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Very likely will get promoted tomorrow, but the job will suck. What can I do?

Current job (engineering middle management) already sucks --...
Racy Market Gay Wizard
  01/25/26
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Racy Market Gay Wizard
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i've thought about this recently and i would politely declin...
Low-t deer antler
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Show them your penis
Orange Narrow-minded Site Boltzmann
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Extrovert here, meetings are fun and I like the small talk. ...
Orange Narrow-minded Site Boltzmann
  01/25/26
Ask for way more money..if they dont give it to you then say...
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Zippy Meetinghouse
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I dont understand why so many meetings need to occur in a co...
Swashbuckling Sandwich
  01/25/26
I have 1:1s with nine different people Ljl. Lots of engineer...
Racy Market Gay Wizard
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Why do you need to have a 1:1 with everyone every week? Mak...
tantric rose dilemma hissy fit
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Last minute unscheduled meetings (with multiple "stakeh...
Titillating Kink-friendly Sound Barrier Station
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Why can't rising through the ranks spare you from meetings r...
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Date: January 25th, 2026 12:56 PM
Author: Racy Market Gay Wizard

Current job (engineering middle management) already sucks -- I regularly have 6+ meetings a day. Turns out I hate meetings a lot more than codecucking. Both are still terrible.

I'm expecting to get promoted to the next level of middle management tomorrow. Nice title bump and a $20k+ raise, but my meeting load will go up from very miserable to simply intolerable.

The promotion is due to the current person in the new role quitting. Pretty sure she was burned out from the endless meetings. She quit without a new job lined up, which is an indication of how badly she wanted out. That's why I'm not particularly excited about getting the role.

So, if I do get a promotion (98% certain I will), how can I push back against the ridiculous meeting load and not burn out? This isn't the first time I've seen someone burn out in a similar role at my company.

Thanks in advance,

Thanks.

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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:02 PM
Author: Racy Market Gay Wizard



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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:08 PM
Author: Low-t deer antler

i've thought about this recently and i would politely decline. it's just not worth it. i have enough money saved, i'm good at what i do, and i would strongly prefer to keep doing it at my current pay rate than take the risk. unless there is truly life altering money involved, it's all flame, just coast. with that in mind, be straight up with them that the meeting load is a deal breaker and see what they say. you have to be willing to walk away. but whatever they say is probably bullshit, they need someone in that spot and once you're in you're stuck.

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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:11 PM
Author: stimulating lemon antidepressant drug theater



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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:09 PM
Author: Orange Narrow-minded Site Boltzmann

Show them your penis

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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:10 PM
Author: Orange Narrow-minded Site Boltzmann

Extrovert here, meetings are fun and I like the small talk. Especially when I have a good bit and can use it at multiple meetings.

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Date: January 25th, 2026 4:11 PM
Author: stimulating lemon antidepressant drug theater

Ask for way more money..if they dont give it to you then say it’s not a fit

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Date: January 25th, 2026 5:44 PM
Author: Zippy Meetinghouse

Refuse

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Date: January 25th, 2026 5:46 PM
Author: Swashbuckling Sandwich

I dont understand why so many meetings need to occur in a codecucking type job

Are you a project manager & need to constantly keep the h1bs in line or? What is discussed in these meetings for hours where no work is being done?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5826362&forum_id=2most#49618153)



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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:05 PM
Author: Racy Market Gay Wizard

I have 1:1s with nine different people Ljl. Lots of engineering planning meetings going on at the moment for two separate teams. Both teams are partnering with at least two other engineering teams, so there are meetings to coordinate work with the partner teams. And meetings with stakeholders. Plus Agile Scrotum meetings. And frequent last-minute, unscheduled meetings. All this adds up to an average of about five meetings per day.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5826362&forum_id=2most#49618224)



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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:27 PM
Author: tantric rose dilemma hissy fit

Why do you need to have a 1:1 with everyone every week? Make them every 2 weeks.

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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:30 PM
Author: Titillating Kink-friendly Sound Barrier Station

Last minute unscheduled meetings (with multiple "stakeholders"; not just two bros talking through something, which would have been a phone call 5+ years ago) are TTT.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5826362&forum_id=2most#49618295)



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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:17 PM
Author: Titillating Kink-friendly Sound Barrier Station

Why can't rising through the ranks spare you from meetings rather than cause more meetings insofar as you can decline meetings, delegate others to take the meetings for you, delegate others to run the meetings for you; do "where are we on this" emails instead of meetings; double or triple book yourself for meetings and skip one of them/split time between them, and just not show up?

If you're rising through the ranks and not doing all of the above, you're doing it wrong. And doing the above doesn't have to be bad (avoiding work). It can be positive (look how busy he is; look how he empowers his teams).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5826362&forum_id=2most#49618262)



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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:29 PM
Author: Angry tripping alpha dysfunction

Say it wasn’t you.

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Date: January 25th, 2026 6:33 PM
Author: Naked Aqua Patrolman Famous Landscape Painting



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