a huge backstop of $$$$$$$ cash.

All this makes me think of Inception and how Saito had them put an idea in the head of Robert Fischer to break up his father's company. And the idea was that this would let Saito's company have total market dominance. In reality, if they were really able to put that idea in Fischer's mind at the deepest level, Fischer would probably go on to be the greatest success his industry has ever seen.

Whereas before he was just some semi-failson of a greater man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135714)

Honestly Trump is one of the few people I can name off the top of my head who started as a "nepo" baby and went to unforeseen heights.

Another pseudo-example is Augustus Caesar, though he wasn't actually the son of Julius Caesar. I still think the example works.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135747)

A person who inherits a bunch of material wealth hasn't failed or succeeded. What defines whether a person has failed is what they do with their life.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135624)

I think a lot of people shit on his accomplishments because they think if they were in his shoes they'd have done a lot more. That's just their own ego and envy talking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135693)

For a guy claiming to have let go of his bitterness re: RSF you seem really geared up to dunk on his accomplishments. But writing a book like most artistic pursuits doesn't require much $. Afaik none of the wordcels here have written a great American novel. I admire that RSF tried and didn't just say "I would have, IF..."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135744)

That said, I guess nobody is entitled to someone else’s money so he can do what he wants with it. I just wouldn’t do that unless the kid was a severe fuckup (and even then I’d probably help them).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5903771&forum_id=2Vannesa#50135882)