By the time they had sex a few months later, Millender had identified Rubin as a man she could have a baby with, at least as a co-parent, if not as a husband. So when the moment came to reach for a condom, she said, she told him he could skip that step.

“You should just know, I’m not on birth control,” she said, then age 39. “And at this point in my life, if I get pregnant, I’m keeping it.”

After that, Millender grew increasingly sure of what she wanted. With the women of her Bed-Stuy book club, she collaged a vision board to inspire her year ahead, pasting a photo of herself and Rubin beside the words “Take Control” and “Lead Him to Greatness.”

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/24/us/ivf-embryos-custody.html

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898416)

By her 30s, Millender figured, a good one would probably show up.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898418)

By the time they had sex a few months later,

By the time they had sex a few months later,

By the time they had sex a few months later,

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898429)

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(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49899053)

“And that’s despite what the Torah says,” the judge said. “Does the Torah say anything about buying them, selling?”

Rubin’s lawyer said that selling the embryos was not his client’s “intention,” and Rubin later told The Times that he “never instructed my counsel to offer the embryos for sale.”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898454)

“There is nothing immoral about choosing life,” Millender responded. “That is always what we said we would do. And I have kept my promise to God.”

“It is potentially life, there is no nefesh,” Rubin said, referring to the Hebrew term for “soul.”

“You know what we agreed and God does too,” she said. “I will leave you to His mercy.”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898460)

Millender didn’t care. Let Rubin accuse her of harassment. Let the lawyers subpoena her doctor and examine her medical records. Her baby was inside her uterus. No ex-husband could change that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898486)

It's not a ridiculous position to think that these embryos are alive / their children / etc. People just don't want to contemplate it because it opens up a lot of other uneasy questions.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898639)

Whatever it takes to have a child, she reminded herself.

Once that procedure was over, Millender said, her doctor explained just how long the odds were: The doctor knew of no cases in which eggs frozen at age 44 had resulted in the birth of a baby.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898667)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898690)

“Go sit somewhere and golf,” she’d told him. “Go climb Machu Picchu.”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898699)

https://www.linkedin.com/in/emillender

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898914)

This stereotype is outdated. Women never wanted kids. They only ever had them because men forced them to have them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898929)

maybe 3-5% of births are from legit loving women globally who wanted the kid for righteous purposes

most people are born the products of prostitution, lust, rape, incest, boredom, vanity, fear or some other life denying purpose like getting welfare benefits or baby trapping a guy for $

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49899069)

Good to see a new poaster around here who is redpilled on women

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49899075)

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Collaged an Inspirational Vision Board tp

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898926)

Millender’s friends accused her of being too picky. She preferred the word “intentional.” She imposed no minimum height or salary requirements, she would remind them.

Translation: At least 6' with a $200k salary or GTFO.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5868737&forum_id=2Vannesa#49898959)