She's already betrayed my trust in enormous ways, posted hundreds of emails, private documents, certain elements of my IRL identity, threatened to go absolutely full nuclear, played tons of BPD games antagonizing me. The VM would put into light for the first time the true character of our (post-)relationship and is genuinely shocking and disturbing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173017)

I have a beef with Box, and to a lesser extent I'm having fun on XO soaking in the attention. None of your criticisms speak to me; you are utterly impotent (and feeding into one of my ancillary sub-goals).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173380)

Once he posts it, the deed is done and he's got nothing over her. By posting about it and threatening, he's maintaining control over her and an ability to make her feel scared and anxious.

Once he posts, he gives that up which is why he never will.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173337)

It won't change anyone's opinion of her, but in fact will lower everyone's opinion of you for bringing personal IRL stuff here.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173246)

On my honor, I will literally eat shit on camera if Arkan comes through on this. I swear to God on all that is holy. I will eat a small piece of dog shit if he releases the voicemails by 8:00 EST tonight. I'll be wearing a mask so as not to out myself, but I promise I'll do it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173279)

(i) you obviously still care about her, and it's not a nice thing to do;

(ii) her spreading false messages about you or invading your privacy doesn't justify doing the same to her -- there's no winning scenario in the tit-for-tat game here, so it's best just not to play entirely (and, as a bonus, you get to be the bigger person);

(iii) continued attention on box just validates her and shows her that she's "won" in some way, since (she says, at least) she's okay walking away from you but you're still taking actions based on her (in negotiations of this sort, winner = one who can walk away);

(iv) as others have mentioned, it will prove nothing -- anybody with sense + who has had a BPD GF or two knows approximately what to expect;

(v) there's no reason to do it;

(vi) there's a small but not non-existent risk she will retaliate in some way, which could be irritating.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173386)

you're dishonest, disingenuous, and trying to terrorize us all lol. chill out, get some fresh air

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173443)

i think we can poast alongside each other in peace

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173462)

OK guise, should I publicly release the voice-mails of the girl I've been stalking since we broke up 5 years ago or not? The morality and ethics of this are completely lost on me!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173724)

Meanwhile, you first became a faggot with me because I set out to eject her from the forum for re-intruding into my daily life. That's the opposite of stalking. I'm the anti-stalking police.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173864)

We’re all well aware that Box likely has a very crazy side after breakup. That isn’t news to us. Most females do. Some males do also as this thread proves.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173401)

you're worse than me (nobody's motivated to kill me for my bags)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173747)

stayed at aulani and the ritz-carlton. nice hotels are overrated, imo.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173798)

regarding the nice hotel thing... shitty hotels are depressing. i'm trying to avoid the depressing shit in non-nicer hotels.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44173816)

But since you almost certainly won't do that, I would say that you should not release the voice mails, because it will not benefit anyone if you do. Maybe you will make Box feel slightly embarrassed, but given that she regularly posts racy photos and talks about fucking hundreds of guys while taking a huge amount of abuse on this bort, I doubt she really cares that much. Meanwhile you continue your unhealthy obsession with an ex that you have already admitted is not good for you.

On the other hand, if the other poasters actually do put some money in an escrow account so that you will earn $50K+ by releasing the voice mails, then you should release them. Because $50K is worth more than any emotional damage this will do to either you or Box. Hell, if any other poasters actually put some money in escrow and I were Box, I would send you a couple voice mails to share in exchange for a cut of the profits.

I feel slightly guilty using your mental illness as a form of entertainment. But you sure have given me some great procrastination material today.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5061992&forum_id=2Vannesa#44175441)